Adoptees, do you sometimes feel 'disconnected'?

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Yes, yes, yes.

My adoptive mom is a wonderful person. I remember her visiting last summer. We were having a conversation, and I could tell she was really trying to understand what I was saying. It was a struggle. She wants to understand me, she genuinely does, but it's hard. We're so different. And then I sit and talk to my first mom, who I've known less than a year, and she seems to understand what I'm saying almost before I say it. It's a different feeling. But then I'm disconnected from my first family in other ways.

As for connecting with others... I will never forget the night that I was hanging out with my two best friends in the world. One of them had the unenviable position of consoling the other as well as myself in the same night. He looked at me and told me that, while he knew what was wrong with our other friend, he never knew what was really bothering me. This is a man I spent nearly every hour of every day with for almost a year.

I was adopted as an infant. And I always knew (or, really, found out when I was around four or so).

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