Adoptees as a child, around the holidays did you spend more time wondering about your other family?
It seems natural that you would wonder how holidays were at your other family's home. If they missed you or thought about you. Or am i wrong?
It seems natural that you would wonder how holidays were at your other family's home. If they missed you or thought about you. Or am i wrong?
Anastasia Beaverhausen
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actually, someone was talking about the holidays on the adult adoptees website. i couldn't bring myself to even read it.
i detest holidays. have since i was little. all i ever wanted was my mother.
小黃
As a child? No. Never. (Really.)
You see, I had it drilled into me that I was Special and Chosen and Wanted, etc. It isn't that I DIDN'T think I was loved - but that I wondered if they had chosen me, then what was so "bad" about me that my mother STILL gave me up?
I know this doesn't answer your question as much, but recently, ever since I started reunion, I think about them all that time at holidays and wonder if they even celebrate the same holidays as me.
Mom: What do you want for Christmas?
Me: (What I wanted to say) A magic wand that would allow me to become fluent or just SEE my family on Skype or something.
Me: (What I said) Hmmm... maybe some games for my Xbox or those computer games I've been playing.
AdoreHim
I am adopted and I have 2 adopted children. I can speak for myself, I never thought about what "my other family was doing". Before I a lot of thumbs down, which will not surprise me here- THIS IS ME!! That does not mean I am not grateful for my birth mom, and I also know the sacrifice she paid to give me life, and place me for adoption. Our 19 year old son has met his birth mom, and has a good relationship with her- however as he was growing up here, it was our family that we celebrated at holidays. Same with my daughter, who is 16. I know that our 3 birth moms thought/think of us often- how could they not?
Spread Peace and Love
I can say I have never thought about what my biological “family” does during the holidays. Honestly to me it doesn’t matter what they do I don’t consider them my family. I enjoy my family and hopefully they enjoy theirs during the holiday season.
Lady Rowan
i think holidays were really one of the only times i thought about my bio family growing up. It was usually along the lines of"i wonder what they are doing" or "i hope they are doing ok" that sort of thing.
I did wonder if they missed me.