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Me and my wife recently went on a holiday. I had transfered some of our savings to spend on the trip. She told me to not spend the savings. I lied about not spending them and spent them on the trip. I didn t tell her as I m the breadwinner and

manage our money. When she found out she threw a temper tantrum, screamed at me and physically attacked me.

Now she tells me that she don t trust me and want access to all the money i make. I tried to tell her that I m not comfortable with this. new temper tantrum.. I agree to give her access just to shut her up.. next day i thought she forgot, then she tells me to give her access. I say no, new tantrum.. she attacks me, screams, leaves the flat..

Every time she tells me she will divorce me if i don t do what she says.

How do i tell her that she got no business snooping around my bank account and she need to trust that we got as much money as i tell her. ?

My wife of 2 years speaks 3-4 hours on phone with her girlfriends. Often times she spends 3-4 hours with one, calls another one and spends 3-4 hours with another one. It annoys the hell out of me and she gets pissed at me if i tell her that it s too long. Any ideas on how i can convince her that it s too much?

I m a 32 year old man who have a well paid average job, but here is the deal. I hate the fact that my wife might get a manager job which makes her above me in the corporate world. She had high positions before, but I don t like it. How can I politely tell her that she need to apply for positions where she s under someone else? (preferably a experience male leader).

I feel that coworkers including my boss doesn t like me. My team leader dismisses my ideas, always puts blames on me, is always short and walks away when i try to answer her. I was called into her office once and she said: "I walk away fast because your humor is too extreme and I wanna avoid communication with you", another time she also claimed that a few people had claimed reports on me, but couldn t say what i did wrong or who reported me.

My wife who i have been together for soon 7 years said that she understand why a lot of people don t like talking to me.

What the hell is going on here? I m sick of it.

The sex life with my wife for 7 years (together 6, married 1 year) have died. She refuses to talk about it and when i ask why we are not doing it anymore I m told to stop nagging and that it s not that important.

1.5 years with no sex. How can I get her to open up and tell me what s wrong?

I have tried everything!

My gf of 5 years are soon moving together and getting married in just under 2 months. We are temporary long distance, but that will be fixed soon.

But recently she talks very little to me each day and complains that she is tired. Every night i see her online, several hours after telling me she is gone to bed.

My gut tells me something is going on. Should I confront her about this?

I went on a trip alone and I met this friendly local girl who just showed me around the city. She likes me, but i have my girlfriend. My girlfriend accidentally saw a mail from her by accudent and accused me of cheating. I spent hours telling her nothing happened between me and her. I never told my gf about this woman as I saw no point doing it.

I had plans to go on a weekend trip to Germany, but now she is telling me that I'm "not allowed to go" and "you must choose between me and germany". I really don't wanna lose 700$ as the trip is non refundable.

She used to be such a nice woman giving me all my freedom, but now she treats me like a 14 year old boy. I'm a grown up guy and im in charge of me. She told me "I want to give you your freedom back at some point later. but for now I'm in charge". How can I make her see that she is NOT in f*** charge?

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I'm going on the 5th year with my girlfriend. We love each other a lot and we're getting married this autumn.

Getting women were usually not a problem for me before i settled with my current gf. We were talking and she was wondering why some girls go for guys who are less good looking than themselves or "not their type". Then I told her that we cannot control who we fall in love with and that the one we fall for is not always 100% congruent with "our type". Then she said: well. you were also not my type at all. I never liked blond short men (i'm 5'7), but my ex was more of my type. (He's dark, 6'2 and skinny). She sometimes check out his profile on facebook cause "she likes to read his updates".

I never told her that I had chances with hotter (but too stupid and non gf material) women or that my ex gave amazing blowjobs (which gf hate, but I respect).

What would you do?

I noticed that people take offense from everything i say. I called a colleague "*****" to a woman from spain (it's black in spanish), and one of the white girls bursted into a mood where she almost exploded. She never talked to me again and said: I don't hang out with racists!

should I walk up to a spanish person calling me "blanco" and smack them in the face cause they "trample on my whiteness".

