is it wrong to drink alcohol to change your personality? or help with anxiety??
I'm always so self conscious about EVERYTHING , but when i drink (not heavily) i feel so good and not all up tight...and i can finally converse without thinking what the rest of the people are thinking about me. Is that my true self coming out?...Is the alcohol helping with my anxiety? and, should i get professional help for my anxiety. It really gets in the way of my making friends...and keeping them. pls help...I'm really starting to think there is something wrong with me, but then again I know I'm a great person, beautiful on the inside and out.
Lexi Lexington2007-05-03T00:32:58Z
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Drinking (or anything for that matter) in excess is not good. Alcohol is a drug and if used as a drug in moderation has similiar effects to a different and much much more expensive and harder to get drug that a doctor that you would have to pay would prescribe to you. Excersizing portion control is important tho you don't wanna over 'medicate'. That is not recommended with any drug. I'm sure lots of people would disagree with me because they have been brainwashed into thinking that somehow prescibed pills are so much different just because the people that profit off of them lead you to believe so. I'd keep it on the down low.
I had a major social phobia when I was a kid. It was to the point where I never uttered a word, never had a friend till 3rd grade, was so quiet adults were even spooked by me. It was so severe, the prospect of saying even a sentenced had me 'scared to death'; too much adrenalin pumping in my body that made me nauseous and I wanted to cry but couldn't (had many stomach problems as a child thereby barely eating and was too small for my age). If I had to go trough that again in this day and age, I'd be sent to a shrink and overfed Paxil.
Since these things were not available then (not in my school anyways) I had no choice BUT to overcome my social phobia. That included a daily regimen of running up to other kids i'd never otherwise talk to, and getting laughed at, looked at like a weirdo, given the brush-off but finally met a great group of people as timid as me that I felt comfortable talking to. It's like when you go to many job interviews and each one is less frightening than the last. It does get worse before it gets better and that, i'm afraid is inevitable but well worth the struggle.
But you MUST practice, theres no choice. And don't worry about not being accepted right away. Look, you're not gonna like everyone you meet, so there's no obligation on their part to do so either. And if they're douche-bags you will know right away and why would you wanna hang with them anyways? So practice, practice, practice, cuz chances are you'll never even see these people again; what have you got to lose?
That isn't your true self. Thats just the same old you thats slightly dis-inhibited. Alcohol impairs your judgement. It makes some people happy, yes. But that is false happiness. If you are going to use alcohol everytime you need to feel happy, its going to become a habit. Then an addiction. There's nothing wrong with alcohol in the right quantities. But if you are going to link it to your feelings and your life, you are really heading for trouble. Go for some counselling, or try psychiatry or psychotherapy, it helps- if you really want to get better. For the time being deflect criticism by mustering up enough postive energy in yourself as much as possible. Don't let your self-esteem go down for anything.
Alcohol is actual no longer an prolonged term answer. in case you start up ingesting whenever you're annoying, and if it makes you experience extra effective, then you will start up feeling undesirable whenever you do no longer drink. And which will lead you to alcoholism. Alcohol frequently have this effect on everybody: you experience extra valuable, extra comfy, social interactions look less complicated and extra cool... yet think of of what it does on your organism. If alcohol intake supplies the sensation to sparkling up issues, it frequently brings plenty extra worry in than it solves, I assure you. So, if this rigidity may well be a issue to you, I advise you do as you theory and get some expert help, simply by fact ingesting won't do you any reliable.
So your a social drinker...well it's alright if you trust the people around you. You never want to be judged. But you just need to try and come out of your shell and act like you don't care what people think. After this you won't need the alcohol because that is never a good option. As for anxiety you just need a good person to talk to. To relieve your stress.