What is the number one thing a wife can do for her husband that is the total turn on?

Its really tough to say. Every couple is different. Not knowing the roles in your relationship, I can only offer suggestions:

1. Do you guys get to go on vacation together often? Does he plan it? If he does the planning, take the inititive and plan a getaway together. If you have kids, dump them on someone for awhile. You friends with his boss? See if you can schedule some vacation time for him without him knowing it. So someplace romantic, warm, or fun (the Water Club Hotel in Atlantic City has some great prices on packages right now. Vegas is getting hit terribly by the economy and with some planning is dirt cheap)

2. How many times have you heard that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach? Its cliche, but the saying has survived generations because it is true. Go to the local culinary school or vocational school and take some cooking classes. Send the kids for a sleep over and cook something new, delicious, and exotic. Lay out a nice table with candles and a nice bottle of wine (Riesling is usually agreeable, even to those who do not like wine). Spice things up? Cook in a chef's apron..only

3. Does he hunt or fish? He got a fishing boat? Take up his hobby with him. Go out on the boat with him for some night walleye fishing, during the day in a secluded spot in the open ocean, or get a nice pop-up blind if he is a hunter. Wear something "nice" under your appropriate clothing and make it one great experience.

4. Bring your youth back into the sexual aspect of the relationship? Remember of days of giving pleasure while your bf was driving? Doing it in the backseat in a parking lot (or a drive in if you can still find one)? Going on a weekend road trip and pulling over to get it on at a rest stop? Going to a concert, get drunk, and do it like bunnies in a hotel room while you are wasted? Ever go at it on a beach somewhere? You might be older, more sophisticated, and maybe a mom, but you are still a woman. Remind him of that and remind him why you got married. If you get caught? So what? Even if the community finds out, you will probably secretly be the envy of your friends.

5. While the point of this is to spend time together, how about spending time apart? He got a stressful job? He tired a lot? Send him away for the weekend with a buddy to a football game or another sports game. If he is a hunter or fisherman, book a hunting trip for him somewhere (not all are expensive...you can go hog hunting for virtually free). There are conventions for virtually anything you can think of. Take a beloved hobby of his and send him away. Go to the local spa/salon yourself. Get highlights, buy a nice outfit, do your nails or have them done, put on the makeup and make yourself hot and beautiful. Take it from there when he gets home. If he was able to rest and relax while he was gone, make sure he is worn out when he gets home.

6. Find a hobby the two of you can share together. He an outdoorsman? Buy an ATV or two and go out together. Just find something new and different you can do together. Skydiving is a great possiblity (being that I've known of people in my small town that were killed skydiving, if you have kids it might not be worth the risk..if not, find an air tunnel that simulates it). Nothing needs to be sexual, but just find something cool that is fun. An adreniline rush is a bonus. Flying lessons? Horseback riding? Rent an RV? Bungee jumping? Whitewater rafting? A covered wagon ride simulating the old west for a few days out in Yellowstone?

I feel you did the right thing. This is because large amounts of alcohol were involved and wasn't done as normal behaviour. I would address this with him, the alcohol, if you are to stay together he is not to go drinking in mixed company. You don't have to drink regularly to be an alcoholic, you just need to be a person that gets very drunk and does stupid things. He may like to check out AA And don't worry what other people say, that once a cheater..... its blah blah... it wasn't premeditated cheating or an affair.... he probably forgot he was married and thought he was 17... Once you've had the talk about the alcohol and set up some ground rules that suit you both then let it go and don't mention it again. If you want something to make up for it (like a shopping trip or a weekend away to visit family/friends while he looks after the kids) then do it now so it doesn't come up in the future as a 'remember when you did this'. Don't let him off scott free, he needs to do something to 'pay' for his stupidity, even if its just doing some of the household chores you normall do for the next six months.

Just have a woman stop everything, the dishes, cleaning etc... and just walk up to me and pay total attention to me without any interruptions. :)

Edit: Yeah, and what Bob The Builder said too!

I'm sure when I am married for 20 years, I'm going to turn around and say my darling husband is an " awesome guy"

If you've really been married this long, you really wouldn't benefit from anyone answering this question

How about that thing that he keeps asking you to do, but you always try to get out of doing or don't try to do it how he really wants you to do it?

wake him up by sucking on his joystick. seriously men like that. or send him a text message that says "i am making chicken pot pie if you want to come home for lunch and i will rub your back while you eat." i got a really good reaction with that one too.

Talk to your husband and find out what turns him on.

Why do women worry about "spicin it up for the guy " come on they av it easy they mess wiv you till they av the green lite an then its me me me they dont worry about if u orgasm ???

If he did u wood,nt be askin this question

You should ask your husband to make you a list. Then there's absolutely no guessing about what he needs you to do for or to him:)

1) showing love by :words, gifts,touches, sex as he like and satisfy him not yourself.

2) respect.