Should everything be 50-50 in a relationship?

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Depends on if you have kids, I agree to everything but the financial contribution.Well, both people need to put effort towards each one, as much as they can. If you have kids, thats hard to answer. My husband contributes everything financially, Im a stay at home Mom. But as far as compassion, affection, support, guidance,etc yes it needs to be 50/50 or at leat effort from both parts. Also as far as house work and things like that, my husband takes care of us financially and I take care of the house, cooking, cleaning, laundry, kids while hes working....Show more

There are those with the idea that a relationship of value is a 50/50 partition of the work load and the emotional support. The idea that a relationship is 50/50 all the time creates trouble. Score keeping, and unrealistic expectations only create an environment of resentment. Sometimes it's 60/40, sometimes it's 80/20 and sometimes it 20/80 and yes sometimes it 100 / 0. There are times when one person carries a heavier burden than the other, there are times when one person washes more dishes in a week than the other, and there are times when one person will compromise more than the other. So put down the racing form and forget who comes in first. It's ok to place once in a while. One person can, will, and should carry the load while the other goes through a crisis situation, moments of confusion, and even doubt. Why? Because they believe in the other person. Because they believe in being a couple....Show more

What a difficult question! Its true that you both need to give it your all.............but I don't think you can make a list like this and expect 50 - 50 all the time in every category. I think you look at the overall as being 50 - 50. Some people are better at some things than others, or have more time on a certain day than the other..........and on.........and on...Show more

If your happy the way things are than it doesn't matter.
But theres a problem if one is doing way more than the other and the other is just kicking back.
If one is doing all the work it starts to be a burden and the other person might start to expect it and may end up unappreciated and neglecting the other persons needs.
So the one doing all the work is unhappy and overwelmed.
Then no it's not ok.
So 50/50 sounds good.
So its all on you....Show more

I agree with those who said that you should give 100%. In a relationship the compitition, if there is a compitition, should be, who can give the most, not take the most. Always give your all and all....Show more