Kara B

Specifically, forensic psychology. The field I'm most interested in is working with sex offenders. I was raped 5 years ago, and ever since then, I just want to know why. I keep asking myself what happened to this man to have turned him into such a monster that he could have hurt me when he didn't even know me. I'm not angry anymore, I just want to know how the mind works and where the damage happened.

I'm getting a lot of static about my choice of study, so many people think that it's going to open up wounds that are better left untouched. I'm not like that though. I am more like a detective. I need to know the why's and the how's. How would I start? It's been so long since I even considered going back to school. I'm 28 now and I keep telling myself I'm too old to go back now. This is something I've wanted to do for such a long time though. Even before this happened, psychology has always fascinated me. Would I consider it forensic psychology or just psychology? Let me know what you're feedback is. I'm really excited to hear your opinions on this matter. Thank you in advance.

i'm not saying this about all women, because as a victim of stalking, I know how scary it can be. I know that it can disrupt your entire life and causes irreparable damage, but some of my friends, I've noticed a disturbing trend. They actually want to be stalked. It's some kind of sick ego boost to them. When I discuss with them the emotional trauma that goes along with stalking, not to mention the physical demands it takes on a woman when she has to rearrange her entire schedule and yes, I acknowledge the guys do have to face this too, I'm just using the term she as a broad term. I just don't understand this sick need for attention, What is the point? A true victim of stalking never got an ego boost from it. All they have ever known is fear and disruption. From a professor's perspective, would this make an interesting paper? For instance, I'm dealing with one girl who is basically stalking her ex boyfriend by following him to his job, and spreading some pretty mean rumors about his new girlfriend, and "accidentally" sends him emails, but then turns around and accuses him of stalking. I've noticed that she seems to create these imaginary scenarios, but what I see as an outsider, is the men in her life, are scared to death. They are not sure what to do, and do not want to appear as "wusses". I'm just wondering if anyone else has ever encountered this same thing, and if anyone would have an opinion as to why a girl/guy would create an imagined scenario in which they are being stalked? I'm not saying that stalking isn't real, believe me,I've been there, and I actually find these events insulting to the actual victims because they take away attention that they need and deserve from the court system and emergency officials. I want to improve the system by getting my degree in Psychology and specializing in these kind of mental disorders. Please give me your opinions on these events.

My mom has had a slew of dental work done. Right now she is being fitted for dentures, and the process was going great, she finally found a dentist who took her concerns seriously and actually listened to her. Well, for the past 2-3 months now, she's had quite a nasty problem. She is able to squeeze pus from her gums. She brought the problem up to her dentist and he told her that it was nothing to worry about. Except, now it is. She is constantly having to rinse her mouth out with mouth wash because the taste makes her sick and the smell is nauseating. She said she thinks she probably swallows a gallon of pus a day (sarcastically, of course). But now, she is throwing up some kind of acid vomit and is generally unwell. I told her that she needed to see a doctor, since the dentist is telling her that everything is fine and it's completely normal. She firmly believes the pus is what's making her sick. What could be causing this? She says her mouth doesn't hurt in any way, and she doesn't show any other signs of infection, besides the unrelenting fountain of pus. Has anyone ever heard of this happening before? Thanks in advance. I've tried looking this up elsewhere, and have had no luck finding any type of information out.

I've had asthma for about 11 years now, and in the past 4 months, the symptoms have gotten nearly unbearable. It's difficult to take a deep breath in, and I often feel like I can't catch my breath. I'm on an albuteral inhaler and my doctor started me on Asmanex 3 weeks ago. I just got over a sinus infection and bronchitis about 3 weeks ago, also, but these symptoms seem to be hanging on. I'm using my rescue inhaler about 4 times a day now and before I hardly ever used it. What's going on? I don't really have a clear understanding on my asthma, my doctor basically told me you have asthma and gave me the script for the inhaler and sent me on my way. It wasn't until I ended up with pneumonia that a respiratory therapist went over possible triggers and things like that with me. I also have a history of panic attacks, could I be confusing the two, or is it possible to start having an asthma attack, then trigger a panic attack? Ugh, this is so confusing to me. I just need to know if anyone else has experienced anything like this. From going to no symptoms to this, how does that work? Please help!!!! Thanks in advance : )

