How do i prove to my boyfriend that his dreams are not telling him the truth, this time?.... read details?
My boyfriend has been having dreams of me cheating on him with his good friend & other men. He had the same problem with his ex-girlfriend and it turned out to be true. She cheated on him during the entire 2 years they were together. I've never cheated on him nor have i given him reasons to doubt me. We are crazy in love with each other and don't want things like this to ruin such a great relationship. We need help, what should we do? We don't know if we should seek help from a professional, if so.. what type? Thank you.
one_thing2007-04-26T14:38:00Z
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dreams dont always mean what they seem. I think he's just so scared that you will end up cheating on him that's its gotten into his sub conscious and that's what's causing him to have those dreams. He needs to realize that you love him and you dont have any reason to cheat on him. Keep telling him that you love him over and over again. But if he keeps up these suspicions, then he will probably end up losing you because you'll get tired of him not trusting you. You guys might need to go see a professinoal, like a relationship counselor or something. He needs to work on his trust issues.
The first thing to remember is that the more a person tells you the sky is green, the sooner that you will start to believe them. The more he says that you are going to cheat, the more the odds are that is going to come true.
There are two types of people: Cheaters and Non-cheaters. If I was going to tell you that I had a dream that you cheated, there would be a 50% chance that I am right.
The BF is now jaded as he thinks that his dreams and her cheating had something in common. No more than my dream of winning the lottery and someone else winning. Coincidence is something that can shape dreams in the future. He first thought that his dreams were true is only making him believe now that they are also.
His dreams and the fact that he is telling you about them makes me think that he might use them as a crutch. He might not know how to move to the next level of a relationship and his defence mechanism is to try to push you away. If you like him, just keep reassuring him that everything is great and take the relationship slower.
your boyfriend is still hurt from the last relationship and can't get past it. couples therapy would probably help. some dreams do come true, but he needs to talk this through with a professional or he will ruin all his relationships.