is this rude?

i was a bible study group that i attend every week, and we always go out to dennys afterwards for late dinner. the other night my boyfriend wanted to go home right after denny's so we were taking separate cars, and my friend told me to hop into her car w/ some other girls. so i did, left my binder and books in her front seat. after dinner, me and my boyfriend got detained by some guy asking for directions, and then asking for money.... and then when we looked up the girls had just LEFT...!!!!! so my bf had to drop me off to get my car AND that girl took off w/ all my stuff!!

isn't that rude? if someone rides in ur car, u should at least ASK before u leave right??

2007-03-30T13:53:20Z

i dont' think it matters if it was bible study or not. doesn't mean they are "automatically" supposed to be nice or anything.. i'm just saying, when u give someone a ride somewhere, before u leave u should make sure they know ur leaving..

2007-03-30T13:56:26Z

sorry but i didn't "forget" them as i thought i was going to go back in Her car cuz we all carpooled.

2007-03-30T13:57:34Z

man did i make a mistake by letting u guys know it was a bible study. if i had just said any meeting, i'd get Real answers, not biased ones like "u should forgive her"... so then u are insinuating she DID make a mistake then ? =T

Anonymous2007-03-30T17:55:58Z

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yes that girl was rude

yes you should have just said "meeting"- aren't people on here impossible?! its a good lesson...

but, yes, that girl should have been more considerate... for sure...

bethany s2007-03-30T15:19:04Z

If you are asking this question here, it's probably because you already believe that she was rude and want someone else to justify that.
From what you've let us know, it does seem rude.
But, it depends on the relationship you have with the girl. You know her better than we do.
But to be honest, if you were in a bible study, you probably all had books with you. So she probably knew you left them in her car, and it doesn't seem that she gave you a chance to get them before she took off.
Of course if she is a real friend of yours, and not just someone you are forced to mingle with, she may have thought she'd give them to you later.
(My opinion, it doesn't seem like you are close with those girls. If you were you would have at least said bye to eachother, and talked about getting together again later.)

N :O)2007-03-30T16:20:44Z

I'm sure it was a mistake and that she assumed you would be getting a ride back with your boyfriend. She probably didn't even realize that your stuff was in her car.

Also, you should try and look at this from her position. Say she did remember that you were going to get a ride from her and then it took you 5-10 minutes to get out to the car (you mentioned that you were detained). She could have thought that you were getting a ride back with your boyfriend and neglected to tell her which would cause her to think you were rude.

Ultimately I think it was just one big misundertanding.

susanna2007-03-30T16:00:20Z

I think that, yes your friend should have checked if you were coming. However, since you came over with a bunch of other girls, she might have just forgotten you had been with them. I do absent minded things all the time, so I would understand if she didn't mean to. Whether it was rude depends on whether she did it on purpose. Don't get too mad till you check with your friend. Oh, and looking at what you wrote, you did a good job picking your boyfriend.

monica_dietz@sbcglobal.net2007-03-30T13:59:54Z

I don't know if I would classify this as rude. I just think it was an oversight on their part. Ultimately, you have to be responsible for your own things. They may not have known at all that you left your binder and stuff in their car. At any rate, I would not intentionally leave someone behind if they had left their persoanl affects in my backseat. Let's didn't realize that they were driving away with your stuff. Did you tell them that you were riding with your boyfriend after Denny's? If not, it was alaso inconsiderate of them to leave you behind.

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