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I tend to hear that apparently most people know by two years whether they want to marry the person or not.

Do you think this is true for most men?

If a man was happy in his relationship, would he automatically propose after two years?

If he didn t, does that mean something is wrong?

What about if he claimed he wants to be financial stable before doing that? I mean on the one hand it makes absolute sense to be logical about it, on the other hand people also tend to say that when a man really wants to marry a woman he will just go for it and propose. "aka I know we don t have a lot between us but I also know I want to marry you" etc

We are coming up to our two year anniversary and people are starting to ask questions - you know the kind. I literally had a client come in after some months of being abroad and he asked me "so, are you married yet?"

Uhhh, I m not even engaged FFS.

I am 25 and he is 29 and I get that you need money to be married etc but I don t really care about a fancy ring at this point, I just want what it symbolises (bonus points given for a ring though, ofc, let s be real)

If we got engaged now, we could spend the next year or two planning and saving. Personally I d elope if I have to, he wants a small outdoors ceremony so it would definitely not be expensive.

We are both in low-paid jobs anyway so I really don t think that one day we are going to end up with a tonne of money.

What do you think?

So my partner is now the insecure one constanrly seeking validation from me and I am pretty sure its due to professional success recently that lead to a boost in my confidence.

I noticed yesterday his need for validation annoyed me for the first time (hes been slightly needy for the past week) and as a result I was a bit distant.

I went through a similar needy phase not long ago and he dealt with it like a champ so I dont want to hurt him but I also don't want to put all the focus back on him to the point where I'm neglecting myself which is what I tend to do when I get insecure.

How do I restore some kind of balance?

I hate seeing my man insecure especially since I would personally put a ring on it today so his insecurity is not based reality (as is usually the case)

Any tips?

I am 25 yo and I recently obtained an LLB. I have worked the past 2 years at a startup law firm where I have gained valuable experience and where I have done a hell of a lot of work as I started off as the PA of the head lawyer and worked my way up to Associate.

The thing is, I make minimum wage, barely live pay check to pay check despite living with my partners parents.

I requested a raise several times and his reply is when u pass the bar but I still feel like I put in a hell of a lot of work time and effort to have nothing to show for it by week 3 of the month where I m counting coins.

I recently went to a job interview in a gorgeous city an hour away where the legal jobs are plenty and the money is better.

It went really well and I may have an offer coming my way or an invite for a 2nd interview. I usually excel during interviews and I have yet to attend one without being offered the job.

But I don t know anyobody in that city. Literally nobody. I would spend two hours a day driving back and forth.

I would be making 500 euro extra per month although 200-300 of that would be on petrol alone but I would still have a little bit left over compared to how I m living now.

I would get off work at 6.30-7 and would be home by 8 every night to my partner.

He knew I wanted to work there but not this soon, I don t think he is willing to relocate and look for another job right now as hes doing very well where he is but I genuinely can t live like this financially.

ur opinion??

Have any of you had a budget or unconventional wedding, or attended one as a guest?

When I get married I want to spend as little as possible as I don't have 20k to spend on one day that most people will only attend bc they feel obliged.

How would you feel if you attended a beach / park / museum wedding? Would you complain that it was cheap looking? I have a good eye for fashion so I definitely feel like I could prevent it from looking tacky or cheap in general but the venue is something I feel would cost the most so it would have to be free / cheap but nothing that screams Im Broke.

I can see why people would stay in a marriage and cheat at the same time due to the messiness of a divorce, custody etc but I cant understand cheating when you're simply in a relationship?

If things are that bad that you are seeking attention or validation elsewhere why do they stay with that person at all?

Particularly if they live together - you would be adding so much drama and conflict to your life, it seems so pointless - just be single and do what you want.

It makes zero sense to me - you are not legally tied to your partner unless you have a lease together so why not just make an exit and save everyone the hassle?

I'm 25 and the people I call my friends are people I've known since secondary school and no longer have anything in common and it's awkwardly obvious the odd time we get together.

As a result I havent been going out lately and my boyfriend isn't exactly a social butterfly so I can't meet anyone through him.

