Are there any women out there who love oral sex, but not intercourse?

The girl I'm with hates sex because it hurts quickly after starting, but likes when I go down. This is a good thing, because I like giving better than receiving oral sex, but sometimes I want to be like everyone else and have normal intercourse. I mean, she can't really give head for more than a minute, so she uses her hand all the time, which is cool. I like giving oral sex because I like being in control, and I get a big sense of accomplishment when I go down because I'm good at it. But it always feels like something is missing. Are there any women out there who can associate with this?

angel2006-08-08T14:28:07Z

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okay as far as oral sex there are toys that can be used on the guy and according to my husband they feel good when i use them on him. your women can use this toy while giving oral, the toy is like her using her hand but it feels like the inside of a women, again according to my husband, the toy is opened on one end and so she can also use her mouth, but this will keep her from getting tired to fast. I can relate to the painful sex, but it depends on what the problem is, are you to large for her, or is she not staying wet enough? It really depends on the problem here, If she isn't wet enough, which will cause pain, then you can use something called astro glide, it works great! I hope all this helps.

Anonymous2006-08-08T14:32:36Z

Yes, In all seriousness, I have had pain issues associated with intercourse for 6 years which has dramatically hampered our sex life (mine and hubby's). We opt for oral more often than not because he understands the emotional crisis I go through when it comes to not being able to do certain things during sex (positions, etc.). every time I have to tell him I can not do something he wants to do it is devistating to me emotionally and mentally. He knows this so he gives me options. It still hurts me but I know he is just trying to find SOMETHING that works for both of us. Mine is a very good hubby! Something IS missing...that connection that comes with intercourse. Not sure what advice I can give that will be helpful other than just being creative and trying different things to try to find a few that work and are not so bad for her. Throughout the entire experience just be slow and gentle...try different lubricants, add as much variety as you can until you have a small collection of things that work for both of you. Hope this helps. Good luck! I know how much it sucks! (Pardon the pun!)

Anonymous2006-08-08T14:24:26Z

i don't believe i can associate with this at all. you say she only last a min. when she gives u head, that's not right and not fair. In regards to intercourse, if indeed she's hates sex then you are better off being with someone who does and SHE needs to seek some professional help. I, like yourself luv to give and receive, oral and sex. it is a shared thing and both should be content and satisfied

Anonymous2016-03-27T08:12:29Z

Okay, The oral sex subject I might have a good explanation. I love giving oral to my woman and this has happened with several women so I know it works at least. You can lick all around it as you wish that is fine but if she goes to rubbing her clit then it's not doing it. What seems to do it is to lightly suck the clit area. After a few minutes suck the clit into your mouth and use you tongue to thrash back and forth on the clit. They will climax doing that and hard.Sticking your tongue in the vagina might feel good the first time after that it is really putting her at risk of an infection because the mouth is dirty. They seem to like the licking all around it but it really is just foreplay. Stick to the clit after the foreplay.

nudistfamilyrus2006-08-08T14:20:43Z

I can't associate with it cuz I like sex but I LOVE getting and giving oral. It sounds like she needs to have lots and lots of sex to start to get used to it. For some girls it takes some times to adjust to it.

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