My daughter is 7years old. She has been slowly learning to read since kindergarten. She is now in the first grade. When she is home, she will read to me, and then I read to her. Several of her books are at 3rd grade levels, and she can read them with minimum help. The books her teacher sends home for her to read, she whips right through them with no problems. Today I get a letter from her teacher asking me to sign a piece of paper to have my daughter put into a "special" class for slow learners. This teacher is trying to say that my daughter is way behind her classmates in reading and spelling, even though she brings home her spelling tests and each time they're 100%, I have them all hanging on my fridge. I'm not sure what this teacher's problem is. All I know is that when my daughter was in kindergarten, her teacher would rave about her progress in school, and now this teacher has done nothing but complain. I've tried talking to the principal, but he seems very disinterested in the entire situation.

I have a son who has a LD and is ADHD. So I know what to look for. I don't see any of these problems in my daughter. She is a very hard worker, and when she comes home after school, she does her homework first, without me even having to tell her. She has no problems reading for either me or her dad, the problem seems to happen once she walks through those doors to school. I've tried getting her to open up about it, but she just clams up and refuses to talk. Will I have to put her into this class or do I have options? How do I get to the root of the problem?

My daughter is looking forward to next year when she transfers out of the district she's in and gets to attend the same school as her brother. I just need to help her hold on for another two months. Any advice? Thank you in advance : )

My brothers ex-girlfriend filed a protection order on him earlier this week, a move I fully supported for the safety of my nephews, as my brother has a serious drinking problem and is now in rehab. Well, now that she has this order, she is making life basically H*ll unbearable for my mom and I. She has made it so that my mom can not see her grandchildren without supervision, for reasons that she can't even explain. Now she is claiming that she can contact my brother but my brother can't contact her. I told her that I have had a protection order before and that is not how it works. Neither parties is to have any further contact with each other. She now wants me to pass on messages to him, which I refuse to do. She wants to call him, but we won't give out his information. He feels that he is not in a place right now that he is healthy enough to have contact with his boys and he definitely does not want anything to do with his ex. She has turned into someone I no longer know anymore. Have the laws changed since I obtained a protection order? Can a victim now contact the defendant of a protection order? On the order, she states that the only way for him to contact her, is through an attorney. Just trying to help my brother find the right advice, even though he wants no further contact with her, and is thinking of filing his own order against her. It's turned into a huge fatal attraction deal. And it totally sucks!!!!!

Yesterday, I signed into my Yahoo messenger and I had an offline message from someone I had never heard from. All they had sent was some sort of link. Well, because I know most of the rules, I just deleted the messages. After doing this, my computer froze for about 3 minutes then the windows shut down. So my computer restarted, and I again tried signing into messenger. Only this time the message that says sign in problems blah blah. So I clicked forgot my password and changed my password TWICE!!! I did all the things I could, and still could not access my messenger. Today, still a no-go. I don't go into chat rooms, the only people I chat with are my mom and my cousin. How could this happen? Neither one of them go into chat rooms either, but then none of us are exactly computer savvy. What the heck happened? And more important, how do I fix it? I've had this account for 3 years, I change the password every 2 weeks. I am so mad! How could someone I don't even know contact me?

Yesterday, I signed into my Yahoo messenger and I had an offline message from someone I had never heard from. All they had sent was some sort of link. Well, because I know most of the rules, I just deleted the messages. After doing this, my computer froze for about 3 minutes then the windows shut down. So my computer restarted, and I again tried signing into messenger. Only this time the message that says sign in problems blah blah. So I clicked forgot my password and changed my password TWICE!!! I did all the things I could, and still could not access my messenger. Today, still a no-go. I don't go into chat rooms, the only people I chat with are my mom and my cousin. How could this happen? Neither one of them go into chat rooms either, but then none of us are exactly computer savvy. What the heck happened? And more important, how do I fix it? I've had this account for 3 years, I change the password every 2 weeks. I am so mad! How could someone I don't even know contact me?

