Why do the custodial parent ALWAYS want more? I was a single mom of 4, I received (when he would pay) $205.00 per month. I never complained. I went out and got a job and took on MY RESPONSIBILITY. Yes, he helped in the making them, BUT they are MY children. Why don't women today want to get out and work and take care of their own? Why do they want the fathers to pay ungodly amounts, (they are barely left enough to live on themselves) and still cry it isn't enough? If you can't take care of your kids, then maybe you shouldn't have them. When your married having children, you should ask yourself, 'can I support this child without help?' BEFORE you decide to have children. What is up with people now? Are people really this money happy, that they stopped caring about what they are doing to the other parent? Men should pay child support, BUT IT SHOULD BE REASONABLE, not outragious.
2007-12-17T07:20:16Z
GEORGE...they are MY children. I am the one who GAVE BIRTH TO THEM. I am the one who WANTED to raise the children, again MAKING THEM MINE. They are his as far as he is their father. He got all the visitation he wanted, when he wanted it without question. But when it came time to make DECISIONS, they were mine to make. He was kept informed of my decisions, thereby MAKING THEM MY KIDS AGAIN. And that is how most custodial parents are concerning their children. They don't ask 'permission' of the non-custodial parent, so the kids are theirs, just like my kids were/are mine. And that is how that part of it works, just ask any custodial parent.
it has been my experience that some women ( not all) want the finer things in life, cell phones, pc's, new car's, etc etc. In a fast paced world today everyone lives above their means and usualy with a credit card. When it comes down to living expenses they simply just dont have enough left over to pay the bills and keep the family fed. Every lady I dated after my divorce had money issues, but almost all of them had a cell phone, nice home, nice everthing and the husband was paying ungodly ammounts in child support and the ex-wife was constantly taking them back to court for more money. They fail to see their responsibility as 1/2 theirs, only that the sorry sob and I arent together and hes gonna pay. Most people do not know that it takes 1.5 million dollars to raise a child from birth thru college (wall street journal). And in reality most women think the husband should pay 2/3 of this ammount when divorced. and If these people would stop charging things and come back to reality of what their bank accounts can handle we would see better benifits for the children. Now after my ex got past her all about me attitude and started focusing on our son, rebudgeted and started living within her means, she quit fighting and taking me back to court, In turn this left me with more money, and I inturn started helping buy him extra things outside child support and our focus changed to our child. and it wound up being a win win for my son. but we had to quit fighting each other before this could be possible and we both had to live within our means.
Child support and custody are two different issues. Both have to be court ordered. Since your father was court ordered to pay child support to your mother, that's what he's doing. Since you mother was granted custody of you via another court order, you are living with her. If you want to live with your father, and your mother is not willing to allow you to do so, he would need to go back to court and petition that the original ruling giving your mother custody be overturned. In order for that to be successful, he would have to prove that living with your mother is a danger to your life and safety. So no, you saying you don't like your mom (as all children your age do sooner or later) is not going to make a judge overrule an existing custody order.
I agree with that, I chose to have my daughter and I am totally responsible for her. It also sucks to be the man with a child trying to receive money from a woman.
My boyfriend is supposed to receive $77 a month from his ex for their son (court ordered) and she has told us that she won't pay it unless it is taken out of her check. She won't keep a job long enough for garnishing paperwork to go through. Plus she claims that he gets everything he needs at her house. She has 3 other kids and is on every kind of state aid possible. She even claimed her oldest (who we have primary custody of) and they garnished $200 from my boyfriends check (he was ordered to pay $500 a month). Plus, she expects to get her son whenever she wants and expects dad to pay for everything concerning their son. This is no big deal, because money isn't the problem, but its the principle of it.
It makes me so mad that she didn't have to prove that she had her son, but my boyfriend spent 2 weeks getting the information to prove that we have had him the last 3 years.
I have another friend who has his son and his ex is court ordered to pay $36 a month. What the h*ll is that suppose to cover? My worthless ex wouldn't even help pay doctor bills when I had my daughter. I have even had people tell me that he didn't have to because he wasn't the one pregnant.
Plus as far as people complaining about not having enough cs to cover bills and daycare. The ex shouldn't have to pay all the cost of daycare for a person to work. Plus, household bills (lights,water,heat,rent,cable,internet,etc.) is something that a person should be able to pay on their own. A child does not make those bills any more expensive. To me cs should go strictly to food, clothes, 1/2 of daycare, extracurricular activities, toys and such.
I'm at home right now taking online courses so I can stay home and take care of my daughter. Daycare here is $400 a month and of most jobs that are available that would be a good portion of my check, plus gas to drive there and back. Not worth it.
I think in a perfect world parents that divorce would have both custody of children. Share half of the cost and not bash one another for the crummy job they are doing. But to generalize the situation and go far enough to thinking that children are a possession of either spouse is ridiculous. That only puts more stress on them, the children. Children didn't ask to be born they were born out of two people's decision. Not on unless you can impregnated yourself without the need of a sperm then you can make statements like they are mine I had them and all that self indulging and self gratifying BS. For one minute thank of what children are entitle to. They are entitle to happiness. To have parents that care about them. To have both parents in their lives.It is their need for their mental health. I think both parties are wrong. Maybe instead of thinking of how I could swindle more money from my ex. Or how to manipulate the fact that just because they came out of me they are mine. We should all think of Them.