MaggieMae

I had to go home because my mother-in-law died just before Easter. At that time, I had lunch with my parents. They TOLD me they were coming to visit us. I asked when and they said they didn't know around the 4th of July. I am angry because they didn't ask if we had plans, nor did they ask if it was ok. Last time they were here, for 2 days and stayed in a hotel. It was during Super Bowl. My parents left during halftime. I asked them to stay with us and they said no. The electricity at their hotel didn't work when they got there and I told them what do you want me to do about it.

They are always invited to stay with us because they only stay for a day or two but not telling me or asking me is ridiculous. They will not be able to get a hotel room during 4th of July because there are many high profile trials going on where I live and out of town guests come for the Summer. This has all been explained to them. They keep saying don't worry about it, it's more than a month away. I have to clean my house to my mother's standards, they can't just pop in and out. Besides that is incredibly rude for anyone to do. My home is not large enough to accomodate guests. We only have two chairs in our living room.

Yet, I am willing to give up my bed for them.

I am not given the same courtesy when I go visit my childhood home. I have to stay in a hotel and make special arrangements to visit them and cannot even see my home because my sister and her husband own it and lives with them now and doesn't want my husband and I there at all!

My father is elderly and so is my mother. He has a heart valve replacement and I worry about him driving all this way for a one day visit. What if something happens to them? I have tried to explain to them that they were crossing a boundary that I was not willing to let be crossed but they don't get it.

They are selfish. They say don't worry you dont' have to be a tour guide for us, we know our way around where you live. They have only been here 3 times and each time was for a day or two at best and got lost.

What would you do? I keep pressing for more information from them but it doesn't seem to get me anywhere.

Help please!

When we moved in I had the last photos of my grandparents and my mother and father, now they are no where to be found. I find it awfully suspicious that his kids and his mother and father are everywhere and not one of my family exist. He is too happy with the shredder. He pretended to help me look for them. I know I am not loosing my mind. What should I do? He also has photos his son sent him with his gf when they went camping that he never told me about. He always is quick to grab the mail. I think he is messing with me because he doesn't like my family. My husband is very controlling. Pls help. P.S. he is a retired policeman and he acts like he is still on the job.

I never really had much contact with her. In fact, we don't talk. Her mother and father don't let me see her. I think I have seen the girl maybe six times in her whole life. When my husband and I send gifts we don't get a thank you or anything.We now live 2,000 miles away from her. She doesn't even speak to us on the phone. She is 17 and should know what is right to do. Her parents will probably send us a "notice" just to get a gift. Should she get a gift? If so, what?

This person is the last link to my grandmother's people on my mother's side. She has NEVER asked for financial help. However she is almost 80 and takes the bus every where. My husband and I can afford to send her an extra $50 a month to help her. I just don't want her to feel like we are feeling sorry for her because we don't, it's out of love.

We sent her some over the Holidays and are considering making it a monthly gift. She has no children, has never married and does not drive a car.

I know she really could use the money to buy groceries or pay a bill.

What do you think? She lives 2,000 miles away from us.

The receipe I am making calls for a RED wine sauce. I am allergic to sulfates. Does anyone know of a substitute for the red wine to make it taste similar?

They never told you and gave it to your sister instead. Would you feel slighted? By the way my parents also gave their house to her and her husband, which my sister pays nothing for. How would you feel? Everything is always a secret. When they visit me they have nothing nice to say and can't wait to leave. I live 3,000 miles away. I feel like I have no one, no family. I want to cut them off but it is difficult because the bible says honor your mother and father. What would you do?

I have been with his father now 7 yrs, married 6. We all lived together the first year. I made sure he had homemade cookies, holiday food (Thanksgiving and on Christmas he couldn't wait for dinner and ran off in a huff to his mother's). I have done everything for him. I make sure my husband calls him, gets him nice gifts for him and his grandson for birthdays and holidays.

Yet, he sends gifts only to his father - never to me! My birthday is next week and I won't even get a card.

He couldn't bother coming to our wedding/dinner. He said he had to work. I realize he has only one mother but his parents have been divorced for quite some time. There was another wife before me.

My step-son just bought his first house and he so badly wanted his father to go and see it. He lives in another state than us. My husband who is in his 60's and diabetic drove himself. I couldn't go because I had doctors appts that could not be changed.

He has a new live in gf who I am supposed to make nice with and make her feel like part of family. I really feeling like throwing up.

She calls my husband by his first name like he is some co-worker. She doesn't know him. She has bought all the furniture for the house, she picked it out. She wants to get her hooks into my step-son because he is a good dad and her "clock" is ticking. I find her to be a bit brash and rude on the phone.