A former art school mate, is in gaza. in my country we have an expression saying "a stone throw away from the city center" which means really close. When i used that expression, he deleted the comment immediately.

A tamil colleague became angry when me and some guys were teasing her english accent (she said that "i speak perfect english" with a apu accent). . Geez. what's wrong with people? they are oversensitive and own no self irony.

Why are people so damn sensitive?

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Me and my girlfriend of 2 years are heading to Kuala lumpur for holidays in march 2012. We are now booking a hotel, i found a great website with hotel deals etc.

But What is a good location near the city center of KL?

I would appreciate some advice on best places to live etc.

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My girlfriend of 2 years sometimes gets moody if we talk too much. In weekends we tend to talk a few hours a day, and we talk everyday because we are temporary long distance. She tells me she loves me, we are going on a nice holiday together etc.

But today she told me the following: "weren't you gonna go and eat or do something else? I have talked to you for 2 hours today and I feel that I can't do any of the things i need to". We didn't talk for 2 days because I had to work overtime at work.

Why is my gf getting annoyed at me when we talk a lot during the day?

She told me that she likes talking to me every day, but she need her space to do other things in her life as well and that we can never talk many hours each day like we did in the beginning of our relationship because now we "know everything about each other".

What does she mean by this?

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I work in a quite multi cultural environment at work, so naturally there is a few muslims there as well (some extremely moderate and some slightly more radical). A colleague from southern Iraq asked me what kind of religious background i came from. I told her honestly and straight forward that I'm raise in a non religious christian family and that I'm an atheist.

She became angry at me and walked away like I was the black plague or something and told me that I'm ignorant and stupid if i don't understand that god created mankind. I also had other colleagues from a muslim family frown upon me and people who took a stand not believing anything. A guy from Somalia told me that he cannot associate with people who are haram/infidel to the true allah. That iraqi girl becomes upset once someone talks against her or disagree with her and walks away. Often she is angry at a person for days.

Why is it that you have such a hard time to respect people with a different opinion?

I don't disrespect people who have a faith. But I think people need to respect each other.

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my gf of 2 years is quite difficult. there is this common problem. With all my other exes, they NEVER wanted the solution to problems from me specifically. My mom NEVER want a problem fixed by dad, but when they find out the EXACT same thing i tell my gfs when they have a problem themselves then its ok.

How come you NEVER want a solution from your boyfriend/husband?

When i give my gf advice she becomes mad and tells me that she don't want my or anyone else's advice because it's not what independent grown up people want unless they ask. She told me that my task is to just shut up and listen to her, NEVER give advice.

Why is this so damn wrong? it seems like almost all women are like that. My friends gfs, my mom, my aunt.my girlfriend. Why can't you just take the answer from your boyfriend who know it and get over it? It's nothing to dramatize or ***** about.

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My gf of soon 2years doesn't tell me about her days like she used to. When I ask her how her day was she just say "nothing interesting". And when I ask her about stuff, etc I get to hear things that are completely new to me. Like her grandma is in hospital etc, she used to tell me such stuff before. Now she tells me nothing.

She doesn't say anything from her family anymore etc. She used to. She goes out with friends occasionally, she do things with her mom etc.. How can her day always be "nothing interesting"?.

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Me and my gf met 1.5 years ago, been together officially for 1 year. She told me in the beginning of our relationship that she is still good friends with her ex. I'm not comfortable with this, but is it possible to be just friends with an ex? She tells me openly about all of their meetings and tells me she loves and there is nothing between them.

But how do I tell her that it's not ok? I won't permit her to see her ex. She is going to dinner at his place, and I know that this ****** will try to bang her. I hate everything with the word ex. EX is past, past means EX as in gone out of life. No contact.

How can I get her to stop see him and focus only on me and her normal friends?