Kalisto

I am 22 years old and working. I have seen that girls go to guys desks to talk to them etc. This bothers me a lot because they don't come to my place. Why is that ? I am kind of an annoying guy. But even when I'm not annoying girls don't come to my desk. Its always me approaching the girls and I'm not fine with that because it shows one sided friendship . Even when I approach the girls at their place they dint make eye contact and talk and when I ask them to look at me when I'm talking they make that irritated face . I have stopped talking to a few girls who have come and tried speaking again but then I don't want to talk because I will have to go through the same thing again. Girls do call me a$$hole for fun I think. Sometimes they talk to me properly but they seem very moody with me. Sometimes I have also asked girls why they don't come and talk to me first and some get angry with me. They tell that I'm not the only one in office. But they make eye contact with the other guys they talk. I have heard that i am a good looking guy but if I really was why can't they talk to me properly ? I don't understand them at all.

I am 21 years old male who works in an office. I seem to give too much attention to what girls think of me . I also always expect them to come to my desk and talk to me . But this isn't too much to ask because they do it with other guys and if they don't come I ask them a few times until they come. When they do come I ask them to look at me when I'm talking because eye contact is important . Eye contact thing isnt with all girls only a few. Girls have told me good looking without me asking. They also seemed surprised when I say I have never had a girlfriend. How do I get girls to come to my desk without me asking so many times ? How to make sure they hold steady eye contact with me ? I also get upset when a girl goes to another guys desk but not to mine ? I do irritate girls because I make fun of them a lot. I pay a lot of attention to my looks but girls have told me that it isnt the most important thing. How to not be hurt by stupid things like this ? How to make sure they come to my desk and feel comfortable around me ? Should I constantly go behind them trying to talk to them ? Please help me as I ALWAYS WANT TO BE HAPPY AND MEVER GRT HURT BY STUPID THINGS ????

I am 21 years old male who works in an office. I seem to give too much attention to what girls think of me . I also always expect them to come to my desk and talk to me . But this isn't too much to ask because they do it with other guys and if they don't come I ask them a few times until they come. When they do come I ask them to look at me when I'm talking because eye contact is important . Eye contact thing isnt with all girls only a few. Girls have told me good looking without me asking. They also seemed surprised when I say I have never had a girlfriend. How do I get girls to come to my desk without me asking so many times ? How to make sure they hold steady eye contact with me ? I also get upset when a girl goes to another guys desk but not to mine ? I do irritate girls because I make fun of them a lot. I pay a lot of attention to my looks but girls have told me that it isnt the most important thing. How to not be hurt by stupid things like this ? How to make sure they come to my desk and feel comfortable around me ? Should I constantly go behind them trying to talk to them ? Please help me as I ALWAYS WANT TO BE HAPPY AND MEVER GRT HURT BY STUPID THINGS ????

I am 21 years old and work in office. I don't know my identity at all. I keep changing according to whether people will look me or not. I sometimes act nicely sometimes very rude. I generally don't care about others feelings at all . Especially the way I treat girls. I keep making fun of them and also I flirt with some of them by calling them pretty and giving them other compliments but I don't think they like my attitude because I come off as rude . Many girls think I'm good looking , not hot but good looking and they have told me this as well. But this has never helped me get any special attention. I don't see girls coming to my desk to talk to me without me calling them . How to become good friends with girls ? I also keep comparing myself. Suppose a girl goes to another guys desk and talks to them I keep asking that girl why she doesn't come to my desk. Do girls like this comparison ? Does it bother them. Some of them say I am immature and act childish sometimes. How do I change this and become a guy that girls actually like because they barely care about looks now a days.

I am a guy 21 years old. I had a fight with a female friend in which she told me that I am very very irritating and this hurt me a lot for some reason. I had completely ignored her for 2 weeks during which she did look at me many times . But today for some weird reason I went a spoke to her . I feel that if she was a real friend she would have definitely come and spoken to me but she didn't . I realised this after I approached her. Now my ego feels hurt. What do I do ?? I feel like I lost and I want to ignore her again .

I am a guy 21 years old. I had a fight with a female friend in which she told me that I am very very irritating and this hurt me a lot for some reason. I had completely ignored her for 2 weeks during which she did look at me many times . But today for some weird reason I went a spoke to her . I feel that if she was a real friend she would have definitely come and spoken to me but she didn't . I realised this after I approached her. Now my ego feels hurt. What do I do ??

