Lauren

My 19 yr old daughter lives at my house. She is a wonderful young woman. We are very close. She has a very sweet 20 yr old boyfriend who I like very much. The problem is they are always at my house 24/7. They never go anywhere or do anything but sit on the couch. They love being with me and it warms my heart. But I feel I never get any alone time. So I have asked her to at least go to his house 2 or 3 nights a week. She doesn't understand why. Its just that I feel that my house isn't my own anymore. I find myself squirreled away in my room to get some alone time. It seems to be causing tension between my husband and I as well. I love my daughter very much and it isn't personal against her boyfriend. All I to want is a few hours to myself. I dont want her to leave 3 nights a week I would prefer her to be home, but she wants to be with her boyfriend so I have asked for them to go to his house 3 nights a week. How can I get her to understand without feeling the guilt?

I was looking at the pictures on my husband's phone and he has pictures of sexy women from a website saved to his phone. Why do men do this? I can understand looking at these pictures online or in a magazine, but why take the time to save them on his phone? He doesn't know I looked at these pictures so I took a very sexy picture of myself and sent it to him so he could have a picture of me. He claims he loved the picture but didn't say too much about it. Today I looked to see if he at least saved the picture of me and he didn't, he erased it. I feel hurt, almost as if I am not sexy enough for him. We have been married for 20 years and our sex life is very active. We have sex everyday. But is he using these pictures to get fired up with then he comes to bed? or do you guys masturbate to them and that is why you save them?? I am just trying to understand and not feel hurt or jealous.

I have been married for 22 years. My marriage is good and our sex life is very active. I am thin and physically fit, as is my husband. The other day I was looking at the pictures on my husbands phone to find a picture he took our of son and I noticed he has a couple of sexy pictures of women in lacy underwear. I can tell by the pictures that he took these pictures with his phone from the TV. Also one picture is of a woman's body, which I am sure it was a forward text from his pig friend who always sends that stuff around. I understand that he is human and will look at nice looking woman, but why save it on his phone? Do men save these pics on their phone to fantasize or masturbate to? I understand him looking, but why the need to save on his phone? It makes me feel unattractive and not sexy especially since he never tells me I am either of those things. Any thoughts?

I am a 42 yr old woman with regular periods. I get my period regularly every 25 days. This month I ended my period and then 14 days later I have my period back. I have cramping and back pain. Is this normal or should I call my doctor. Also I have been very stressed with marital issues could this do it

My husband over a month ago said he wanted a divorce. He later that night said he wanted to work it out and told me that if his feelings didn't change in a month or so he would leave. Now to let you know our relationship, we have been married for 22 years. We get along very well. We laugh and talk and sometimes disagree, but nothing major. We have a very very nice active sex life (every night!). So it was a very big surprise to hear from him he wasn't happy. When I asked him why he wasn't happy he kept saying he didn't know. He said he loves me and our son, but he wasn't sure if he wanted his freedom to do what he wanted. He swears it isn't another woman and I believe him. It has been a month since that time and things seems fine once again, but how do I know if he is happy with me or if he is staying because he cant bear to leave our 13 year old son (he is extremely close with). He doesn't like to talk about his feelings and I don't want to rock the boat and piss him off. I have been trying so hard to look nice, act sweet and basically do anything he wants from me, but at times I wonder when he will do the same for me. Sometimes I feel invisible like I don't matter. How do you know when someone truly loves and wants to be with you? After all these years with my husband I should know this but up until a month ago I thought I did, now I just have this insecurity and I don't want to be that person. Any advice?

My husband told me out of the blue that he was 99% sure he wanted a divorce. Over the last year we don't have huge fights, we disagree and get over it.

Over the course of our marriage, however, I have been a little hurt that he never shows affection unless we are having sex (which we do every night that part is the best) He doesn't say I love you, he doesn't hug or kiss just for the heck of it. So in turn I didn't show him one once of affection either. We have been married for 22 years and I love him dearly.

We talked the first night after his announcement that he was leaving and he decided to give it another try. He decided that as quickly as he said he wanted a divorce. Leaving my head spinning.. How do I act? I don't know what to do or say. I don't want to ask him about what he is feeling and push him, so I am trying to be as normal as possible and giving him space.

It has been a week and we seem to be fine. He acts as if he never said those words to me. How do I know if he is happy? I never knew he was unhappy enough before to want a divorce. So since that day I give him a lot more affection, random hugs, kisses and I love yous. He still hasn't said I love you first or given any affection first. There is nothing I would love more than for him to give me a hug seeing how crushed I have been by him lately. . Am I expecting too much?

Throughout our marriage I have never controlled his money, he can do what he wants. I have never told him he cant go out with buddies. I pretty much let him do what he wants because I trust him. When it comes to our sex life it is very active. I am up for trying kinky wild stuff when he wants to and I initiate some myself. So our sex life is not the problem.

When I asked him what was making him unhappy enough to leave all he could say was he didn't know. He said it wasn't me, wasn't another woman, he just wants his freedom to come and go.

I am baffled as to what is going on because I feel things were in general ok.

I love him and don't want to lose him but I don't want him to stay because he is afraid to hurt me or our 14 year old son.

Any suggestions?

After being married for 18 years my husband says he isn't happy, but doesn't know why. He said he wants to move out and live on his own. He said he hasn't cheated and it isn't about another woman. He says he loves me and I am a great wife. Confusing???? After telling me its over and he isn't happy and doesn't want to be with me, last night he reached for me and held me tight all night telling me how much he loves me. I dont know if I am coming or going with him now. I am an attractive fit woman so it isnt my appearance that he is unhappy with. Also our sex life is great, we are kinky playful etc when the lights go out so can you imagine my surprise listening to him tell me its over. Could he be feeling guilty about leaving our son (12) and thats the reason for his affection last night? What should I do?? He wont go to counseling so this is my only option to see what the general thought is. I dont have any close friends and my mom and dad passed away, so I feel so alone now with no one to talk to. We talked for over 3 hours last night. Do I give him space tonight or should I ask him what his thoughts are. I love him so much and I can't imagine my life without him, but I do not want him to be with me out of pity either. I am going to counseling tomorrow, alone.

I have been married for 21 years. We have a great sex life and don't really argue. My husband has been acting distant for a few months (obviously outside the bedroom) and this morning told me that he is unhappy in the marriage and just lost the fizz" He said he 99% sure he wants a divorce, but didn't come right out and ask for one. He swears on our children's lives there is not another woman. He just kept saying he just lost the feeling for me. What should I do? Is this really over? I feel blind sided because we have never had any problems in our marriage out of the ordinary.

We are best friends and enjoy each others company, but sexually it is just not there lately. Any advice from other long time married couples?

I have tried new running shoes. I have even tried taking 2 weeks off to heal, but the pain is still there, even pressing the gas pedal in my car can be hurtful. Has anyone ever experienced this? I am beginning to wonder if it is not associated with my exercising. Any thoughts out there?

I am not opposed to anything like that, as a matter of fact, we are open to talk about other attractive women, men etc..., but when I casually talked with him about these kinds of web sites his attitude was that he thought they were dumb... Why would be pretend, when obviously he really enjoys it enough to print out pictures? It baffles me, but I don't want to embarrass him and tell him I found the pictures like he is a teenager. What should I think of all this?

I have been maried 20 years and I am trying to come up with a few new things to spice up the entire relationship, not just the sex part, but everything as a whole. He is an awesome guy!