However, I send her gifts also to make her feel "special". All of them have Nov. birthdays - my grandson, her and my step-son. Our home taxes are due then. Right after that is Christmas. Don't they realize what a financial strain it is for us?

I say if he can't acknowledge me after 7 years, let me my husband do everything. This way no one will ever get a gift again. My husband makes me choose my own birthday gifts because he doesn't know how to use the computer!

What would you do - continue to play nice, or leave it up to my husband? If feel like telling my step-son how I feel, that he hurt my feelings but I don't think it will do any good. He is old enough to know better. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree sort of thing.

He went to the Dr to get Viagara but won't have sex with me? I don't think he is having an affair. He is also very grouchy. Is it just because he is getting older. He is 18 years older than me. I asked him time and again to remember what it was like to be 40 something. He refuses to take any time off his job. If he does it is only one day and then we don't go far from home. I didn't even have sex my wedding night! His ex-wife used to do things to him nightly and now he has an 11 year old with a 40 yr old woman. He likes younger women but he wants all the pleasures. I don't know what to do?

I am gorgeous, generous and have an individual flair. I buy everyone the best gifts. However, no one ever knows what to get me or bother. I always feel so left out. I was born on a Friday morning at 7:45am under a Full Moon. Does any of this make sense.

I have never had a birthday party in my entire life. My sister got a huge wedding and 3 showers, I got a check for $100. I am not complaining it's just irritating that I feel like no one even cares about me.

I have it this way because I worked too hard to keep my good credit. My husband's ex-wife has a name that is very similar to mine and she has terrible credit. So, when we got married my husband agreed it was ok to keep my name.

My step-son has a new gf that is living with him and I try to treat her with respect and part of the family. She sends everything to our house with my husband's last name. Would it be impolite to correct her. I want my name and if I am the one sending the gift I want it spelled correctly. She doesn't need to know why, she just need to know that I have a different name. My step-son knows this and I am surprised he did not tell her. Am I wrong?

Everything I send my step-son with his last name on it, he sticks in a closet or gives it back to us, so why should I be treated any differently?

What would you do?

My husband is retired and gets a very good pension, along with Social Security, he also has a part-time job. Our only expenses are our mortgage which is very little and two car payments, along with electric and stuff everyone else has. Our taxes are next to nothing because of where we live. I make $1,000 a month at my part-time job. My husband takes at least 750-800 of it every month. I don't feel this is fair. We don't have children in the home and he promised to put aside some of his pension for me should he die - he didn't do it. I have no savings and he has all the money. I have asked him several times where is all the money he shows me the bills but it still doesn't seem to add up? If he spends $200, I end up spending another 6 or 7 to get things fixed around the house correctly. He doesn't even know what to buy me for my birthday. We have been married 7 years. Divorces in my state cost 7 or 8,000 which I obviously don't have. I would divorce him but he is my 4th husband and I put a lot of money into my house and I won't just walk away with nothing. What would you do?

I sent my step-son's live in girlfriend a necklace. They have been dating since November. My step-son said they have been arguing alot so I wanted to give her some attention. They both work crazy hours and my step-son tends to stay with his male friends on his free time. I didn't want her to feel left out. She mailed me a Thank You Card even before she got the gift. I feel like sending her a book on etiquette. Am I wrong?

How would you live your life if you had no family, no husband, no kids, no pets and had a mental illness that caused you to live solely on SSD. Not much money. Only about $900 a month total to live on.

I know someone who is like this and don't know what to tell them. What state is cheapest or even how to live. They are very intelligent and functional but cannot work because of mental disabiity - bipolar with borderline personality disorder. They have a difficult time relating to other people and work is impossible. Too much stress. Cannot get along with co-workers. This person gets fired from every job they have attempted.

Any suggestions? Getting a roomate is out of the question. Person does not trust anyone, especially strangers.

My step-son just purchased his first home and asked his father and I to come and see it. We live 3,000 miles away. My husband is 64 yrs old. He refuses to fly. He drove all the way to his son's house by himself because I have serious health issue that I could not miss my appointment for.

Now, my step-son tells me that he wants to marry this girl he has known only 5 months. My husband is telling me that it is very difficult for him to drive all this way when calls me. I told him I do not want to go to the wedding. His father and I were married six years ago. His son was invited to our small wedding and dinner. He refused to come. His son also said to me that he only talks to people when he wants something otherwise he has no use for them to my face. His biological mother comes from money and spoils him. We do not have as much. All of a sudden his son is being so nice to me because he wants his dad there.

