Is my step father just using me to get my mom's love?

. I think I realized somethin’. When he & my mom are ok, I mean when they don't argue & mom still angry w me because of something, he doesn’t care to talk to me. Only when mom loves me or he has problems w her, that’s when he cares ‘bout me. He’s bein’ real cold w me right now. He doesn’t care ‘bout meh. What should I do? I used to think that he's a good step father. That's why when my mom asked me do I want her to marry him, I said yes. But now, I feel like I did the wrong thing. If I talk to him, he will say of course I care 'bout u. But I have to work... and stuff like that. My mom is angry with me right now. She doesn't talk to me ( I don't want to say the reason why, but it has nothing to do with my step dad). Few days ago, she argued with him and he treated me so well. Now, they're ok and he treats me like I'm trash of does not exist. I'm so sad. I've
only been to America for 5 months. I need support at everything. But no one seems to care 'bout that. I want to die now. Help me!

Eve2007-05-20T19:13:07Z

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He could really just be busy.
I do not know how old you are, but old enough to spell and
write...
Talk to them both together.....do not hold anything in....
Tell them how you feel, or if possible show them what you have written here, and the responses you received.
It will get better...they just do not know what they are doing to you.....and will not change anything until you speak up.
I am sure they love you both.

Anonymous2007-05-19T11:00:48Z

All you can do is talk to him,and I mean really talk to him..Tell him how you feel about how he treats you,it may just be how he acts and you will have to tolerate it,for sake of your Mom..Don't blame yourself for your Moms decision to marry the guy though,that was her choice,shes an adult and is responsible for her own actions..
Sometimes people are unaware of the impact their actions have on those who surround them so making them aware can either open the door to a better relationship or close it..Its a chance you have to take in order to stay a family...good luck!

Michelle C2007-05-19T12:15:18Z

Maybe you should talk to your mom about this. Tell her how you feel. And maybe if you want to, you should tell your step father how you feel too. Don't keep it all inside.