im only 16 how do i tell my mom that i might be pregnant.she told me that if i get pregnant she will throw me out the house or i will go to jail and my boyfriend will neva see me or his baby agin.i dont know what to do... please no negative coments!!!!!
my boyfrienfriend is 16 also.and he havent told his mom yet
Mambi
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Before you tell your mom.. You or your boyfriend should by a pregnancy test.. Or go to a clinic and have a test done.. Cause you don't want to tell your mom you might be and not be and have any problems with her.. And what it sounds like your boyfriend is over 18 and your mom might send him to jail if she finds out you two are doing it.. Did you miss your time of the month? And if you are not pregnant you should get on the pill, patch or the depo.. And he should wear protection.. At 16 it is hard takin care of a baby.. I am 26 and goin on my third child.. If you want you can email me at underwood80@verizon.net
teyeli2002
Baby Girl! I know you probably heard this 20x or more, but please make sure you're preggo or not. There are clinics that offer free pregnancy tests. I am not sure how you're gonna get there. Have someone to stop by a drug store like Walgreen's or CVS Pharmacy, even Wal-Mart and get a test soon. Its possible you could start showing signs of pregnancy, but its just stress. Nausea, vomiting, headaches, crazy cravings, and stress can even make your period to come late. I hope you are not preggo, just so you can have that 2nd chance to do things right. I know the 3 lettered "s" word feels good, but try your best to refrain from it. Yes, there are birth controlling methods you could try, but all are at your own risk. From those birth controls there has been young & old women that either died from it or experiencing sadness like cancer. Some had to undergo hysterectomy. You don't wanna go through that. You already know about what you would have to go through being a young parent. And how in the world would your mother get you thrown in jail? Is that some new law, cuz i never heard of it.
Jess H
Well, you're not going to go to jail because you're pregnant. (Unless your boyfriend is like 13.) Also--she can not deny your boyfriend the right to see his baby. It's his child, and he has legal rights. Period. Now...to handle telling her:
Step 1--Find out for sure. Take a test. You can get them at any drug store. If you're not even pregnant, then you can save yourself a lot of stress because you won't have to deal with telling her anything. If it's positive, then you might want to make sure to have a plan in place about how you want to deal with this situation. Do you want to keep the baby? Give it up for adoption? Have an abortion? Then you're just going to have to bite the bullet, and tell her. You have no choice. Hopefully, throwing you out of the house was just a threat, and she won't actually do it, but just in case, have a plan in place there, too. Can you stay with your boyfriend? Will his family take you in? Another relative? Is there a home for mothers near you anywhere that you can go? Third step, get yourself a really good job, work your butt off and finish school. If you're planning on keeping this baby, then you've got a LOT of hard work ahead of you if you don't want to wind up living below the poverty level. At your age, keeping your baby probably isn't the best decision--and I mean that more for the baby's sake than yours. Ultimately, it is your decision, though. Just make sure you are going to be able to support and take care of this baby if you do decide to keep it. You would be doing your helpless child a grave injustice if you keep it just to meet your own needs.
Anyway, I wish you the best of luck.
Anonymous
AWW how sad that your mother said this to you! Some parents who are lucky enough to have a daughter need to think, some of us have only been blessed with boys.
First thing make sure you are pregnant. Go get the testing done etc. If you are then see what the father has to say. Maybe he will help with housing etc. Hopefully his parents would be like me and more then happy to have a grand baby around! Do not count on it though...
Unless your b/f is over 18 and your mother presses charges will the cops be called in. You will not go to jail.
Hopefully you are not pregnant. After this be very careful! I have told my boys since they were big enough to understand that if they get a girl pregnant they will help with that child, period! Oh and I get to see the baby too :0)
thepaintman80
First find out if you are pregnant. Look in the phone book or online for family planning and/or crisis pregnancy centers. If you are pregnant and are going to have the baby you need to have medical check ups, vitamins etc. There are advocacy groups that can help you tell your mother and laws protecting you and your child from neglect and abuse. You have to understand why your mother would be upset. That you could potentialy be pregnant at 16 shows a lack of responsability but then you are still a kid and that how kids are. You need to be thinking from this moment on how you are going to do things right. God bless you on this journey.