I need help with this clown...?
Okay, so me and this guy have been going out for a month and he still hasn't taken me on an official date. Sure, everyday is like a date, blah blah blah. He won't take me anywhere for some unknown reason!! I've asked him countless times, so no, I'm not just waiting for him to ask me. I just ask him if he wants to go to the movies or something and he says no. Then, when I'm not home he calls and later says he was wanted to take me out; that he made the effort, I just wasn't home. What the hell! I love him to death, but he acts like such a clown sometimes, it's hard to understand when he is serious and isn't. What can I do to make him take me out?--I know he wants to, he just hasn't! I need help controlling this clown. Thanks you guys for your help, 'cause I'm really lost right now. And, no, I will not break up with him over something this small and stupid...
Guys, this isn't something that is sparking a serious issue in out relationship and no way is he shy! He just likes to play mind games--like someone mentioned. It's nothing I'd dump him for. He is a really good guy, he just acts so silly and jokes around when I tell him to take me somewhere. He'd never cheat on me, that I know. He's...just...being who he is. He's loud and is just messing with me. And to the guy down there, this ain't no booty call! I am not controlling him!! I couldn't tame him if I wanted to. I tell him one thing an he does the other. I CAN'T control him, or do I want to. At the beginning of the realtionship he said: "I saw some previews to some movies I want to take you to." He just never acted on it. I've talked to him about this time and time again--he's just a clown. He'll take me, I was just wondering if there was anything more I could say to show him I'm serious about him taking me somewhere.
Takfam--I am not the clown, he is. You don't know me or him, only what I wrote in a half a page. I am not "controlling" anyone. He can't be controlled, nor would I want to. He's his own person, he's just playing mind games with me. He doesn't care what other people think, so he doesn't care if we're seen in public. He's...just...a clown. He can be serious when he wants to, he just isn't. He'll come around eventually.
Thanks for all your answers, guys! You always know what to do. I'll pick a best answer soon.
Let me make something crystal clear, because I don't think I have...He does some of the stupidest things all the time, he gets himself into trouble and just does the dumbest things (I'm not going to give any examples) the point is, I dont want to "control" him, per se, just tame him so that he can see that part of being a great boyfrined (which he is) means preserving his personality, but putting the effort and taking me somewhere, too. Just to be serious a little bit of the time before he does something stupid and really regrets it. I've had a countless number of people close to him (these people were adults, mind you) ask me to keep him in check and make sure he doesn't do anything really dumb. I could never control him, as I said before, I just want to show him that he should try and be a little serious and put more effort into our relationship. I love him and want what's best for him...