I work in a very small firm & I'm the only female so work friends are also out of the question.

It's really getting to me and I badly need new people in my life who share similar interests.

I met a cool girl through a two day seminar I attended for work, we clicked instantly and she added me on FB after she offered to send me some material she had on the topic. Shes funny and smart and pleasant which is what I want in a friend at this point in my life.

When we left she said 'i guess i might see you at the next one!' although there isnt one scheduled or anything.

I'm wondering whether I should message her on FB and ask her to grab lunch or a drink after work at some point during the week? We work in the same small city.

How do I do that without sounding like a weirdo?

I haven't actively tried to make a new friend in a veeery long time so I don't want to come across as desperate.

So please be nice and let me know what you think I should message her? :/

I need a smart sensible woman in my life who I can go out for a drink with occasionally.

We ve been together approximately 1.5 years and everything is great although arguements have been more frequent lately since we moved in together at his parents house (dont judge us, we are saving money and their house is big and his family is great )

Yesterday we argued out of pure boredom ie we were both bored and frustrated & started bickering but i left the room and came back 10 mins later and we both apologized immediately and understood why we just had an utterly pointless fight . At one point he asked me if im getting bored but i said no

I want him to take me on a date. I would love it if he called me and said "get dressed up we are going out tonight " and hes atentive and hell maybe even picks up the tab (he hasnt done that in ages and although i dont want a sugar daddy, its justa nice thought especially considering he has more money than i do and i have recently been paying for both of us the past few days.)

Last time we went out i paid for drinks and he was visibly annoyed at having to go out.

I dont even know whether i should mention it since we argued yesterday and he will be exhausted wen he gets off work but i cant sit around his room all the time. I want him to take some initiative but i dont want to push him away by creating problems

I m not bored of HIM i just need to be taken out every now and then.

I work a full day and usually work through my lunch break which is an hour and on average stay 30 mins behind at the end of the day. I work at a very small law firm and i make minimum wage as wages here are terrible but i recently got my degree so im hoping for a raise but the boss seems to get annoyed when i leave regardless of whether I've already stayed 30 mins or not.

Im good ar my job and never complain or say no.

I've had people tell me i should stop putting in so much extra time given that my pay is so bad but i have a strong work ethic and dont believe people get raises doing the minimum.

What are ur thoughts?

So I ve decided i want more girlfriends but its near impossible to do so.

Say i meet/get talking to a girl/woman, how do i befriend her and end up hanging out again without it looking like im a weirdo and/or hitting on her?

He has told me hes falling hard; we've been intimate and he seems really into me and hes actually emotionally available which is great...but people can be flaky...so I'm not putting all my eggs in the same basket. Would it be bad if I went on a date with someone else? Men, how would you react of u found out u told a girl u were falling for her but hadn't discussed exclusivity and she went on a date with another guy?

So you've probably seen my other questions but before you give me a hard time just hear me out

When we first got together I was depressed and he helped me overcome that

He's always patient and understanding and forgiving. He listens to any issues I have with him and our relationship and truly does his best to give me what I need.

I really feel like the spark is gone - completely. We argue more, there's barely any mutually awesome moments and the sex is non-existent. We're in a bad place. I wish he could make a plan and take me on a date but he's unemployed and relies on his mother for cash.

He's a lovely guy though and things used to be great. I used to thank my lucky stars I found someone with his way of thinking and with his sense of humor and someone who listens. Last valentines I was disappointed but without me asking for it, this year he got me gorgeous pink lillies and my favourite chocs.

I feel like my bitching has also ruined things but he is incredibly lazy and barely leaves his mums house. I need dates or at least some form of activities with my so and I need sex.

Does anyone get where im coming frm?

How do I fix things? Should I even bother?

We've been trying to make it work for months but there's a lot of tension.

My friend group revolves around one girl whom I do not like anymore. We used to be best friends but that isn't the case anymore.

However it's a bit complicated. There's a lot of gossip etc so if I ask another mate to hang out, she'll hear about It almost instantly.

I've got other friends but they're mostly work friends, my bfs friends or relatives.

