My husband prefers oral sex/hand jobs to intercourse. Is this normal?
I am at a loss here. I have never been with a man that prefers oral/hand jobs to sex. I have therefore been questioning my attractiveness. I just had a baby and I'm still a little flabby in the tummy department. I thought the feel of my tummy against him was turning him off. I brought this up. He told me my body is fine and that it's not the issue - that he finds me very attractive. He states that women just aren't "tight" enough in the vaginal area to get him off; that a hand or a mouth does so much more to fulfill him. I told him that he mine as well be gay then b/c a guy could do what I do and probably better - LOL. I also feel like I am a lesbian because I never get actual intercourse. He immediately goes soft whenever we try so I've just given up.
Is this normal? I just can't fathom how a heterosexual guy could choose oral/hand to an actual woman! Being a woman though, I don't have the slightest clue what goes through a man's body and mind during sex.
I also want to note that we have always been this way in terms of sex. It's not like before the baby we were having all kinds of intercourse and now this. He says he's been like this with ALL the women he's been with. Just wanted to clarify that.