I have no problem with his dad being at his wedding. I refuse to go. This man (step-son) has never respected me in the 7 years I have known him. I have bent over backwards to make things pleasant for him when visits us. I told his father he will HAVE to fly and get someone to take him to the airport because I cannot drive that far - it is almost 2 hours from our house and very congested with construction.

I feel very disrepected and do not want to go. Am I wrong? His parents have been divorced over 14 years. There was another wife before me which my step-son absolutely hated. I feel he is still wishing his parents were together. I also feel he is taking out his anger on the wife before me that split up his parents marriage.

What type of gift should I (We/my husband and myself) send since I have no intention of ever going to this wedding? We don't have a lot of extra money. My husband is retired and so am I. This would be my step-son's first marriage. He also has a six year old son by another woman. All of his friends are getting married or living with someone. So now that he is 30 he feels that he should do the same. One of his friends had a baby, a large wedding they could not afford and a honeymoon to Hawaii that they could not afford. I don't want to see my step-son fall into the same financial problems. I only hope his biological mother has explained all this to him. So, in short what gift do we send?

I am a nurse, but live in a different state. I don't work at the hospital where my father is getting his aortic valve replaced. When I moved out of state my parents put my sister and her husband on their deed to their home cutting me out altogether. I don't talk to my mother, only when I absolutely have to. My sister and I don't speak at all. Whenever I do go home to visit they stick me in a ratty motel.

Because my father "might" die all of a sudden, they want me to come home. They will pay for the plane ticket. I don't want to go because they will just gang up on me because I will be without my husband. They want me to stay for a month.

I cannot leave my dogs in a kennel for a month, 1) it's cruel 2) my dog doesn't eat if I am not there, she's gets very sad.

My husband is going home (driving by himself) he is 64 at the end of the month that my father who is 67 is getting his surgery. My husband is going home to see his son who just bought a home. This has nothing to do with me and I'm not going.

My family was here in Feb. and all they did was complain how they hated it here. My mother told me how much she hated my husband and made my father leave during half time of the SuperBowl to go back to their motel.

These people hate me. My mother is manipulating me to feel bad if I don't go. If my father dies there is nothing I can do to stop it. I will never get along with my sister because of this deal with my parents house behind my back.

What would you do? I want t stay with my dogs and where I am comfortable. My father knows I love him more than life itself. I talk to him on the phone every day! I just cannot and will not travel to a place where I don't fit in just to make it look good for everyone else.

I just don't want to stress my father out. He needs to rest before his operation next month. I really don't know what to say so they (my family - mother mostly) won't be p.o.'d.

I know men and women have cheated since the beginning of Earth. However, doesn't it seem odd that everyone has "Tigeritis" all of a sudden. First Tiger Woods, then Jesse James, Tiki Barber, ordinary husbands, including mine! Why all of a sudden are people cheating on their spouses? It feels like the world has gone bonkers. Any opinions? Please don't say they cheat because they can. That is a boring old answer. I want a fresh opinion please.

I am getting a large tattoo on Wednesday and it is a piece of art that I got permission to use. The owner of the shop said he would do it. He gave me a really reasonable price. How much do I tip him because he is the owner?

I have never used paypal and would like to know specifically how to set up an account, so that I can buy stuff on eBay etc.

I'm sorry but I'm just not that technologically advanced.

Please answer step by step thank you.

Last summer I bought a pair of Sydney Love Sunglasses (black wayfarer style with a cute little crystal heart in the left corner). The inside of the glasses has red hearts on the bows. They got scratched and now I am looking endlessly to find a replacement pair of Sydney Love Sunglasses. Computer says Endless.com has them but they don't. Does anyone know where I can get a pair. I am desperate, they are my favorite. Please help if you can.

I am. Everyone is innocent until guilty. However, she got a court appointed lawyer because she could not afford one. Then, they hired all these experts to save her. Well, I'm sorry she should be stuck with the jerk they gave her even if he never tried a murder case before. It makes me sick that her mom and dad are going on a cruise paid for with money from CBS and their house is being foreclosed on. I say bulldoze the house. No one is going to want to buy it. It's too famous an address. As far as me being a tax payer I don't feel it is fair to the other inmates that are on death row right now that we should pay for Casey Anthony. Also, what about the precedent this is going to set. Everyone is going to want special treatment. I say get the trial started, stop the nonsense and send her to Stark. Aileen Wournos did not get special treatment and she was mentally unstable. Casey Anthony does not appear to have such defects, just cruelty and meanness.