For some odd reason my fiancee cannot ejaculate when we have sex. He can when he masturbates, so I don't understand why he can't with me. I thought it was something to do with me, but he swears up and down it's not. I just feel bad bc we'll do it forever, then I make him stop bc I can't take it anymore, and he gets so mad, not at me, at himself bc he cannot nut. He said it's embarassing to a guy, but I don't know.
Anywaze is there anything I could do or we could do to make him? Anything at all? Please let me know....
2008-11-04T11:05:01Z
So you're saying that things he's been through in his life can play a role in it? Cuz I know he's been thru some MAJOR hard things, but I never thpought about that. Also, I wanna NOT go to a sex therapist. He's too embarassed bc he thinks he's the only person in the world like that.
lazydenk2008-11-04T11:32:05Z
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I am truly sorry to tell you this ,but maybe your vagina does not rub his penis in the right place.I am a man and I have been with girls that would make me have an orgasm in minutes or in less time than others,bc when I penetrate her vagina there's some kind of friction that tickles me.But there are others that do not tickle me as much as others.You HAVE TO ASK HIM if this had happened to him with other girls before.If not,what I am telling you could be the cause of his problem with you.You don't need to worry about it,maybe his penis is not made for your vagina;just like a shoe size is not made for all kinds of feet.After all ,IT"S BETTER FOR YOU !!!YOU WILL HAVE EXCELLENT SEX AND THEN YOU CAN MASTURBATE HIM!!!BUT IF YOU GET ANOTHER GUY THAT WOULD EJACULATE PROBABLY HE WILL AND YOU WON"T>MY advise,enjoy this man as much as you can and try to find a position in which he might come easily!!there is always one!!
Medication can affect this, and so can damage from circumcision, which diminishes sexual sensitivity.
In my case, the sensitivity lost was more than average, which resulted in my inability to reach orgasm in normal sex.
Masturbation can stimulate a penis more than the walls of the vagina, as the hand can put pressure and friction on the areas requiring more stimulation than the vagina.
I'm restoring my foreskin using the TLC Tugger, which has vastly increased my sensitivity and also the intensity of my orgasms.
An added benefit is that the inner foreskin is very sensitive, and there is a new dimension of sensitivity/stimulation as the foreskin is retracted and becomes part of the shaft skin. While restoration won't replace the 70,000 nerve endings lost with the amputation of the foreskin, it does dekeratinize the glans and surrounding tissues which were meant by nature to be covered and kept moist and sensitive.
The enhanced sensitivity is wonderful, and sex much more enjoyable with a foreskin--again, the way that nature intended.
It's not your fault, there's nothing wrong with you---I've been down that road many times. I always thought that there was something wrong with me, and I was right, but didn't know what the problem was. My partners felt inadequate, also, as you do, that they weren't attractive enough, or that they were doing something wrong.
Yes, it's embarrassing to a guy, which is why more guys don't come forward with this problem.
This is much more typical than most people realize.
Circumcision is the worst hoax ever perpetrated on the male sex. It damages the penis, destroys sexual sensitivity and ability and can cause partial to complete sexual dysfunction.
A foreskin is not a birth defect; it is a birthright.
Premature ejaculation is caused by specific things that you do before and during sex. Most of the time without even realizing it. Read here https://tr.im/dbrni
Premature ejaculation is not some gene you're born with, the result of your penis size or a part of your personality that you can never change.
It can be physical or psychological. Since he can ejaculate when he masturbates, then it's usually psychological. There are sex therapists that can help. It could be that he's masturbating too much - then again, it could be that intercourse doesn't rub him in the right places. But usually, it's a psychological "withholding" in his mind. Good luck, I hope you can work it out.
I have the same problem. It is due to medication and a few other circumstances that happened in my life. Medication was the biggest factor though. Tell him to cut out MB too, see if that helps.