It's not like I can join some sort of group or activity coz I live in a fairly remote place

Any advice? I want to distance myself from 1-2 ppl in that group and dont know how.

He ran out and got me 3 red roses and a card on the morning of my birthday. We got hungry and I wanted Mcdonalds, he couldn't even buy that for me. but he didn't mind spending money on weed the same day too.

I know he hasn't got much money but I feel like he put in 0 effort and would rather spend his money on weed.

Please keep in mind he bought me nothing else and I got him a gift for his AND for xmas and both those gifts cost more than my xmas present - and I got nothing for my bday.

Am I being unreasonable? I didn't say anything last night coz I felt bad coz I know he hasn't got much money but this morning I realized what his priorities were yesterday and its bugging me.

So once again I turn to YA for questions I cannot answer myself.

When I first got with this guy he was unemployed due to a paperwork situation and not being able to work yet in my country. I am not in the Usa or UK so don't apply your countries rules to my situation. There is a great deal of bureaucracy and general "we'll do it later" attitude in civil servants offices, so he is still in the same situation.

When I first got with him I wasnt in the best place financially either so it didn't bother me but I told myself if he is in the same situation in two years I will have to move on. I am not looking for a ring on my finger yet but it is time to start thinking of a more stable future.

We will be together two years in February

He is in the same situation. He is a lovely guy but he is in his mid 20s and living with his mum. She pays for everything. I know it is not his fault but he never wants to go out to a bar coz of money and I cant remember the last time we went out for dinner and he got the tab.

I am not a gold digger and often pay for him. He is lovely and always cuddles and kisses me and tells me he loves me but I am 23 and do not feel like I want to date someone who is older than me yet lets me pay for him, someone who cannot have a good time with me, who barely goes out without me OR with me.i know he is going through a hard time and he feels crappy for all this.

What do you think?

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I m wearing a plain black skater dress (pull and bear) matched with my leather jacket with silver details (last years zara collection, gorgeous) and a chunky bejeweled silver necklace with a few blue rhinestones (also zara)

Yes, I love Zara :)

I love snakeskin this season and pointy-toe seems to be a must-have.

What do you think?

I don't really have any shoes (I'm not a huge fan of dresses in the winter) so I was thinking to get a plain black pair but these have me second-guessing.

I've got pale skin, dark hair, green eyes. I normally do neutral/brown eyeshadow.

Do you think I should inject some pink in there? :)

So my bday is on the 30th and I know it puts a strain on my bf to have to get two gifts so close together. I told him he doesn t need to get me two big gifts but here s the thing - I don t think he s planning on getting me anything for my birthday.

I told him I want a handbag for Christmas and I ll help him pick it out. This won t cost any more than 60 euros as it s from Zara (my fav shop)

I spent 80 on his bday and 70 on his Christmas present (he basically told me what he wanted)

I know money is hard right now for him and his mum but I do feel like it s a little unfair now that I got him TWO gifts, both of which were pricier than my ONE gift? (and he TOLD me what he wanted on both occasions, so it s not like I could say no, and he was going on and on about what he wanted for xmas this year.)

Do I sound unreasonable? Would chocolates and flowers on my bday be decent? Or a dinner for two at a nice restaurant instead?

I'm pale but have dark eye brows. They aren't thin and have a decent shape. I am looking for a product that will help fill in small blanks plus a few hairs at the start of the brow stick up instead of curving towards my temple.

Don't have access to stores like sephora so mac, clinique and the rest of ur basic cosmetic companies (maybelline, gosh etc) will have to do.

Looking for something roughly 20 dollars/euros and that is easy to use as a beginner.

Something discreet as well since my eye brows are already black and far from thin.

Thank you ladies xx

So if a non-eu (let s say arab) citizen wants to move to the UK - what is the process (briefly) ? Once you are in the country, are there any checks currently in place to ensure that you are an integrated member of society who either has a job or is looking for one?

Or are you pretty much get a piece of paper and you re allowed to roam free?

I know this is a sensitive topic so please no opinions on the matter, just brief facts about the process.

Thank you