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Hello. I would really appreciate if anybody had any informed, intelligent answers to this question. I am in a long distance relationship, and tomorrow night I am seeing my boyfriend for the first time in a while, and ONLY for tomorrow night. I would really, really like to not on my period tomorrow night.

However, I'm just about to start it. (Gory details: I can tell because of the, er, coloration, but the actual flow hasn't begun yet and probably won't until sometime tomorrow.) I've heard that taking Advil can delay the start of your period, and I would like to know if I have any chance of making this happen. And if so, how much should I take and how often? Remember, I have about 24 hours. I'm not a teenager and this is serious question. Any advice?

Thank you!

So in university yesterday we had a masterclass given to my class by a professional in our field, and after the class he went out to the pub with us. Things were fine at first--he kept on buying us all drinks--but then as he got more and more drunk it began to make me feel a bit uncomfortable that he didn't seem to have a place to stay that night (as his friend had bailed on him) and he kept on saying he was going to stay with one of us. He also put his arm around me once and called me beautiful. At the end of the night, it was me, him, my brother who is visiting, and a couple of male friends of mine. This guy (married, 10 plus years older than me, and with kids) said, without asking me, "I'm sleeping with you tonight." (nice choice of words, eh?) This made me uncomfortable and I really didn't want him to stay at my house (with me, my brother, and two female and one male housemate) so I tried to get the only other friend who could possibly have taken him in to (a close male friend) to get him off my hands. This friend basically thought I was being silly, had to go help someone else (a girl he's into) with something. He said that he was harmless and drunk, he had no place to stay, was married, could get me a job, wanted me to deal with my own problems instead of wanting other people to fix them for me (a running issue between us), and, "You know how to say, no, don't you?" Kept on saying that he wasn't going to rape me, etc. I kept on asking him to help me but he was already trying to help (this girl) with another guy and couldn't.

I tried to explain to him that, no, I didn't think he was going to rape me, but that one of the first things you're taught as a female is, if a man is making you feel uncomfortable, to remove yourself from the situation, no matter how silly you think it may be. That I was coming to him as a close male friend for help.

Eventually, my brother got him to not stay at my place so he was off my hands. But my brother also said that if he had done to any of his female friends what my male friend had done to me, it would have jeopardized if not destroyed their friendship. My friend kept on brushing it off because he had another girl feeling uncomfortable with a guy to think of...I don't know. Am I right to be mad at him?

I'm an American studying at drama school in the UK, and I'm looking for a contemporary English play (preferably comedic) with at least one young female character that I could possibly use a monologue from. I'm asking the people around me for suggestions too, but since I'm not very familiar with modern English theatre I thought I'd hit all my bases. So, any ideas would be greatly appreciated!

(Basically, anything that has any female character from mid/late teens to early thirties or so.)

So I am a self proclaimed idiot, and some water spilled on Macbook (13 inch, late 2008) last night. Obviously I wiped off the water as fast as I could, and I've been looking up other people's questions when things like this happen, and it seems that mine has been faring better than most in the other cases I've read about: as in, it still turns on and seems to be alright when it's on (though it's been off for most of the past 12 hours, I just turned it on twice to check on it.)

The only thing that doesn't seem to be working is the battery. When I had spilled the water on it last night, it was about 75% full, but then a few minutes later it shut down as if it had died, and when I turned it back on all of a sudden it was down to like 1%. Now, although it won't turn on unless I have it plugged in, it tells me that the battery isn't charging. I only now just figured out how to remove the battery, so I'm going to do that.

Will any semi-knowledgeable person be able to tell me, from what I've just described, if my hunch is right? That is, that the computer will make it, I just might need a new battery? And if there's anything else I need to do other than not really use it for a couple of days? Thanks a lot!

When I was in London last year, I discovered this wonderful Greek yogurt, honey flavored, made by the Sainsbury grocery store chain. I've never been so crazy about yogurt, but this was so different from any other yogurt I've ever had and it was SO GOOD. Now back home in NYC, I've tried a few different brands of Greek yogurt (honey flavored and not), but none of them taste anywhere near as good as Sainsbury's. Does anyone, British or American, know of a brand of yogurt they sell in the US that has a comparable taste?

