Jessica

I want to go to a metal concert in a few months. I invited my boyfriend. We both like the band, but I like them more. He said, "I don't think it's a good idea for someone like me to be in a mosh pit" - and I would agree, he would likely get violent if he felt threatened. I said, "Well, since this may be their last tour, I'm going to go see them anyways." He said "I don't think it's a good idea for someone like you to be there either." I said "I'm going anyways."

He takes it as a sign of disrespect that I'm not doing as he says. I say I don't have to obey you - and he says even though you ask, you never take my opinion into consideration.

I've done this before, where I'll decide to go somewhere or do something without him, having already made up my mind to go, then inform him about it - and despite his disapproval, I go anyways. He says it's a matter of respect and I say it's a matter of independence. I certainly won't give up going to this concert for him, but he hates this behaviour of mine and this conflict keeps recurring - it's not sustainable for our relationship.

I don't want to give up doing everything I want (when there is nothing wrong with it!) simply because I'm in a relationship - I feel like relationships should push you further, not hold you back. He feels like if he's uncomfortable with me doing an activity, I should decline attending. Who is right? Should I push on with this 'independence'? How should I handle the situation?

How can I get my boyfriend to shut up about the Illuminati? Frankly I don't care and I don't think that the prime minister is going to invite the russians to come kill the poorest 1/3 of our population. To me it sounds stupid, I never buy into conspiracy theories. How to get him to shut up?

Yesterday right after supper I had pain directly beneath my sternum. It was fairly midline. I hadn't tried anything new at dinner (pulled pork), I hadn't introduced any potential allergens to the house (although my dog was around and I'm allergic to her, except for the past 1.5 years my symptoms are hives where I come in contact with her saliva, and not airway trouble). It went away after about an hour. My colour was unchanged, my pulse was even and strong, and I didn't have any palpitations.

Then last night as I was turning over in bed, I had sudden shooting pain all throughout my chest, I suppose surrounding my lungs and not extending into my stomach. It only lasted a second but it was concerning nontheless. I didn't check my colour because it was dark and I didn't check my pulse because I was sleepy.

Do you have any ideas what this could be, if I should seek medical attention, or possible solutions? Thanks for your time.

What kind of medical procedures can be done to a fully awake and coherent patient without consent? Don't tell me there are none, I can think of one specific example. I want to know if there are any others.

Say if I want to lose weight off of my stomach. Will doing ab workouts burn the fat from that area, or will it burn it systemically? Or will doing any workout take fat from anywhere/everywhere in your body? Do your genetics determine where you burn fat first? I know that your genetics determine where you put on weight (such as families who will put on weight in their upper arms but not their forearms).

Say my partner had herpes on his penis, and we want to get pregnant. I do not want herpes, so we typically use a condom. Would I get herpes (or any STI for that matter) if I poked a hole in the tip of the condom to let the sperm get through and impregnate me?

I've explored the menu options a little bit, but can't find a number. I want to know how long I've been playing!

Or a positive result from a hemoglobin test reportable to the health unit? I'm in Canada.

Is this a good thing or a bad thing? Immediately after he asked if I was whipped. Is it good to have your boyfriend by the balls?

There is one stock in particular that I want to buy into. My bank is BMO. How do I invest in a stock without getting into the whole InvestorLine thing? I don't want to be a part of InvestorLine. Does your bank let you invest without putting in $5,000 first?

Will I get long distance charges on my cell phone if I am out of my area code but I make a call that is local to my physical location?

About a year ago I met this guy and we were friends. I went to school with him. I met this other guy at work, that I didn't see too often because of conflicting schedules, but we were friends too. At first I had no interest in dating either of them; School-boy was very persistent about asking me out and work-boy asked me to our work semi-formal, which I needed a date to. I thought we were going as friends and didn't think he actually liked me. School-boy and I didn't officially go on a date for a long time, but we went out to lunch a lot and when he got kicked out of his house, I was there for him. That was the first time he ever said he loved me. I told him he was ridiculous and that we were too young to know what love is.

A short while later I fell for him and he asked me out officially on the 4th of Feb. The work semi-formal was on the 8th of Feb. I went with both of them and saw them both of Valentine's day. Both asked me to be their Valentine and I said yes to both of them. I realized that this could get tricky fast, so I asked both of them if it was okay that I was seeing the other. Work-boy was fine with it, but he was under the impression that School-boy was too. School-boy misunderstood due to me being stupid, and thought that I just hung out with Work-boy a lot, as friends.

A few weeks later School-boy found out that I had been kissing Work-boy, which I thought he was okay with, but he considers that to be cheating. By this time I was in love with School-boy and not with Work-boy, but I still felt dependent on Work-boy and felt I needed to stay in a relationship with him due to his emotional issues. I stayed with him a few months before getting my act together and dumping him. We were never terribly close anyways, but the damage was done: I had spent 5 months cheating (in the eyes of my boyfriend) on School-boy.

It's been about 3 months since I broke up with Work-boy, whom I don't work with anymore, and I remained friends with him after the break up. Now I've spent the past 3 months trying to get my boyfriend's trust back, but he's been cheated on before and I really hurt him. He loves me and he won't leave me but he still doesn't trust me like he did in the beginning.

Since then I had to move 500km away and it's putting stress on our relationship, but we both think we can make it through. My main problem is that he asks me who I'm hanging out with, if I'm cheating on him, etc. I really wish I had his trust back and I think it would make the distance easier to cope with. So, this is where you guys come in.

What do you think about this situation? Do you think it counts as cheating if at first I didn't know there was a problem? Do you think we will ever be the same as we were in the beginning? Should I let him ask who I'm with all the time? He said the only thing that will gain back his trust is time. So do you think there is anything I can do to gain it back faster? Thank you guys for your respectful opinions and advice.