About 5 years ago, I moved into a mobile home that was in a flood zone. What I didn't know then, but do now, is that most of the homes that were not completely destroyed were simply repaired (Yes, it is owned by slum lords). When I moved in, I noticed what looked like particle board all over the yard, but I didn't think anything of it. We had major flooding here and as it turns out the place I rented was one that wasn't completely destroyed. I noticed it had a smell to it, but I trusted the landlord and he told me that the place had been empty for awhile, and that the smell would eventually go away. We stayed there for 7 months, and if anything, the smell only got worse. It was a strong mildewy stench that stunk up our clothes no matter how often we washed them, our hair always stunk, and we were plagued with constant colds, allergies and respiratory infections. I was young then and was just glad that I found such a bargain. Well, for reason's I won't get into, the police came to my house and the first thing they mentioned was the smell. After about 10 minutes just standing in the doorway, most had to go outside to get some fresh air. That's when I started thinking there might be a connection to our illnesses and the smell. One of the officers mentioned black mold and told me that I really needed to get it checked out.

About a month after moving in, I began suffering from headaches. I've been out of the dump for about 5 years, but I am still suffering headaches, and they recently started getting worse. I've tried to look up whether exposure would cause these ongoing headaches, but so far no luck. I am going to be seeing a neurologist, but until then I wanted to know if anyone else has dealt with this or heard of anything like this?

My doctor prescribed me Topomax for migraines. I had an abnormal MRI, and I will be seeing a neurologist at the end of Feb., the findings were consistent with a demylienating disorder (i.e. M.S. or Lyme Disease), but lately I've been very shaky and the headaches are not going away, if anything they are become even more unbearable. This jittery feeling often leaves me feeling drained and I have absolutely no energy to do anything. I become winded doing the smallest of things (like cleaning the house etc.) my muscles have also started aching at the slightest provocation. Before these headaches struck and forced me to withdraw from normal activity ( I've dealt with headaches for years but lately they've become debilitating) I was working out daily for 45 min., I was able to do things with my daughter, and now I'm just to wiped out to do anything. I still try to work out, but I usually only last about 10 min. before my muscles are screaming, I'm gasping for breath (working out at a normal pace), and I'm about to drop from exhaustion. I'm not sure if I can blame all of this on Topomax, but I'm just grasping at straws right now. I just want to get my life back. Anyone with any experience in this, Please help me. Just until I get to the neurologist. Thank you in advance.

I recently had surgery, and was prescribed morphine for pain. Well, like a trooper, I tried to tough it out as best I could (addiction run rampant in my family), well, this morning, I couldn't take it anymore, so I decided, well, I'll just cut one up int 1/4's. I took one of 1/4's and for about the first 15 min. I felt nothing, so I thought well, whatever, I'm not taking anymore than that. 30 min. later, I started feeling a strange burning sensation up in my rib cage (the soft part where they do the chest compressions), and then this strange spasming in the same spot started. Now, I've called my doctor, and I'm just waiting for him to call back, but while I wait, I wanted to know if anyone else has gone through this and what he** is it??? I tried to vomit the pill back up, with no luck, but it seems like the only way to make the pain go away, is the gagging reflex when my stomach sucks in, but that only last about 5 minutes before the pain comes back. I can breathe fine, as long as I don't take deep breaths, but this pain is moving into my shoulders (like a gall bladder attack but in both shoulders). Is this an allergic reaction? I have learned my lesson and I'm going to take the pills back to the pharmacist. How do I make the pain go away? I would cry but that would probably make the pain worse.