Thanks a bunch!

This is long and complicated so I'll try to keep it brief. My boyfriend and I have been exclusive for about seven months, dating for a few months before that, and we've known each other for almost four years. We're both in our early twenties, and are in a long distance relationship.

Earlier this week, I told him that I wanted to take a little break to think about some stuff, mostly on how he acts towards me when he's drunk. (Not physically abusive or anything, he can just become a mean drunk-and he calls me when drunk, all the time, and is very hard to deal with in that state.) I wanted to take just a few days to think, talk to some of my friends to get their advice, gather my thoughts to see how I wanted to deal with this, etc. In addition, I'm going through a hugely busy end-of-the-semester rush and barely have enough time for myself, let alone listen to my drunk boyfriend be stupid and mean on the phone.

So, one evening last week I told him that I wanted a break, just to think. He didn't seem very concerned-I had mentioned to him a few days earlier that I might want a break, and as he had wanted a break at one point, and thought it only fair that I want one at some point too, I didn't think it would be a big deal. When I told him, he was kind of like, "Okay, so I'll talk to you later!" Meanwhile, I was thinking that this was kind of serious (this being mean when drunk thing really got to me), but I basically said whatever and let that slide.

Within a few hours, he was texting me that he missed me already, etc. I thought that was cute, but I still wanted a break, was in the middle of talking with my friend about it, and had a paper to write on top of it all...so I figured I'd just call him the next day.

However, he was-you guessed it-drunk, and the cute text messages turned into a million calls (none of which I picked up.) I did text him, though, telling him that I wanted a break for a night, that I was doing my paper, that when he wanted a break I let him have one, to please respect my space, and so on. None of it seemed to be getting through to him, he was being his usual stubborn drunken self. Like when I told him that I'd call him the next day, he said "I won't pick up, don't let karma come get ya" and all this other stupid stuff about karma and how he won't pick up. Like, really?! I was really upset and eventually answered one of his calls, demanding whether he was listening to me or not. He said, "Fine...have it your way," and hung up. Well, duh, I've been saying that I wanted a break! That was what I wanted!

When I asked him about it the first chance I got (a few days later), I said, "I was saying that I wanted space! And you called me constantly! What were you thinking?!" He said, "I was thinking that I wanted to talk to you, sorry, I won't ever do that again." Then, "What if I want a break right now?" And I said, "Okay..." to which he quickly said, "Then you have to respect that!" and hung up. (Of course, he called me again later wanting to talk like he usually does.) He was all stubborn and sarcastic. Arghhhh! This is a very abbreviated version of the story, but am I crazy for thinking like this, or was I too mean?

Alright so I'm worried about my boyfriend because I think he might be an alcoholic. A little background information: We're both in our early twenties and in a long distance relationship (about seven hours away from each other when I'm away at school, four/five hours away when I'm at home.) So, I don't get to see him all that often (once a month or so, maybe once every two or three weeks if we're lucky.) We've been together for five months, though I've known him for well over three years.

Reasons why I think he might be an alcoholic:

-He goes out and drinks with his friends ALL the freaking time. Like, several days a week.

-Sometimes, when he doesn't go out with his friends, he'll drink by himself, alone in his house. When I've asked him about this, he says that he thinks it's fun to do household-y things like make spaghetti and clean dishes while being drunk. He also told me once that he doesn't need people to drink with if he wants to drink-he's very independently minded.

-The time I do spend with him he often wants to pick up alcohol each night. Now, while I do like to drink and go out and party sometimes, I definitely don't like to do it all the time, and I don't think I have the physical stamina to do it as often as he does.

-He really doesn't have a lot of control over how much he drinks, and he will often drink to the point where he doesn't remember half the night. He doesn't do this on purpose, but he doesn't seem to have any boundaries and doesn't seem to be able to stop himself.

