My mother doesn't let me do very much.
It only started this August.
My theory is that it's because I still seem young to her, which I am, but she can't believe that I'm actually going away next year.
I don't want her to worry about me.
Any mothers out there, how can I get her to calm down and just not worry about me so much?
♥dealt with love♥
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Keep her in the loop. Let her know what is going on in your life. Make her FEEL special and that she matters in your life.
detcochran
I do not know how old you are, but all good mothers worry, that is part of loving your children. As you get older you know more and have experianced more in life and know what lies ahead and the world is a tough place to grow up in. Who to trust, what choices to make. Any decent mother will worry. Just make good choices in your everyday life and show her you can think for yourself and do not let others influence you to making bad choices. I know it is tough, but it is even tougher for a parent to let go of a child and especially let them go away where they cannot protect them anymore! Hang in there, it is just another year, when you get older you might actually miss you mom's protective wing around you more often. :) Last but not least, pray, and let God help you with your desicions in life and pray for him to give your mom the stregnth and comfort to allow you to have more freedom. A year may seem like a long time now, but it will be over before you know it. :)
ldgirlz11
A mothers worry will never go away! Stay in close contact with her. Let her know what your doing, how well you're doing. Make smart choices..You will know how she feels like someday when you have kids of your own! We want the best for our children. I wish I would have listened to my mom more. We don't always know whats best for us. If you are going away next year then you will have plenty of time to do what you want. Listen to mom for now. She obviously loves you so much she doesn't want anything bad to happen to you.
No More
Worrying about you is a choice that is made by your mother.
There is nothing you can do to control that.
Even if you locked yourself into an impenetrable box, she would probably still worry about you getting enough air.
I suggest that you learn to stop worrying about your mother worrying about you. That way you can immediately cut the worrying in half (the only half you have control over).
I am 56 yrs old, & my mother still complains that I don't call her enough. She's a chronic worrier, & I gave up trying to satisfy her a long long time ago.
collingbournekingston
Write a letter to your mother telling her how you feel and emphasising that she will always be your mum and you will always love her.
Give her the letter and ask her to read it and say you want to talk to her afterwards.
Try to get your feelings out into the open and then you and your mother can laugh together at her behaviour and she can begin to let go.