I came in contact with my ex boyfriend who doesn’t want to be platonic friends. He wants more and sex also, what to do with him ?

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He doesn’t want a relationship and neither do I but I at least want friendship. I just divorced my husband so I’m seeking emotional support but he doesn’t want to be that person because he said he wants sex and he doesn’t want me having sex with another man while getting emotional support from him. I told him not I’m not having sex with him or anyone else anytime soon. He was like “ oh you must be scared to have sex with me. It’s not like I’m going to stop talking to you afterwards. When it’s good sex men want to keep going back to the girl.” We broke up 10 years ago. I’m not interested in him anymore but I saw him on Facebook so I thought I would contact him. He’s very funny adventurous free spirited and light hearted he is like me in a lot of ways but only thing is he cheated on me when we was together multiple times. I still wanted to be friends because he does give good advice sometimes. My ex husband and I divorced because he’s too different from me. Opposites don’t attract at all. He’s very serious and doesn’t have a sense of humor. And I guess he found me childish because I enjoyed life more than him

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My ex husband was loyal and protective over me but you can’t work when you have differences like that. I need someone as free spirited and adventurous as me

? · Answer

There are 3.7 billion people on the planet, surely you can find one to befriend who isn't an ex demanding sex. Ask yourself why someone would want to listen to you complain about your divorce and not even get sex in return. If you can't find someone willing to serve as your sounding board that's when you'll know you need to pay a therapist to do it.

Barb Outhere · Answer

So you think you can get "good advice" from the man who cheated on you when you were together, is pushing for sex when all you need right now is a friend? No, girl. Everything he tells you will be with his ultimate goal in mind. 
Better off looking for friendship and advice somewhere else. I can see why it didn't work for you two in the past, so please don't go back down that rabbit hole.

Anonymous · Answer

It looks like you're desperate for attention and loving that your ex still wants to have sex with you.

If you need someone as free spirited and adventurous as you, go find him and stop playing with your ex's head and wasting his time.

You're a big girl and can easily handle your own emotional support.

? · Answer

Haven't you seen "When Harry Met Sally"?  This is clearly your transition person. Have sex with him if you want to. Then get emotional support from your female friends, and be ready to meet someone who will really want to be with you.

Anonymous · Answer

You obv can't be friends with him and probably could use some therapy.

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I came in contact with my ex boyfriend who doesn’t want to be platonic friends. He wants more and sex also, what to do with him ?

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