I have been with my current bf on and off for almost 14 years. We have two beautiful kids together. My son is 11 years old, and has a variety of behavioral problems some due to his fathers emotional detachment and some due to my immaturity because I was a teen mom. My son has taken wonderful steps and is on the way to becoming a successful student and is a very caring person. My daughter is a little diva and was brought up quite differently because I was older when I had her. My bf though doesn't seem to have grown up at all. We started dating when I was 15 years old and fresh out of treatment for an e/d and in a foster home. I have done a lot of growing up to help my kids' home life improve greatly. The one thing holding me back. Their dad. It's awful to say and I feel absolutely horrible saying it. He is completely detached from the kids. He sleeps all day and is up on the computer all night. God forbid one of the kids actually wants to play with him, it won't happen. I have become the one stable mainstay in the kids' lives. He has been in and out of their lives for a better part of their lives. For the last 3 years, he's been here, but I am beginning to believe that we would have all been better off if I wouldn't have taken him back. He has developed a gambling addiction. He actually took my daughter's girl scouts money and to this day denies he did it, but I know that I didn't take it and I know that my 7 year old didn't take it. If she had, there would've been money laying around the house. I honestly don't know what his hold is on me. I do feel sorry for him because no one in his family will allow him to stay with them. He's 29 years old and has never supported himself. I finished school and went on to college. He is a drop out and is laid off until May and now he just lays around like a slug. My family jokes that he has grown into the mattress. The man hasn't taken a shower in 2 weeks and I just can't take it anymore. His ship is sinking fast and I feel like he's taking us down with him. I just wish I didn't feel so bad for wanting to get rid of him. I know I need to think about my kids first and the effect that he's having on them. It's not healthy, but how do I make myself stop feeling sorry for him? As someone who has battled an addiction (alcohol), and won, I just wish he would fight. But that won't happen, so now what? The only way I'll get rid of him is if I leave MY house and wait until he can't pay the bills anymore and then the landlord said he'll take the legal steps to have him kicked out for good and then he'll let me come back, gladly. Has anyone else faced this situation? How did it work out for you? Does the pity ever go away? I'm sorry it's so long, I just really need to get it out, I could actually go on, but I won't.

I know it's * something, but I can't remember what the two numbers are after the star, lol. And i'm too lazy to deal with the phone company right now, so I thought I would give this a try. Has anyone heard of this and if so, how do I do it? Thanks in advance...

I posted a question 2 days ago about how to find my husband. I have located his mom's address and I'm going to be sending a certified letter to her house.

Now I don't know how to write a letter of intent. I'm not sure I should write the grounds for the divorce (abandonment), or just that I am filing. He also has a warrant for his arrest in this state, should I mention that or just leave that out? If you want you can email me samples of letters of intent or just give out some tips. Thank you everyone, in advance. :). I would appreciate no sarcastic comments as this is a very difficult thing to do and I'm just mad as h@*$ right now.

I married my husband 11/16/06. Two months after our wedding he took off back to Oregon. I have no way of finding out where he lives or anything. I know that he lived in Beaverton and Hillsboro for awhile. The last time I talked to him was a year and a half ago and he had mentioned that he was moving to Wyoming.

Shortly after our wedding, he got pulled over for not using his blinker and then was sited for no insurance. He eventually got insurance back on his car, but he still would've had to appear in court and pay a fine. No jail time or anything, just a fine and a suspended sentence. No big deal. It's in the paper here all the time. Well, a week before his court date, he claimed he had to get back to Oregon and tie up some loose ends. I tried to talk him out of it, at least until he cleared up the court mess. He said it couldn't wait. I found out later that he went back because his ex was having problems with her bf and he was hoping to win her back (I know, I really know how to pick them). For awhile he would call me and tell me how much his life sucked and blah blah blah. He started doing drugs and was couch surfing. Eventually we lost touch and I haven't heard from him in a year and a half. When I would bring up getting a divorce, he would change the subject or say he had to go. I'm back together with my kids' dad, and things are going great, we're not talking about marriage yet, because we still want to work on us (counseling and stuff), but there's this elephant that always right there with us and I just want to be done with it.