I am 21 years old male. I am an extremely paranoid and jealous guy. Even though a girl is not my girlfriend and I see a different guy talking to her , I don't get angry but I think to my self that why that girl doesn't speak as enthusiastically with me. I keep asking this one girl why she texts a guy more than me and she is a very nice girl and she always says that it is just my assumption but i don't believe her. Because of this paranoia , I completely ignored her in office for 3 days and the 4th day she came directly to me and asked me why I am acting like a kid. After I reached home I messaged her asking why she did that and then she called me and sorted out the issue. I keep asking her why she sends him longer texts and why she likes him more and she says that she never compares. I won't be surprised even if she likes the other guy more because I am generally not likeable by girls. I have heard that many girls think I'm good looking even in office. They have told me this but have never called me hot maybe because I'm a little out of shape but that's is fixable. I also care a lot about how my face looks .I have started working out and hope to become "hot" . I wish I was the guy girls actually liked being around. Girls have also call me annoying because I keep irritating then but it's my nature. How to come out of this childish attitude and become mature ? How to stop ignoring girls when there is a problem and face the issue and sort it ?

I am 22 years old male. Many pretty girls and well as girls tell me that I am a really good looking guy. When I asked one pretty girl ( when she told me this ) if I am hot or not , she said no , you are good looking not hot. What is the difference ? Please help

I am 21 year old male in office. I often receive compliments from girls for my looks. They say that I look really good. In a truth or dare game once played a girl said she actually thought I am an attractive guy. I know they aren't lying because they don't look down or get fidgety. Many of them also ask me how I have never had a girlfriend and it's not possible. Some of them also act a little flirty with me . I am also very flirty with girls I am comfortable with and call them pretty many times. I also irritate a few of them a lot but if it was another guy they would have slapped him but they somehow tolerate me. This all happened once I grew a beard. I was good looking even when I was clean shaven but when I grew a beard I started getting more looks. I also maintain it a lot but applying beard shampoo , beard softener and beard oil everyday and see that my hair is perfect before going out. I also have less emotions for other people in general. Some girls call me a$$hole but I think it's for fun . This is all suprising because deep down I am an insecure person but no one knows this. BUT IT DOESNT SEEM LIKE GIRLS ACTUALLY CARE WHETHER THR GUY IS ATTRACTIVE OR NOT BECAUSE I DONT RECEIVE THR ATTENTION WHICH I THOUGHT I WOULD GET. MAYBE BECAUSE IN TV SHOWS GOOD LOOKING GUYS GET A LOT OF ATTENTION . HOW TO NOT PUT EVERYTHING ON LOOKS.

I am 21 and work in office. There is a new guy who has joined our office . I have a feeling a girl thinks he is hot and it pissed me off and made me very depressed. I have heard I'm good looking but now I feel like asking that girl whether I am good looking or not . Help me why is this happening

I am 21 year old and work in office. I always want to impress girls with my looks . Everything I think of when I'm talking to them is if think I'm good looking. I also ask girls if I'm good looking . They say yes obviously because I don't think if you ask someone they will say no. One girls said I am good looking . Even though I think I'm good looking why don't I get the attention from girls that I think good looking guys should get ? I always look at other guys like actors and sports players that girls think are hot . I am also incredibly jealous when I see a girl talk to a guy. Yesterday I had a office party and I was getting very bored . I also realised that girls don't think I'm good looking because when I was sitting alone for sometime , literally no one came to me but towards the end two girls did . I don't drink and dont smoke and did not fit in at all and now my full weekend is ruined thinking whether girls think I'm good looking or not. I do see girls looking at me and they also make strong eye contact when I talk to them and so look at my beard or cheeks and they also look at me in the eye . How to know if they find me ugly ?