-I also don't like him most of the time when he drinks, especially when he gets extremely drunk...he does stupid things, and sometimes hateful things. (Stupid such as kicking a trash can into the middle of a New York City street near where I live, just because he can. Hateful because he's said some very mean things to me while drunk that he's had no recollection of whatsoever the next morning. He's never physically hurt me, of course.)

He knows that I have a problem with his drinking, but like I said, he's extremely independent and immediately rebels whenever he feels like anyone's trying to change him and/or tell him what to do or how to lead his life. He says it makes him feel like I'm his mother when I try to talk to him about this stuff, and it turns him off.

We've talked about it, and he's gone through periods where he hasn't drank but he always goes back to it. He knows I think he has alcoholic tendencies and that I don't like it. I think some of it might be because he's going through a difficult time in his life-he's unemployed, can't find work, and is trying to find a job that will enable to him to finish college. His mom is being really hard on him about it, and I wonder if he's relieving stress or fear and is trying to escape a little bit.

It just kills me cause I care about him a lot and he is like legitimately full on in love with me (I'm almost positive he is, and I'm not being narcissistic), and he is SO good...he has so many aspirations and so much he wants to do, and it breaks my heart that he spends what little money he has (and owes me!) on alcohol because he is SO much better than that. I know, however, that if his drinking continues to this extent without him showing any real signs of change, I will need to break up with him, no matter how much it breaks my heart to do so. Please...what do you think? Is he an alcoholic? What should I do? We're trying to plan a visit for this coming week, if that means anything. And sorry, I know this is a book...

So my boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship, and we haven't properly spoken for about a week. At first I had been trying to get in touch with him for a couple of days, then he told me he had gone on a vow of silence for a bit (just...don't ask), so we tried to find time to talk online, which didn't always work out...THEN, he didn't tell me when he began talking again, I only found out when he told me when I finally snagged him online. When I asked him why he hadn't called me to tell me he was talking again, he said he had been busy and stuff...okay, fine...

The thing is, we'd been talking about the possibility of him coming to visit me tomorrow, and I need to know-it affects what I do today and tomorrow morning. He had told me online that he would let me know yesterday, he never called me, I finally called him last night and he said that he was at a party. I then told him to please call me back later that night, I didn't care what time. I then fell asleep, woke up a few hours later with no call from him, and so I left him a few text messages basically telling him that I was really annoyed and that I NEEDED to hear from him. This morning, his phone is off.

My guess is that he got drunk at the party/fell asleep/his phone died/etc. But I've been trying to call him and text him for the past week and I've gotten close to zero responses! (Whereas last week, for example, we talked all the time.) I don't mind if we don't talk everyday or whatever, but when he doesn't respond to any of my attempts for almost a week...and I haven't seen him for a month...arghhh!!! It's so frustrating!!! And I NEED to know if he's planning on coming tomorrow! UGHHHHH I'm REALLY annoyed at him, i can't imagine he couldn't find three minutes to call his girlfriend and let her know whether he plans on traveling across three states to visit her in a couple of days!

Any words of wisdom...?

(I'm 20, he's 21 by the way. And no, I seriously doubt that he's cheating. Just...being annoying.)

Okay, so I'm in a bit of a complicated situation, so please bear with me:

I'm 20 (21 in a month and a half), a junior in college, and I've been together with my first boyfriend for about four months. I've known him for about three and a half years, however, and so have my parents. We've been mostly platonic for that time, though not completely, and it was this summer that we really became romantically involved. My parents know none of this, and only know him as my friend.

Thing is, it's a long distance relationship, seeing as he lives about 4-5 hours from my home and 7-8 hours from my school. I don't get to see him all that much, and when he visits me at school my parents have no idea. However, some of the time that I do get to see him is when I'm home on vacations, and he comes to stay over as my "friend" looking for jobs where I live (NYC), and he sleeps "on a mattress on my floor." (Of course, he does no such thing, he sleeps in my bed with me.) And here the problems arise.

Pros to telling my parents about our real relationship:

-No more secrets--I'm a really good liar, but I feel like this whole situation is getting too deep, the longer they think he's my friend and the longer he actually ISN'T.

