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Those who are married or planning to get married one day: You want another person to marry you because you promise/d to be a good partner etc. But if you were in another person's shoes, would you really marry YOU?

My friend is posting sad messages on Facebook. First, we dated…..it didn’t last long as she moved to another city….the ending was mutual and we remain friends….we call each other at least once a week (it’s been for a year)

She’s highly reserved but I know that her home environment is not really homely. In fact she’s from a broken family, and she stayed with either her mom or granny. The relationship with her father is BAD. I have in the past few months been able to talk to her when she was going through her usual bad patches.

In the last week she posted two messages that make me worry. For the purposes of this question, I call her “X”. The last one is "X is hurting like never before". Before that she posted; " X is discovering how cruel this world we living in really is".

I tried to call her several times last night, after seeing the second message…she’s not answering her call. I’m worried…..especially as her brother attempted suicide about 18 months ago…I’m worried. Can somebody help me how to talk to her. I would advice her to see social worker/psychologist etc…..but how do I get through to her mind/soul at this crucial time. That I can’t get her on the phone is not much a problem…I’m prepared to take the next available flight to see her, but how do I ensure that she sees that she needs more than my comforting words?

My friend is posting sad messages on Facebook. First, we dated…..it didn’t last long as she moved to another city….the ending was mutual and we remain friends….we call each other at least once a week (it’s been for a year)

She’s highly reserved but I know that her home environment is not really homely. In fact she’s from a broken family, and she stayed with either her mom or granny. The relationship with her father is BAD. I have in the past few months been able to talk to her when she was going through her usual bad patches.

In the last week she posted two messages that make me worry. For the purposes of this question, I call her “X”. The last one is "X is hurting like never before". Before that she posted; " X is discovering how cruel this world we living in really is".

I tried to call her several times last night, after seeing the second message…she’s not answering her call. I’m worried…..especially as her brother attempted suicide about 18 months ago…I’m worried. Can somebody help me how to talk to her. I would advice her to see social worker/psychologist etc…..but how do I get through to her mind/soul at this crucial time. That I can’t get her on the phone is not much a problem…I’m prepared to take the next available flight to see her, but how do I ensure that she sees that she needs more than my comforting words?

My friend is posting sad messages on Facebook. First, we dated…..it didn’t last long as she moved to another city….the ending was mutual and we remain friends….we call each other at least once a week (it’s been for a year)

She’s highly reserved but I know that her home environment is not really homely. In fact she’s from a broken family, and she stayed with either her mom or granny. The relationship with her father is BAD. I have in the past few months been able to talk to her when she was going through her usual bad patches.

In the last week she posted two messages that make me worry. For the purposes of this question, I call her “X”. The last one is "X is hurting like never before". Before that she posted; " X is discovering how cruel this world we living in really is".

I tried to call her several times last night, after seeing the second message…she’s not answering her call. I’m worried…..especially as her brother attempted suicide about 18 months ago…I’m worried. Can somebody help me how to talk to her. I would advice her to see social worker/psychologist etc…..but how do I get through to her mind/soul at this crucial time. That I can’t get her on the phone is not much a problem…I’m prepared to take the next available flight to see her, but how do I ensure that she sees that she needs more than my comforting words?

If God is All Good, then how can a Christian morally justify hell? Specifically, any sin committed on earth would be by definition a finite crime, however, the punishment that would be received for this finite crime is an eternal, or infinite punishment. I cannot morally justify having a punishment that is to a large degree far worse then the crime.

Are the repeated fights and name-calling a reflexion of South African society? Is it not possible for us to differ without belittling each other? Why do we keep going back to these nasty stages. Is it because the forum has very little number of "regulars"? Is our dependency on faces we know and to which we have bonded the cause of our troubles? Does one's resolve not to be on this forum for popularity mean that they should create tensions with others? Will there be a time when everybody who profess to choose peace over war stand up and say "this is enough" and troublemakers are just ignored, and let them be on their own?

I don't expect all these questions to be answered now, but it could be advisable for us to ponder them for some time and try to find a solution.

…..like when you are with friends or reading some posts here…..

It doesn’t matter who you are……..be a priest, or psychologist, or physician, or a guru…….we constantly ask others for advice and assistance…….we ask for guidance etc…..in this question, I ask for your opinion……why can’t I live with my own?

What do you say against this argument:

“Adolph was a spectacular leader. He was a clergyman of, what some can call a church. He was a leader of this church and helped to develop the beliefs that the Nazi's stood by and practiced. After WWI there were many problems in Germany along with the rest of the world, like there are today. But their thoughts were that the Jews had a lot to do with these problems they were facing. Also, the Marxist political group was becoming stronger and fear of a communist revolution became a possible reality. Linking the Marxist and the Jews together solved this problem. This was the start of the 25 points of the German Workers Party (Nazis). With a couple hundred people believing these ideals, word spread, creating thousands of followers. It became a religious and political belief with order and lack of selfishness. These are two characteristics that can be used to describe a Saint. Hitler became known for these attributes and called a Saint. This is where our common sense kicks in and controls our thoughts. Some might argue; "A Saint for all that torture and pain. Never! He was insane." However who says what he stood for was right or wrong? Yes he did cause a lot of pain to innocent people. But when the question of right or wrong comes into play we have to stay consistent with our beliefs and what we preach. People recognize 'good' as that which makes them (individually and subjectively) feel 'better', more 'comfortable'. 'Evil' does the opposite. As we say good and evil varies individually and subjectively from person to person there should be consistency. Hitler was raised differently and believed the good for all was through following the 25 points of the German Workers Party. Therefore, Hitler could be seen as a Saint. It could be not in my or even your eyes.”

So, can we accept that Hitler was a Saint?