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it says that we should guard our hearts because it is the wellspring of life. how do we do this and how do we apply it in our lives daily? i have researched this but i dont seem to get a satisfactory answers. how do we engineer ourselves in "this" way mentally, emotionally, spiritually etc? what exactly do we need to do??help!!! this is confusing .

i have been getting a lot of unsolicited opinions, criticisms and assasination on my character lately. i have always had a good recored but surprisingly enough this has been happening quite a lot lately. the first time it happened i was harsh on myself and got depressed. during my deporessed state, they made fun of my weight my shabby dressing. now i have taken care of my appearance, how do i move on and be the better person. however i would not want to associate with them anymore.

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i was heartbroken and he came along. i knew i should not rebound. i do not go out partying etc. so now this guy comes along and he tells me to come out to meet him and his friends. when i dont. he calls me a kid and so i would meet him sometimes. after that he would tell me why i do not like sex whetehr i am biologically normal. he stressed me out with all these talks and i was feeling so worthless id just listen. so one day i told him i am not used to night outs so i would not be bale to come out. then he called me once and abused me near his friends in a game. i did not realise only after i left i learned. now he has been talking about me behind my back and gaslighting. since i do not reply to his texts even, he gets mad. i do not like confrontations, and do not feel the need to fight. but this has mentally made me feel numb and now i am scared. help me handle this situation.also, just because i would previously meet with him and his friends, and that i have stopped now, he is making it seem like i owe him something back in return calling me names. how do i take the high road?

something traumatic happened to me that now i feel so hurt and exposed that i am unable to cope with it anymore. when i go out i feel everyone knows about it and they are all looking at me. how do i not think this way. many tell me that this is how i feel because it is happening to me for the first time and i guess it is true since i have never felt this way. i have been told about the mirroring trick of focusing on someone else to feel like the spotlight is less on me.how do i do this