Blowing hot and cold?

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I'm perplexed. Been dating a guy for about a month but lately he's been sending me mixed signals. We dated twice & had the most amazing dates /connection. Then he went off for 2 weeks on holiday. On his holiday, he could not stop texting & calling me. When he got back, he went all distant. So I backed off. He started pursuing me again. 
I have reached my boiling point. For two nights, he could not stop asking me about my plans for the weekend. Yet he never did ask me directly if I wanted to go out. 

When I told him of my plans, he wondered if we would ever get to meet up. Today, we actually agreed to meet up. He asked me to suggest what we should do. I did. He then said that it will now depend on his work & he cannot confirm yet. I know he is a workaholic but it is Saturday for god's sake. Oh & he only communicates with me through text.

I know he likes me but why is he doing this? Guys, I'd like to hear your honest opinion. Should I just leave. He's such hard work. x

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

i think you're expecting too much out of a guy you've only gone on two dates with.  

he sounds like he has a busy life with many different priorities.. he isn't just gonna drop everything all the time.. then again, he does seem to be sending mixed signals.

keep pressing him for that next date.. but at the same time, don't get your hopes too high on him.. and keep your eyes open for others..  it's not like you are in a relationship yet.

. · Answer

I wouldn't put a lot of hope into this situation..if you are kewl with dating casually, then see him on occasion, as scheduling and desire allows, but don't put all your eggs in this basket.

From your description he wants you to play hard to get, and that's a game that's a waste of time...someone either likes you, or they don't...also, it's okay for you to suggest getting together...you don't have to wait for him to do it. No reason to get upset with him on that issue if you don't take the initiative to say "would you like to get together this weekend" either.

If you aren't into casual dating, then I'd suggest you talk to him about how this has gone so far and let him know that at present it's not working well for you...if he'd like to explore a relationship that's great but it will take more than text messaging and tentative get-together plans...

OR you can just decide to end it and the next time you speak with him tell him it's been nice but you don't think y'all are really a good match, and wish him luck in the future.

jenkins_nichole · Answer

how weird!!!  it sounds to me like he already has a girl and he might be trying to cheat on her with you!!  maybe i am wrong but whatever the situation is be careful.  there are plenty of fish in the sea so take your time and use your head.  good luck.

Webballs · Answer

You should talk to him.

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