I am 21 year old and work in office. I always want to impress girls with my looks . Everything I think of when I'm talking to them is if think I'm good looking. I also ask girls if I'm good looking . They say yes obviously because I don't think if you ask someone they will say no. One girls said I am good looking . Even though I think I'm good looking why don't I get the attention from girls that I think good looking guys should get ? I always look at other guys like actors and sports players that girls think are hot . I am also incredibly jealous when I see a girl talk to a guy. Yesterday I had a office party and I was getting very bored . I also realised that girls don't think I'm good looking because when I was sitting alone for sometime , literally no one came to me but towards the end two girls did . I don't drink and dont smoke and did not fit in at all and now my full weekend is ruined thinking whether girls think I'm good looking or not. I do see girls looking at me and they also make strong eye contact when I talk to them and so look at my beard or cheeks and they also look at me in the eye . How to know if they find me ugly ?

Hi , I just want to know if a girl thinks I'm good looking or not. So is there any point in asking her ?

I am 21 year old male.I work in an office .I have recently started getting upset when I approach girls but they never approach me to just talk .I am generally a nice guy but recently this has gotten me very angry. Its not like they are busy with work because we all have the same amount of work and not so much that it's impossible for them to come talk to me .This is this about the first girl in my office .She is a nice girl and talks to people but I know that it is only me approaching her first , me saying hi and it's like I have to call her 3-4 times before she comes and talks to me. I have known this girl for almost a year. Same thing with a second girl .I asked her why she doesn't come and talk and she says what's wrong if you come , why so much ego.I told her it's not ego because I also come and talk to her. I am a very nice guy and I feel these girls take me for granted like I need them because I have always approached them. So I don't know what happened but past week Friday I had enough and just stopped talking to these girls . The first girl said hi , how are you and I spoke normally . But i never approached her. She came to me in the afternoon and said " hey how come you didn't come and talk to me " and I said I didn't want to disturb you and then I told her I have a lot of work so she should just go . She said why are you showing this much attitude. She also asked me for a few questions after. The second girl saw me later on but I didn't speak to her properly today.

I am 21 year old male.I work in an office .I have recently started getting upset when I approach girls but they never approach me to just talk .I am generally a nice guy but recently this has gotten me very angry. Its not like they are busy with work because we all have the same amount of work and not so much that it's impossible for them to come talk to me .This is this about the first girl in my office .She is a nice girl and talks to people but I know that it is only me approaching her first , me saying hi and it's like I have to call her 3-4 times before she comes and talks to me. I have known this girl for almost a year. Same thing with a second girl .I asked her why she doesn't come and talk and she says what's wrong if you come , why so much ego.I told her it's not ego because I also come and talk to her. I am a very nice guy and I feel these girls take me for granted like I need them because I have always approached them. So I don't know what happened but past week Friday I had enough and just stopped talking to these girls . The first girl said hi , how are you and I spoke normally . But i never approached her. She came to me in the afternoon and said " hey how come you didn't come and talk to me " and I said I didn't want to disturb you and then I told her I have a lot of work so she should just go . She said why are you showing this much attitude. She also asked me for a few questions after. The second girl saw me later on but I didn't speak to her properly today.

I'm 21 years old male. There is this girl in my office . She has a boyfriend but she talks to guys in the office. Her boyfriend is not in office. But we are kind of friends according to me but she never approaches and it's always me approaching her . Even when I go and sit next to her , she never makes eye contact with me and only occasionally makes it .I joke around a lot with her and also pull her out of the lift while leaving office. It hurt her hand twice when I did that . She looks at me when I'm talking but not looking at her.I keep approaching her thinking that I'm her friend so it's fine .But I think she is taking my friendship for granted . She makes eye contact with other people. If I don't approach her she will never care that I didn't talk to her. This one sided friendship won't work for me and this makes me depressed everyday when I'm going home. I don't have feelings for her but it's just the friendship thing . The next day I ignored her completely and she approached me 3 times but I ignored her and the last time she had approached me she said that I will regret this . I told I will never. And after that when I was leaving office , she scremed bye !! But I still ignored her and next day we both ignored each other but I wasn't feeling well and so I was leaving office early and she called out my name but I ignored. I am very hurt because in the past I always approached her . The other day she tried giving me five when we won a game but I ignored. Is this childish?

