My 13 year old daughter was invited to a boy/girl sleepover. Along with the invitations, were a letter to the parents. It basically said that 15 girls and 15 boys were invited. The party would take place mostly in the hang-out room (they have 4 teen children), which has couches, board games, ping-pong, air hockey, arcade games, tv, Wii, etc. Doors will of course HAVE to be left open, no acception. Then when it is midnight, the boys will go downstairs to their sleeping area, and girls will be upstairs. If anyone is caught with inappropite behavior, parents will have to come get their child.
Should I let her go? What is your take on this?
onlyme2125292008-06-25T18:08:00Z
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I think if you feel comfortable with letting her go and KNOW that there will be adult supervision(and responsible adults not the parents who want to be "cool") then you should let her go. BUT if you aren't comfortable with the fact of her going,which I would be a little uneasy letting either of my daughters go to a co-ed slumber party myself) then tell her that maybe some other time but not this time. Yes she will get mad,but that is no reason to change your mind if you are uncomfortable with her going. She will get over the fact that she didn't go and its not the end of the world if she doesn't. Do what you think is best,but in my opinion I still think 13 is too young to go to a sleepover where there will be boys,and the parents are eventually gonna go to sleep...too many things could happen.
Sorry this whole thing is strange to me, all night long 13 14 15 boys and girls together!
Although I have never heard of coed sleep overs for boys and girls at the same time! It really is kind of a strange thing to me, really think I would be uncomfortable about this! Why would parents (especially at that age) want to mix boys and girls together, sorry I do find it a little bit suspicious!
How well do you know these people that are having this party? The more I think about this, as I am writing this, the more uncomfortable it makes me! Just strange!
If your considering this as a possibility I would do some checking around about the parents before I made my mind up about my daughter attending! To be honest with you --I don't like the sound of it, not one bit! So your 13 year old girl is going to be around 15 year old boys, and how many adult men are also going to be in the house?
I would really like to know what you decide on this matter and how you came to your decision!
I dont think this is about trusting your child as much as its about trusting the parents having this party. The best of people behave very differently in large groups. If the parent doing the supervising is someone you can trust to make sure nothing happens then i would agree to allow the child to attend. If you cant trust the adults then no I wouldnt allow it. Kids will do a lot of things without supervision they wouldnt do if they used any common sense or had supervision.
I think I would let my daughter go. Besides, at 15, if all they are doing is a boy/girl sleepover, then I think you are safe. When I was 15, I was already out drinking and partying after my football games.
Are you ok with it?It really is up to you.If you trust the parents & your child,then let her go.It does sound like they mean to watch everyone well.Or you could let her go for a while then come home at bedtime.I just couldn't let my child go.I wouldn't wanna put them in that situation..As much as kids are tempted at that age,I wouldn't wanna risk it.Your call though.If you are ok with it,then there shouldnt be a problem with her going.