If you smoked pot in your youth and you found out your son had tried it what would you do?
1. it would be somewhaqt hippocritical to tell them not to do it. however i do believe that sharing stories of the past can help a son leaqrn from their parents mistakes. i am 15 and will probably end up trying it. i have an open communication with my parents. if they ask me if i did id probably flat out tell them i tried it. i personaly do not think it is a big deal. as long as grades are not being hurt. if i were a parent i would tell my child my reasons for it and if they do try it to tell me. i would rather have them do it near me or me knoowing then them hiding it from me and smoking at random friends houses. hard drugs are a different story. i have seen what they can do to ruin lives. on the other hand i have also seen that pot can help many people relax and sociaize better
2008-05-11T17:21:13Z
thank you alexis
2008-05-11T17:31:22Z
understand one thing. pot is spoken as like it is equivelent to heroin or cocain. it has many medical uses. it can also help creativity. u need to relaxe and listn to some marley. dont say i wouldnt b a good parent. but if i do it i wouldnt feel right punishing him for something he is not doing in excess. if that becomes a problem or if he starts too get in trouble i would put my foot down. i would like to see weed legalized. it would free up room in prisons. its rediculous people are spendng time behind bars for something as common and small time as pot. as a teen pot is easyer to come by than alchohol.
2008-05-11T17:33:28Z
i have a wide variety of friends ranging from the stoners to prep kids. so smoking 2 times wont do anything. plenty of my friends try it twice nd dont ever again
2008-05-11T17:36:05Z
sk8tech you cannot call me a lowlife. how about rapists and murderers? dont even say they are all on drugs because its not true. nd put urself in the position of a cancer patient. lets see...smoke some herb? or die in pain? i think ill go with the reefer
2008-05-11T17:38:11Z
and plenty of hard working people like doctors and lawyers go home and moke a bowl to relax from work. it was put on earth for a reason. the reason it is illegal is because it is possible to grow in your home and the government wouldnt have much control on it's taxxes
TimerRzn22008-05-11T18:28:12Z
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Wow! Society has done a great job of brainwashing and scaring people about things like this!
I AM a mom of 3 kids, and a very good mom at that. I am EXTREMELY close with my children, we talk about everything you can think of.
Ya know what? My husband and I both tried pot as teens, he is now a vice president of a bank and I was working in insurance (although now I am a stay at home mom) Does trying pot make me any less a good mom? Or a loser? No! It does NOT! We grew up and grew out of it before we got married & had kids and now it's just part of our past. Do I regret it? No, for many reasons. I am more informed and all my experiences made me who I am today, and I am VERY proud of both myself and my family!
You are correct in the many good things pot can be used for and the benefits of legalizing it. I think parents should talk with there children about pot, AND tell the truth if asked. I believe giving your children information and your feelings on the issue will make an impact. Right now pot IS illegal, and that issue alone can hurt your future, but c'mon people, what about underage drinking or just alcohol in general? What about smoking ciggarettes? Just because these things are legal doesn't make it ok, but yet parents are more able to deal with that somewhat. Reseach the facts on these issues, alcohol and ciggarettes have a horrible track record of taking lives, why aren't they illegal? They destroy families!
If I caught one of my children smoking pot, I would sit down and share my own experiences and why we stopped. I would explain that it is illegal and can cause legal issues if caught, I would research the effects with them, and let them know how I feel about it. And I would prefer they are open and honest with me, and not be afraid to come to me for anything.
I form my own opinion about things, I don't let others try to scare me into their beliefs. I like to know my facts and do my research.
Now I will also say that there are some people who can't handle pot, those are the people who let it consume their lives. Just like with alcohol handled in moderation it's not a big deal. Look, I have been hurt by both alcohol (by a family member) and ciggarettes (a family member died recently of lung cancer), but I have not been hurt by pot. The issue is that it is illegal.
People are always going to judge, and they will sometimes believe that they are better than others, or their way is they only right way, and pot MAY never be legallized, but I personally am proud of how we are as a family and who we are and how we raise our kids. They are smart, have goals, are well rounded and they have a great relationship with us and are very open with us. I know all their friends, their friends parents, their hopes and dreams, even their thoughts by a single glance. All in all, I'm pround of my parenting, my kids AND my beliefs! :)
Sweetheart, you are 15, at this point in your life you have no idea of what you would say to a 'child' of your own when they are 15. I did smoke pot in my no so young youth, I was 42 years old, divorced. I had and still have a very open relationship with my 2 children, who now have their own children. Did I tell them, no--I didn't have to they just knew, the couple of times I did smoke, it was a really big deal. It don't have anything to do with grades, or your relationship with your parents. Its in knowing what is right and what is wrong. Drugs of any kind including pot is wrong. I could have easily lost my career and everything else I had accomplished as a single mom. I was like, okay 1 time won't hurt, then came the next time and I had to stop myself and move away from the 'friends' I was running with. You state 'hard drugs can ruin your life' so can POT. And as you get older you will understand this better and you will not want your child doing pot or anyother drug including alchol. Good luck with your choices you have to make in your life and pray that for your parents and future childrens sake you make the right ones. And no neither one of my children ever did drugs of any kind.
To begin with, you are not a hypocrite if you have done something or said something, then at a later time you change your mind as to whether you were wrong. It is called wisdom. You learn from many sources. As parents, we hope our children will learn from our teaching and not by doing it the hard way because some mistakes can be life long.
As a parent, your job is to raise your children to become the best persons you can. Your child's responsibility is to become the best person you can. God bless.
I think it is important to realise how much pot your son smokes and what are the circumstances surrounding it, is it affecting his school work for example and the rest. You could use your past experience of smoking weed to understand that your son is probably doing it for the same reasons you did. I think talking to your son, speaking to him maturely about it and finding out his reasons is key. Kids will always experiment, but I have found those that do this with the support of parents, tend to come through better than those who sneak around. I know it is disappointing but all young people roll in the dirt now and again. Just support his wishes but keep making sure he is not creeping toward anything harder (like heroin) and his life is not suffering that could be detrimental on his future, he will probably just like yourself grow out of it eventually.
it would be hypocritical but your an adult now and you obviously dont do it because you've grown up and learned that it was stupid
when i become a parent and if i found out my child tried it i would be very upset and would probably find out why they tried it who they did it with ect, then explain how it isnt healthy and even if its just a phase to not start doing it because it just hurts you in the ends then i would keep a close eye on them
if i noticed that they did it again or started smething else thats where i would put my foot down and stop them and punish them.