-My brother wants me to tell our parents because there have been times when I've gone off to see him for a few days and they think I'm somewhere else closer by, and what if there was an emergency or something? It's actually cutting into me and my brother's relationship, he thinks I'm doing a very wrong thing.

Cons:

-I'm a legal adult. There's really no NEED for my parents to know my business and I can easily see my dad playing the "you're under my roof" card, which I don't believe is fair.

-I feel (and my friend who's known my parents almost as long as I have agrees) that if they were to know, he wouldn't be allowed to sleep in my room with me. Now, if I got to see him all the time that wouldn't be too a big of a deal, but remember-long distance relationship-I DON'T see him all the time, and that would be cutting into the time we have together.

-It'd be hell--my mom would freak out and wanna have lots of girl talks (she has no idea about my personal life), my dad would freak out even more, get angry, and probably not want this to continue anymore.

-I'd have a hell of a time convincing my parents to let me go see him whenever I'm home, and probably would have to lie anyway.

I don't have a very close relationship to either of my parents (the only family member who knows is my brother), and if I didn't live at home this wouldn't be such a big deal, but I do and it is, and I'm getting deeper and deeper into this. One possibility is telling my parents that something non platonic JUST occurred between us, and hasn't been going on this whole time. That wouldn't solve the problem of being able to visit him, however. Like I said, I've known him for a long time, and I really care about him and this relationship is important to me-I'm not going to cause conflicts over some silly teenage crush or something, I mean.

Soooo...sorry this was so long...any words of wisdom?

So, I'm a college theater major, and I'm in a show this weekend that my boyfriend (long distance relationship) was supposed to come to. He lives in Boston, I'm from New York City and go to school in upstate NY. He was supposed to take the bus from Boston to NYC, and meet my parents/brother there and drive up to my school with them. What actually happened was...

The last time I had any contact with him was night before, after the show (he was supposed to come to last night's performance.) He was hanging out and drinking with some friends, and I was going out too, so I was gonna call him back in a few hours so we could talk directions. Couple of hours later, at 1/1:30 AM, I started to call and text him, but he never answered. I assumed he was still hanging out or asleep, so I left him a text message with instructions on how to meet my parents and went to bed.

From 10-2 yesterday, I was in a program thingie, but I still hadn't heard from him, so I was calling and texting him every chance I got to see where he was, if he had gotten on the bus, etc. Still no answer, and I began to get worried.

When I got out of the program, I called my parents, who hadn't heard from him like they were supposed to, and i began to get very nervous and started calling his house phone. Nobody was picking up there either, and I was beginning to get quite worried, even leaving his mom a message asking if she knew anything. I figured that even if he had lost his phone or something, he would have tried to contact me online (which has happened before, and he's done that before), but I didn't have any messages from him, so the only conclusion I could come to was that he wasn't okay. I really didn't think that he would be okay, not have come, and not have contacted me at all.

Finally, as my parents and my brother left NYC to come see the show (an hour and a half after they were supposed to have met him, with me freaking out), I decided to try calling his house one more time. This time, his mom picked up, said she had just walked in, and- "Oh! He's in his room! Here, I'll put him on with you!"

She put me on the phone with him. It was obvious he had just woken up (at 3:30 in the afternoon at this point), and the story wasn't too hard to figure out: he had been out drinking, gotten extremely drunk, passed out and slept through everything. Not even letting me know what was going on, something that I really thought he wouldn't do.

Obviously, I was extremely mad and upset and I freaked out for about fifteen minutes on the phone about how mad I was with him and how scared I had been, only to find out that he had been SLEEPING THE WHOLE TIME, in his bed in Cambridge, an hour and a half after he was supposed to have met my parents in the BRONX, how he's also blown his shots with looking good for my parents, etc.

Then I basically had to hang up to go get ready to perform. I did the show, had a really fun cast party, etc. I haven't called him or texted him or anything, and I don't plan to for the next couple of days. If he contacts me first, I'm not sure what I'll do. He already sent me an message last night when I was at the show just saying :*( but that's it.

