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So this is what it is. My boyfriend and I are currently in a long distance relationship but only for a few more months but things are getting tough.

He does not talk to me. He has a very stressful job and at times, I understand that he wants to cool down and relax, so I do my thing while he chills. But now, it's been going on for days at a time where he does not call me or he will just text me for two minutes and then disappear. I talked to him recently and found out some things but he got extremely upset with me.

He is depressed about his job and hates it more than anything but can't just quit. He has to finish out the contract and I understand the stress from that. But to get through it, he has started smoking Spice or Salvia. Now, I did some research on it and from what I've seen, it is similar to pot. It will make you feel high and good for a short time and there are very little side effects from it. It does have the potential to be mixed with something that could cause major brain problems in the future and that is what I'm worried about. I asked if he really needed that and he said no but it helps him relax.

To top it off, when I told him about how it bothers me that he doesn't talk to me, he doesn't seem to care. He wants to get married, tells me all these things he wants me and him to do but it doesn't feel like he cares. If he has a problem or is stressed, he just turns into himself or goes and talks to one of his old friends. He leaves me completely in the dark about it and all I know is that he is upset. I tried just letting him do his thing but I worry.

Am I making this into a big deal? I am trying to be understanding and giving him space. God knows, I need space too at times. But if there's an issue, I think that your partner is someone that you should be able to talk to about.

Hello all, so I've had this question running through my mind recently.

My boyfriend and I are having a long distance relationship and won't be able to physically see each other for two more months. The first few weeks apart, we skyped everyday and talked. Of course, we both were on easy and light schedules.

The past three weeks, I have been working triple shifts to save up money and he works almost the same amount. Our communication has dwindled down to morning, good night, and I love you texts. Granted, I love these but would also like to see his face. If I am lucky, I can for twenty minutes in one week. Especially since our schedules are in opposite time zones.

I want to at least talk face to face on skype a couple times a week. Not everyday, since that can't be something to promise but at least two or three times. Is this unreasonable?

Now, why have I not asked him? That is because of the high stress from both ends. He is on edge and so have I but I am trying my best to think rationally about this. But no matter how I look at it, my request seems reasonable. Any suggestions?

So here's the question. To most, since I feel this would be the most obvious portion, I do want to get married. I love this guy and I can actually see a future with him. Sappy, romantic, completely illogical, and would definitely piss off more than one person I know. But I don't consider these things, especially the pissing people off part, since this isn't about them, but rather about him and me.

In a nutshell, we have been together for a good couple months, not a full year yet, but soon. He has talked about marriage with me and we both agree that it's something we want in the future. He wants kids, I do too. Only thing holding me back is all the goals that I have set out for myself. A graduate's degree, a doctorate, internship, and also working out of a family business throughout. The family business portion, I do not want to do for my entire life and in honesty, hate. But it's also a lot of stress and injustice from my family side.

(With family, it would take too long to explain. To put it simply, they have no sway in my decisions and I stay with the family business due to the income I gain and experience. Though the stress and daily degradation that they place on me is more than enough to change my mind.)

I'm turning 25 soon, he's turning 22. I have thought that he may be fickle but he has proven to me time and time again about his commitment to me. He has tried to reason with my logical side and dissuade my fears about marriage. I have no issue with commitment but rather, having a marriage that is similar to my parents and me turning into my mother. (I know, cliche, considering many daughters fear being their mother. With a bipolar, alcoholic, abusive, and emotionally detached mother though, I think I am justified.)

My main concern though, is that I feel it is too soon. We have not even lived together, though he has been at my house and me at his enough, that we pretty much live at each others house. My question is, is there an actual set time for when two people commit to each other? Is there a moment when it is too soon? We have been together for eight months, almost nine. Or is it simply a question of me being ready or not?

Hello all,

My friend and I are planning on a vacation this coming year. Either in the end of January or February. Now for those that have been to these countries, mind telling me how it was?

Note, me and my friend are planning on going to a lot of the nightlife and ancient viewings during the day. We're not big on super expensive hotels, so we're looking for which would also be the cheapest. Also, we are looking to view activities, cultural differences, and just random strangeness or awesome stuff that one can't see anywhere else. And without putting in the cliche, we will be doing a lot of shopping as well. We will be flying there from Korea, so if anyone has any suggestions!

Thank you!

Anybody know where a green lantern leather jacket may be for sale online? Have been looking for days. Need to find it online and can deliver to an overseas address by august. Help would be greatly appreciated!!!

My boyfriend is in the military and is stationed in Korea. I work here as a teacher and cannot leave since I'm under contract. He wants to stay in Korea but he's going to be deployed soon. Is there any way to avoid getting deployed so that he can stay in Korea with me? He has asked around but people keep saying that the only way is if we get married or he re-enlists for a year. Is there another option?

My sister has recently run away but her WoW (World of Warcraft) account is still active. I live abroad with my parents and she is in the states now, so there is little legal action that can be placed. Is it possible to trace her IP address from her use online or another possible way to see what city or even address the account is used? Legally that is?

Ever since middle school, I have found that I can't feel. Not physically but mentally. I can laugh, smile, frown, and cry but I do not feel any emotion. It is like everything is just dull and gray for me.