I read up on the laws and it says that I must make a diligent effort to find him so that I can serve him with the papers before I can make a public notification. I can't hire a P.I., so how else could I go about finding him. I have a way to contact his ex, but I don't want to bring anything up for her, because my husband stalked her and it was quite traumatic for her, and I'm hoping that she was able to get help and move past it ( he really scared her and I apologized to her because I had a feeling he was going down strictly for her). His name is Aaron James Jones b-date 12/9/84. I just really need to close this chapter in my life and move on. I tried to make it work while he was here, but the truth is if a person doesn't love you, you can't make it work. Anyone that has any information or any tips on how to do this, that would be great, thank you. If you have any other questions, just email me.

I've been working with him everyday and he seems fine when I hold my hands up to the cage, he will move away from them, but he won't start flying wildly in his cage, like he used to. So I tried tempting him with some treats to see if he would take them from my hand or the tip of my finger, but the minute the cage door is opened (even just to put food in through the smaller doors), he goes wild, and I'm worried he's going to hurt himself with all the thrashing around he does trying the escape. I'm not trying to scare him. I talk soothingly to him and whistle and make tsking sounds with my tongue (he seems to love that), but nothing seems to work. I'm beginning to think I'll never tame him. I've tried treats and toys and I don't know what else to do. What am I doing wrong? I've read everything I possibly can and watched how-to videos on training and getting birds to trust you, but mine just seems to hate humans, with the exception of my 7 year old daughter, who doesn't really care one way or another what he does. But he'll start singing when she walks in the room and she can sit by his cage and stick her fingers in and he's fine. I've even tried copying her style just to see if it would work, but it hasn't. He does seem to like when I sing to him, because he looks like he starts dozing off once I start, and he absolutely loves music. But the minute I walk into the room he freezes and he's like a statue. I have gotten him to play a couple of games as long as I keep my distance. Like if I whistle two times. he'll whistle two times etc. Please help me. I'm not going to get rid of him or anything, because well, I'm already attached to him and I love him dearly, I just want him to know that I'm not going to hurt him in any way.

I just got my parakeet, Sylvester, today. I've spent the entire day with him and looking up different sites on how to care for him. I also did some research before I got him. I've been talking to him and the lady at the store told me he likes to watch t.v. and look out the window, so I did both of these activities. I'm curious, how long should I wait before I attempt to handle him. I don't want to move to fast, and break his trust, but then I don't want to move to slow either. Any advice would be useful. I also bought a buttload of toys for him (mirrors, cuttlebones etc.). And baths, I don't want to traumatize him, so how should I figure out what is the best way to bathe him? I thought maybe just putting a small bowl in the cage for him to use, but I'm not sure. I haven't heard him make a sound. Is that normal? The lady at the pet shop wasn't very helpful as far as answering any questions like this. According to her, he was just a social butterfly, but she mentioned that he wasn't quite tamed yet. Okay, I think I'm done, Help me, please :)...

Here's the situation, in November, my boyfriends sister agreed to put me on her cell phone plan. I paid for my phone and all the other stuff. Three weeks after I got my phone, it disappeared. I later found out that a week before this, she called my bf and said that she needed the phone back because her husband was freaking out that she put me on HER plan. So my bf took the phone and gave back. Two days after that, we found out that she actually gave the phone to her husband. It turns out that he saw the phone at my bf's birthday party (it was one of the new Rumor phones in metallic blue), and he was asking my bf's sister about it. When he found out the phone was under her name, he decided he wanted it. So long story short, he got the phone, and now they expect me to $100 for a phone that I had for not even 3 weeks. I never used the phone during the day, I paid to have unlimited text and unlimited nite and weekends. I didn't have internet (had it blocked). She refuses to show me the bill and I refuse to pay it. Sprint claims that since i'm no longer on the acc't. I can't have access to the information on it. So do I have to pay for this, or am I right? I am not paying for the termination fee. She broke the contract!!!!