My husband prefers oral sex/hand jobs to intercourse. Is this normal?

He sounds like he is gay

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My husband prefers oral sex/hand jobs to intercourse. Is this normal?

I am at a loss here. I have never been with a man that prefers oral/hand jobs to sex. I have therefore been questioning my attractiveness. I just had a baby and I'm still a little flabby in the tummy department. I thought the feel of my tummy against him was turning him off. I brought this...

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Some women are just physically incapable of having an orgasm during intercourse. Usually, the men involved with a woman like that do nice things for her before or after actual intercourse.

Sounds like your husband is the male version of women like that. You aren't going to change him. So, you should work with him.

If he likes oral and hadnjobs, then give him oral and handjobs. Since you are pleasing him, he should please you. If he cannot have intercourse, then try using toys. Vibrators, dildo's and even strap on's can give you the physical sensations you need. If he uses these things on you or is close to you while you use them, then he can share in your pleasure and still bond with you.

Yep there are guys out there that would rather have oral and or hand jobs. It could be from the way they were introduced to sex or it's just what they prefer. Either way it's not you. But he needs to find a way to take care of you too.

Just to clarify it guys love oral and I think most guys would prefer oral partly because they could just lay back and enjoy. They don't have to struggle to stay hard or keep from cumming while they're stroking trying to get the women off. It's a lot less work on their part and a lot less stress to perform. But come on the guy has to show his appreciation at least. I know I do. If I *** too quick or she doesn't get off I get my tongue in gear and/or get some toys out until she cums at least 3 times.

Can we say it's time for him to come out of the closet , I'm a guy and yes I like the hand and mouth action but intercourse is were it's at my wife had a baby last year yeah she's loose to a point but I love her and I love making love with her so you work through it but if your husband has always been this way lets just say he likes men to bad you sound like a really pleasing woman why do the guys that have a wife thats willing to go the extra mile turn out gay it just doesn't make sense well if I were you I'd start looking to move on your husband prefers his boyfriend over you thats just too bad

All guys do have their own personal preference.

Many would rather have oral/hand jobs, even anal penetration, based on what I have overheard or read up on.

It is a different sensation for them.

You are not the problem at all. Don't you yourself have a preference or favorite position? You both need to be honest with each other on what each of you want, so you both can satisfy each other.

I'm so sorry! This is not normal to me. I have known some men that had problems if they where stressed or because of medication. But it sounds as if HE has had this problem for years. I would suggest seeing a therapist together, if he's willing, for the sake of your marriage and the happiest of your child. Until then I agree with the previous answer, learn to enjoy pleasuring yourself while he is there. We often lay around and I will start pleasuring myself and him too get us in the mood. If your husband wants to join in then great if not then let him watch.

Most importantly never forget that you are and will always be a beautiful women. Remembering that are beauty starts from within and with us first.

Good Luck!

maybe he must have some mild form of erectile dysfunction. He says vaginas aren't tight enough, maybe he has a very narrow penis. Even if they weren't tight enough to get him off he should at least be able to sustain an erection until you got off, then u could finish him however he likes. hate to say it but maybe he's gay. i just cant imagine a man that doesn't like intercourse, most men are hounds for it and oral/hand is just icing on the cake

Well then why don't you get yourself this grand cotton candy pink dildo off amazon, I have one for myself, also a nice vibrator and the two together are fantastic, if I would have felt comfortable with myself all those years ago, I'd have a lot less knotches on my bed post... You can tell him that his penis is not as fullfilling as you would like it to be and if he would like to watch and get himself a handful of lotion and.... Go at it...Feel free...

Men are retarded, they look at too much porn, I have lots of men friends and I know how they work and who knows your husband might be gay and so might mine... I'm so sick of it, let em all ram one another I think I'm most safe with Mr. Pink...

Sounds like erictile disfunction....I know that no guy is ever going to want to admit to that, but I don't think it's because he's gay. If he were gay, a woman giving him a hand job or mouth job probably wouldn't get him off either.

If you're anything like me...yeah toys can be fun every now and then, but nothing is as good as the real thing. Talk to his/your doctor about it, maybe try to get him to. I'm not sure what the procedure is to get medication for it, but maybe he'd be willing if you stress to him how important it is for you to be satisfied as well.