My mother could say horrible things to me, which she has done for many years, and I feel nothing about it. I have laughed a couple times at her, making her ask me why I was laughing, and all I could say was that I just don't feel anything from all that verbal abuse.

My best friend, the only person who I grew to trust in my life, died this year, and I felt nothing. Then a family friend died and I felt nothing as well, even as she lay there dead after I tried doing CPR for over 30 minutes. (She died from a seizure induced my drinking only alcohol and not eating)

Why can I not feel? Even for my boyfriend, who I have been with for three years. I feel safe with him and I trust him with my life but I feel nothing around him or from being away from him.

Am I just going insane or is there something that broke inside me?

This probably sounds like I am complaining and if I am, I apologize for it. I would like it if no one places a negative post that just demeans me, since that would be utterly pointless on both sides.

To the point, I hate people touching me. I've been like this since I can remember. The only thing I can put up with is if one of my students wants a hug, then I will comply for their sake. Otherwise, I hate it. I hate it when my sister, mother, and especially my father hugs me.

This could be stemming from the abuse I received from my father, which he did horrible things that I do not feel comfortable going into on an online website. Needless to say, I would rather watch him burn alive then let him go around any of my students.

I have tried to mentally prepare myself about touching people. Even with my boyfriend, who has been very patient with me about this whole issue, I feel may be getting to the breaking point. He has helped me with allowing hugs from people that I know. Such as my friends and my sister or mother but anything else drives me to push them away violently.

I am not a violent person and I enjoy the company of others around me. Yet having them touch me makes my skin crawl and I want to smack them for it.

Any ideas on how to overcome this obstacle? I have tried mentally preparing myself, forcing myself, and even practicing on inanimate objects(which probably sounds retarded as hell but what else could I do?). There is no doctor that I could talk to that speaks English here and I am not fluent in the language here.

Since I can remember, my mother has always been very good to me and has always been there for me. There has been a couple times that she went over the edge, in my opinion, and these acts or words hurt me very badly.

Example:

She kinda went overboard one time and beat me with a hanger that left bruises all over my back and my legs.

Or she would tell me that I am nothing compared to other members of my family.

Now, I have accomplished more than any of my family and she says nothing bad to me ever. But now my younger sister has come to me with the same wild things that my mother had done to me. Mostly words but hurtful ones that I know can cause pain for quite some time. My sister is at a loss but I know she is no saint or perfect child as well.

She has gone through the teen problems but times ten. Running away from home, smoking, random piercings, drinking, and hanging out with the bad kids of the area. She came to me crying, saying that she wanted to give all that up and do good, knowing that she had done wrong. She told my mother this, that she wanted a second chance at being good, but my mother won't believe her. She constantly berates my sister and beats her down with ugly words.

I have gone over to her house and expressed my worries. Telling her that words can be harmful and damaging but she will not heed my advice at the least. In the country we live in, there is no CPS and I would not want to put my sister in that situation anyway. Also, I could never afford to take care of her on my current salary and my father is the worst possible person to put her with.

So for you mothers out there, what could I say or do that would bring this all home to her? To have her realize just how damaging words can be? And how she sometimes does loose it for no reason?

If an American citizen marries a Kyopo (a person who has american citizenship but a green card in Korea due to Korean blood), does the spouse gain a special visa to live in Korea as well? Or are they still considered only an American citizen with no green card?

I've been trying to find and remember this movie I saw years ago. It's something about people having a time limit or something and they have a diamond or whatnot in their hand.

I do recall that there was a reference in Family Guy with Brian.

Anyone have any idea what movie this is?

Is there a place in Honolulu or Waikiki to buy clove cigarettes? Or perhaps on Oahu?

I was just wondering if the Apple company would exchange an IPod 2nd generation for a 3rd generation IPod? Even if I would have to pay the difference?

What Would You Do With Two Problems?

What would you do if you have two guys that you like?

A. One is much older than you, good looking but a little overweight. Where you've dated for three years, even if some of it was living together in a trailer. Also, you've been separated for two years due to work and as far as you know, he's never cheated. He's working two jobs and going to school so he can get a degree to be with you.

B. The other is in the military, ripped body and good looking. An old fling from high school that you broke up with that ended in horrible results. He's also working on a degree to complete his dreams and is still into after five years of bad separation. So much so that he's willing to move to where you are.

Which one would you choose? A or B?

Hey all

I'm going on vacation to see an old high school friend. How can I loose as much weight as possible in a healthy to somewhat healthy manner in 2 weeks?

Serious answers please, no bulimia or anorexia jokes.

For the past couple months, on and off, I have been getting these strange pea sized bumps that are flesh colored. I have looked online, freaked out about maybe having genital herpes. Strangely enough, they look and don't look anything like genital herpes. It says that it comes together in small bunches with a cauliflower type appearance but mine do not look like that.

They do itch slightly and even then, it's only once in awhile. What is this? I've heard of the warts, the special sweat glands or whatnot that can have problems around that area, and that it could just be irritation from shaving. I've knocked off shaving since I stopped a few weeks ago.

What's going on?