I'm 21 years old male. There is this girl in my office . She has a boyfriend but she talks to guys in the office. Her boyfriend is not in office. But we are kind of friends according to me but she never approaches and it's always me approaching her . Even when I go and sit next to her , she never makes eye contact with me and only occasionally makes it .I joke around a lot with her and also pull her out of the lift while leaving office. It hurt her hand twice when I did that . She looks at me when I'm talking but not looking at her.I keep approaching her thinking that I'm her friend so it's fine .But I think she is taking my friendshyfor granted . She makes eye contact with other people. If I don't approach her she will never care that I didn't talk to her. This one sided friendship won't work for me and this makes me depressed everyday when I'm going home. I don't have feelings for her but it's just the friendship thing . The next day I ignored her completely and she approached me 3 times but I ignored her and the last time she had approached me she said that I will regret this . I told I will never. And after that when I was leaving office , she scremed bye !! But I still ignored her and next day we both ignored each other but I wasn't feeling well and so I was leaving office early and she called out my name but I ignored. I am very hurt because in the past I always approached her but she talks to other guys and is better friends with those guys than me and its just wrong.

I'm 21 years old male. There is this girl in my office . She has a boyfriend but she talks to guys in the office. Her boyfriend is not in office. But we are kind of friends according to me but she never approaches and it's always me approaching her . Even when I go and sit next to her , she never makes eye contact with me and only occasionally makes it .I joke around a lot with her and also pull her out of the lift while leaving office. It hurt her hand twice when I did that . She looks at me when I'm talking but not looking at her.I keep approaching her thinking that I'm her friend so it's fine .But I think she is taking my friendship for granted . She makes eye contact with other people. If I don't approach her she will never care that I didn't talk to her. This one sided friendship won't work for me and this makes me depressed everyday when I'm going home. I don't have feelings for her but it's just the friendship thing . The next day I ignored her completely and she approached me 3 times but I ignored her and the last time she had approached me she said that I will regret this . I told I will never. And after that when I was leaving office , she scremed bye !! But I still ignored her and next day we both ignored each other but I wasn't feeling well and so I was leaving office early and she called out my name but I ignored. I am very hurt because in the past I always approached her but she talks to other guys and is better friends with those guys than me and its just

I'm 21 years old male. There is this girl in my office . She has a boyfriend but she talks to guys in the office. Her boyfriend is not in office. But we are kind of friends according to me but she never approaches and it's always me approaching her . Even when I go and sit next to her , she never makes eye contact with me and only occasionally makes it .I joke around a lot with her and also pull her out of the lift while leaving office. It hurt her hand twice when I did that . She looks at me when I'm talking but not looking at her.I keep approaching her thinking that I'm her friend so it's fine .But I think she is taking my friendshyfor granted . She makes eye contact with other people. If I don't approach her she will never care that I didn't talk to her. This one sided friendship won't work for me and this makes me depressed everyday when I'm going home. I don't have feelings for her but it's just the friendship thing . The next day I ignored her completely and she approached me 3 times but I ignored her and the last time she had approached me she said that I will regret this . I told I will never. And after that when I was leaving office , she scremed bye !! But I still ignored her and next day we both ignored each other but I wasn't feeling well and so I was leaving office early and she called out my name but I ignored. I am very hurt because in the past I always approached her but she talks to other guys and is better friends with those guys than me and its just wrong.

I'm 21 years old male. There is this girl in my office . She has a boyfriend but she talks to guys in the office. Her boyfriend is not in office. But we are kind of friends according to me but she never approaches and it's always me approaching her . Even when I go and sit next to her , she never makes eye contact with me and only occasionally makes it .I joke around a lot with her and also pull her out of the lift while leaving office. It hurt her hand twice when I did that . She looks at me when I'm talking but not looking at her.I keep approaching her thinking that I'm her friend so it's fine .But I think she is taking my friendshyfor granted . She makes eye contact with other people. If I don't approach her she will never care that I didn't talk to her. This one sided friendship won't work for me and this makes me depressed everyday when I'm going home. I don't have feelings for her but it's just the friendship thing . The next day I ignored her completely and she approached me 3 times but I ignored her and the last time she had approached me she said that I will regret this . I told I will never. And after that when I was leaving office , she scremed bye !! But I still ignored her and next day we both ignored each other but I wasn't feeling well and so I was leaving office early and she called out my name but I ignored. I am very hurt because in the past I always approached her but she talks to other guys and is better friends with those guys than me and its just wrong.