I've been married two years now I have 3 kids,(a 3 yr old and twin 17 month olds) and my dreams stopped there...now I have no clue what to do. I want to raise my kids with many things to teach them and I want them to have the biggest dreams because I know they can accomplish them, they are all so smart. I myself want to go to school, but for what I have no clue. All I ever dreamed of was being a mom and a wife, and now that I have that I realize that there is life beyond motherhood and you have to constantly pass down wisdom and how am I supposed to do that if all I do is cook thier meals and clean up after them and love with everything I have? I dont know what exactly I'm asking I'm just stuck....sigh...I know I'm a good person and I know I could accomplish anything I put my mind too with God's help, but what do I want to do?? I thought I'd have something figured out by now.
Chaz2007-10-31T22:19:45Z
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Are you getting any "down-time" away from the house and the kids? I know you love them dearly but I sense that you are bit "overwhelmed" at the moment. Try to make some time for yourself each week. You can not possibly discover what your other interest might be if every waking moment is devoted to house and home. Know what I mean?
wisdom and knowledge are two different things. Wisdom is something you develop with age and experience which is exactly what you can pass down to your kids. Maybe now isn't the best time but when your kids have less needs and start going off to school you can find time for yourself to do the things that you dream of doing. For now, pick up a hobby or start reading literature. Little things like that can be useful when you start classes. And they'll keep you motivated. Godd luck.
I know you can feel stuck in a situation like that, but you don't have to take classes to keep learning - and you can learn WITH your kids. Take them to museums and free classes (check your local papers), or read them kid level science books (discovery store has all sorts). You don't have to know everything - just teach them about wanting to learn more. If they ask you a question you don't know the answer to, say "Let's find out!" and take them to the library to research. I think you are on the right track, and I know with three young kids it might seem like you can never find the time for those things, but if you try - even just once every two weeks - it will be really great for all of you! Good luck!
You don't have to know what you want to study to go to school. Sign up for classes at your local community college and take general education classes. Pick the classes that seem to interest you and it won't be long before you get wind of a goal. If you didn't finish high school, they can help with that to. One or two classes at a time would be plenty and you would still have lots of time for your children. You could also look into online and short-term courses.
When they reach school age, you will have the opportunity to pursue your education. Right now, just enjoy the accomplishments that are the results of you being a great mom.