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I raised my step daughter both emotionally and monetarily because both parents were addicts. She recently moved to AZ to live with me and my fiance. She is very responsible for 21 years old and working 3 jobs and getting raises/promotions consistently. We are giving her an opportunity to get ahead in life, save money and pay her bills completely off. She pays no rent or food. She has not talked to her Father for several years and decided ( I always want what is best for her) to go back to CA and visit with him. Our agreement was 3 days there and travel back. She was not honest with me and took an additional day off from work. While I can understand her re-connection with a Dad who is not well from drinking...she has to respect that she has obligations here and should not take advantage of taking days off when we work 24/7. My fiance is upset as he provides her "way". I know her father missed valuable time always being drunk and abusive but all of our lives went on without him. We feel that she should pay rent now and become MORE responsible. If she lived on her own and paid her bills she would think 10 times over about taking time off work. What amount of rent should we require from her? My goal is to have her be a responsible young woman who will someday be able to take care of herself. She pays $500 for her car/insurance and $100 for her phone.

He was friends before we met...sh eis married, not happily. She calls him at work quite frequently...invited us to her home for dinner...then took my husband in the kitchen for over an hour talking with just him while I sat in the other room. And now...she aksed him if she could come visit and he said yes without talking with me. What do you think?

been in a four year relationship. They talk at his work frequently...he announced she asked tocome and visit our new home. She is married...what do you think? He did not consult me. I was invited to her house a year ago...and my guy and her talked for an hour in the kitchen ignoring theor guests including me.

Parents cannot reach their kids sometimes and feel the advice unimportant. I want to hear from young adults her age...to share with her. Please share what you think (I already know the answers) about relationships where there is physical hitting on both the guy and girls part. I want her to hear from great guys who would not put up with it and women who have been hurt in the process. If she wants to be on the Jerry Springer Show...then let her but she is not moving in with me as a victim or as an abuser. By the way, I met her when she was 6 years and disallowed her Father to punish her physically. I know she is angry about her parent's addictions but the entire point of me in her life was to show her love and a better way. I divorced her Father once she was of age and live in a very healthy relationship now for three years with a very educated, loving man. So no bad examples on my part. Thank you.

A DBA is good for five years unless renewed. I chose to never open or operate my business idea. Now because they say they sent a notice for me to get a business license (although I had no business) they want to fine me $300.00.