I am heart broken, and have feelings of betrayal from my ex boyfriend?
We were together for 5 and a half years...broke up on bad terms and he made mistakes of having sexual relations with another woman. I understand we were not together when he did this, but he says he'd always thought of ME during sex with her. He thought of me everyday. We have ALOT of problems but..we're dedicated and in love again. I just feel betrayed because during our break up, I waited for him and knew we still loved each other...and just the fact that he had sex. We were each others first...and high school sweethearts. How do i get over this? We for broken up for 9 months.
willyrabbit2006-04-30T01:46:41Z
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Listen to Tom Likus on the radio. He talks about why it is not a good idea to get sexually/emotionally involved during your early 20's because guys are out there sexing it up. Your best defense is knowledge about what his mentality is now. He has got a taste of being a player and it is probably real hard to go back to your hurt feeling, expectations, and questions. It would be great if you put all that love you have to yourself and develop you job skills, add some college classes, and get involved in a club that is active outdoors like jogging, etc., a church group, or other group activity. I been there before, just like you......the more women that come between you and him just makes the gap wider for him and your feelings are still just as tight as they always were. Even finding a new guy (cause the right one is not immediately available) wont help, it could even make you miss him more....Invest in yourself and your paycheck will reflect that difference. Be strong and happy that you don't have children with him.
WOW, I was with a boyfriend for 5 years as well and well the $hit head played my *** ALOT... Of course I didn't know it at the time, but we had a weird relationship... we were friends since Day care and went to school together and were there for each other when we experienced the drama of school and boyfriends and girlfriends... we were truly the best of friends! We decided to make it serious and I believe that we loved each other completely. Things change, people change, and he just loved $ex with other chics way more than just one... it just didn't work out for us. Even when we were on our breaks he would confess his love for me (and be screwing some other chic 5 minutes later). Committment can kill a relationship, some people just can't hack it.
O, and guys don't think of anything but Cumming when they are having sex. :) That probably sucks to read, but true.
Oh my gosh.....it sounds as though u r telling my story. I too was in a relationship with someone who cheated on me. We too were high school sweethearts who reconciled after 30 years, and when I found out about the infidelity, I was heart broken and we too parted. I was not willing to allow someone in my life who was emotionally abusive. After being apart for 8 months we reconciled and are doing pre marital counseling and planning to marry at the end of this month. I had to do a lot of soul searching, and honey....it is not easy but I am committed to God, myself, and my fiancee. Counseling has been the best thing that has happened to us. We still struggle because of this but we continue to work on this. My fiancee is supportive (as he knows he should be), he understands that his being unfaithful is what put us here in the first place. Also, it has given him the opportunity to share with other men how being unfaithful has long standing, and severe consequences, and it is never worth the pain and distrust that it brings into peoples' lives. Best wishes and you may contact me anytime should u need to talk...May the God of your understanding guide u through this...
If u all love each other and both are willing to work out your problems, thats great! As for him being with other women after you had broken up, well, you were broken up so its not like he cheated on you, but dont believe that crap about him always thinking of you while he had sex with other women.lol But if he never cheated on you while u2 were together, then you shouldnt feel betrayal, sure u may feel alittle jealous etc, but u have to move on and talk it out.
hmm. i totally understand wht u mean to say and i know it can be very tough n strainin but wht u have to decide is tht do u want to stay with this guy and if yes then try to give it a new beginning... guys are like tht only... for them physical n emotional facets of a relationship are entirely not related... thts why i say sis... it better to fall in love with a woman than a guy ( btw i m straight ;0)