Any words of advice on how to go about this? It'll be okay in a few days, but right now I'm just really mad at him and disappointed with him, and he's got some making up to do. Any ideas on how to deal with this?

Alright, so my boyfriend and I have been going out for two months. We were kind of seeing each other for about three months before we became official, and we've known each other for about three and a half years. I'm 20, he's 21, I'm a virgin, he's not. We've done basically everything except intercourse, because I don't feel sure that I'm ready and I want to be positive that I'm ready before I take that step, especially cause this would be my first time. Before I really explained to him my girl-losing-virginity-fears, he told me a couple of times that he would like to have sex with me, and I always said no. He's never pushed me to, nor will he ever. After I explained to him my fears in more detail, he did his best to understand and has no problem waiting for me when/if I'm ready.

He's also in love with me. Like, honest to God in love with me. I'm not in love with him. I really like him, but I know that right now I don't love him. However, I feel it's possible that I might begin to love him someday. As my feelings for him have gotten deeper and stronger, I've begun to consider more seriously the thought of taking that final step and having sex with him. I really like him, I like his company and he makes me feel good and special, and he loves me and respects me. However, I'm kind of scared that I'm moving into all this all too fast, because he's:

My first boyfriend

First guy I've had sexual experiences with

First guy to love me

etc.

And we've only been going out for two months, though like I said, we've known each other for a while. (Though I feel that I never really GOT to know him until the past few months.) If I decided to have sex with him sometime within the next couple of months or so, do you guys think that would be moving too fast and too much? I wonder if I just feel like going this far because he's been my first everything, pretty much. I'm worried that I just feel like I might wanna take this step because he's the first one who's ever really cared about me like this, and I'm older than most girls are in deciding whether to have sex with their first boyfriend. (I'm not a teenager.) What do you guys think?

Alright, so my boyfriend and I have been going out for two months. We were kind of seeing each other for about three months before we became official, and we've known each other for about three and a half years. I'm 20, he's 21, I'm a virgin, he's not. We've done basically everything except intercourse, because I don't feel sure that I'm ready and I want to be positive that I'm ready before I take that step, especially cause this would be my first time. Before I really explained to him my girl-losing-virginity-fears, he told me a couple of times that he would like to have sex with me, and I always said no. He's never pushed me to, nor will he ever. After I explained to him my fears in more detail, he did his best to understand and has no problem waiting for me when/if I'm ready.

He's also in love with me. Like, honest to God in love with me. I'm not in love with him. I really like him, but I know that right now I don't love him. However, I feel it's possible that I might begin to love him someday. As my feelings for him have gotten deeper and stronger, I've begun to consider more seriously the thought of taking that final step and having sex with him. I really like him, I like his company and he makes me feel good and special, and he loves me and respects me. However, I'm kind of scared that I'm moving into all this all too fast, because he's:

My first boyfriend

First guy I've had sexual experiences with

First guy to love me

etc.

And we've only been going out for two months, though like I said, we've known each other for a while. (Though I feel that I never really GOT to know him until the past few months.) If I decided to have sex with him sometime within the next couple of months or so, do you guys think that would be moving too fast and too much? I wonder if I just feel like going this far because he's been my first everything, pretty much. I'm worried that I just feel like I might wanna take this step because he's the first one who's ever really cared about me like this, and I'm older than most girls are in deciding whether to have sex with their first boyfriend. (I'm not a teenager.) What do you guys think?

Hi! I'm auditioning for Measure for Measure this year, and I'm having a hard time figuring out whether it would be best for me to do a serious or a comedic Shakespearean monologue for the audition. As far as I can determine, Measure for Measure is classified as a problem play or a dark comedy...so it's basically neither here nor there. Does anyone have any advice on whether a comedic or a serious monologue would be best to use for this particular play, and if so, any ideas about some not overdone ones that might work? When I was thinking I was going for a more serious slant, I was going to do a monologue from King John, but now I'm not so sure...