Nicole

I couldn't let her do the swab because I was so scared and I was crying and it hurt so bad. Does a guy really need sex and is it that important to them? Am I really useless relationship-wise? How will I ever do it besides laying there and crying?!? I've never even been abused and I don't know why I'm this way The gyno recommended cream to soothe irritation down there and I using it on my outer and inner lips (not inside because it's external use only)

She said that something scraping against the vaginal wall causes pain and irritation. If so how does doing it not leave women sore and irritated?

I don't think every male/every person does but I was wondering

By a bunker I mean like a safe room in case of a flood, tornado, nuclear attack, war, ETC. and if so what could they have in it? And how big could they make it?

And why do they have to move (you know what I mean) to (you know what I mean)?

I don't feel much when I put fingers in ... is this normal? And is really all of a female's pleasure in the clitoris and the vagina was only created so a man could feel good and so babies could be born? Does penetration feel as good for a female as a male and if it doesn't sometimes then is she just doing it for the dude?

Does the vagina give as much pleasure as the clitoris? I ask because I was lubricated and tried to stick three fingers in and it felt like I was being stabbed in me! But then I put two in and it felt a little good but I didn't feel much either. Why is that? Why am I numb in me?

How will a pe*is ever go in? I think I'm just too small for that to ever happen and how come some people say penetration stimulates the clitoris and other people say that it doesn't stimulate the clitoris at all? Does the vagina give as much pleasure as the clitoris or is it kind of numb? I tried to put three fingers in when I was lubricated but it felt like I was being stabbed. Two fingers didn't hurt but I didn't really feel much either ... why is that?

If I have vulvodynia/sensory issues will I ever be able to feel like masturbation feels good and is really enjoyable and that sex feels good (when I start having)? Everybody says it's amazing and beautiful and feels great but if I have vulvodynia or sensory issues will it always be an empty, meaningless, painful thing I for guy and fake pleasure? I mean it doesn't seem like it is going to be all it's cracked up to be. I mean it seems like people say this about it:

It's so wonderful, amazing, beautiful, and enjoyable with someone you love and no matter what it will feel good if you truly love someone. Well what if someone has a condition that makes sex painful? And also if you don't have sex does that make you not partners/lovers?

And I kind of feel like it will be like this because it's hurts so bad when I try with fingers:

I'm scared the guy will ram it in and also I've been lubricated but three fingers won't go in without pain and I figure most penises are least as wide as two or three fingers (even two is uncomfortable and painful) and I'll want to cry from pain and also I'm scared he'll touch my clitoris which'll make it hurt even worse. Is this lovey dovey sh*t true? And is the clitoris really as amazing as everybody says it is I keep trying to push through pain and I can't and I don't have my appointment until September 1st now ☹️

"Physiologically speaking, there is practically no sensation in the vagina." So does the vagina just exist for men and giving birth? And this is a weird question but I wonder what men feel when they're doing it that makes them so obsessed with sex?

People think I should be a lesbian because of my clitoral and vaginal pain issues. Why are they saying this?

And I am SO SICK of hearing the romance novel/fantasy sex crap about sex being done because of love and feeling amazing and beautiful. I kind of see normal sex between a man and woman as a woman just doing it for clit stimulation (because the average woman would be so sad if she didn't have her clit) and a guy just doing it penetration and the girl doesn't want to have intercourse but she does it to make the guy happy. It just seems like sex in the future for me (I'm a female virgin) will just be meaningless and painful.

Why do people dream up this bordeline-irrational love/feel good sex stuff?

In this question, I'm talking about power dynamics in heterosexual sex. I've heard people say that to have sex the woman/female has to let go of control or give up control or submit to her male partner, and the male has to take the control and dominate his female partner. Is this true, and why do people say these things?

When I touch my clitoris even when it's wet it feels kind of painful if I keep touching it for more than a few seconds. Also, if a woman didn't have the external and internal part of her clitoris would sex be completely unpleasurable for her? And I've heard women that have intercourse say that clitoral stimulation feels better so why do they do it? I have a clitoris and am a virgin but my clitoris whenever stimulated

Someone said if I have these and my clitoris doesn't work correctly I won't like sex. Clitoris just disgusts me now because mine doesn't work and plus if it's so important to woman's pleasure and we're made to reproduce then why isn't it in the vagina and why don't women love penetration the same because a lot of women I've heard of say that the clitoris is the like all of that. Intercourse seems to be something that a woman does because she feels bad that she likes her clitoris better and just mainly for the man. Sex also seems just like trading - man shows up for penetration and woman shows up for clitoral stimulation. I'm not into the gynocologist now because of weather and the doctor was hurrying. I'm a virgin planning on faking orgams but I don't know how to act like I love something that's so painful because I know it will hurt because I'm scared and a guy is wide down there I tried to put fingers in but it hurt so much. Will the guy touch my clitoris? How do you act like you love something you hate?

I feel so disgusted but it's like sex is just like trading where a woman does painful sex to get a relationship. I don't know how any female could ever like it because vaginal and clitoral hurts for me. Also I feel like sex is just about clit for women most of them and I'm defective I feel like I'll die alone and be alone forever and just be worthless cause guys just get in relationships for sex and if the sex is gone they are too from what I've heard. My appointment isn't until September 1st now. F***

I feel like I'm ruined because of my clitoris. My appointment go pushed off again until September 1st. F***. I feel so disgusted and angry at my clitoris. It's so worthless and it's hurts every time I touch it, it even feels uncomfortable with a Q-tip, I find it so hard to believe that the average women would hate sex without a clitoris because most women like clitoral more than vaginal and that the clitoris is that important. I think I'm stuck with clitorodynia or sensory. Plus I'm already planning on faking orgasms. I'm a virgin but when I start having painful sex will my clitoris be touched penetration hurts and also how to act like you're enjoying it when it hurts like f***ing h*ll?

I don't even know when my appointment might be now, or where. I'm wondering if it's just sensory. Every time I start to get turned on there's a really bad pain inside of my vagina and my clitoris hurts whenever it is touched. When I am lubricated at first it feels a little good, but then within 10 to 30 seconds of me (gently) touching it it starts to feel irritating and starts to hurt. And what if the gynocologist doesn't even discover anything wrong with me? What will I do then about the sensory?