chingu_ya

Since me and my bf are living away from each other we communicate by e-mails, chat and most of the time through phone. We’ve been together for 9 months & we talked about a lot of things including sex. At first I was really uncomfortable talking about it because I’m a virgin and he knows it…he would change the topic whenever he feels I’m already uncomfortable. Now, I’d say I’m getting comfy talking about it with him but then he asked (politely..) me if we can do it on the phone. That’s when I started to panic…I said no but I think I wanted to say yes. He said he understands but I think he was disappointed so he asked if he can just masturbate sometimes while we’re talking & I said okay…at least he’s not looking for other women to fulfill his sexual needs, right?

Here are my questions:

1. How should’ve I reacted in that situation?

2. What do you think he felt after I rejected his offer? How can I make it up to him?

3. What would he think of me if I agree to do it on the phone with him?

4. Is it ok if I let him do his thing while we’re talking?

My bf said that he wants to make short frequent calls to me rather than long infrequent calls because he said he wanted to hear my voice everyday. He said he'd call everyday for 10 minutes but I told him it's not enough & he said it would be everyday. If I choose long infrequent calls he'll probably call 2times a week at most.

We're in a long distance relationship and I understand it's really expensive to make long-distance calls everyday.

Which do you think is better??

I'm 22 and i have a korean bf who's 32. he was my former student...i was teaching him english. he's currently in korea. i'm in philippines. we haven't seen each other in person except on web cam. we've been in our long distance relationship for 8 months now. he's been very optimistic about our relationship and he'd always say that we'd be together someday...it's very nice to hear that but i'm not actually sure if we'd really end up together. (P.S. I really like this guy!)