adoptee discrimination?

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Imagine for a second that all the documents pertaining to your birth are falsified and you have NO way to get the complete original documents. Imagine someone telling you that you have no right to know your own heritage or original surname. Imagine that your own, factual, birth certificate is a state secret that may never be made available to the one person who should have it, YOU!

Sounds like discrimination to me. ...Show more

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The biggest discrimination is records being sealed - forever.
No matter if an adoptee turns 18 - they still are not allowed their original birth certificate and papers pertaining to their adoption - because the state seals them away.

There is also an underlying discrimination that many adoptees face.
Society has deemed that an adoption means that the child no longer has a first family - the family that they are genetically linked to.
Sure there are some great adoptive parents who keep those links - but the majority don't.
Some go as far as making the adoptee feel guilty for wanting to search for their first family - purely out of a selfish need to pretend that the adoptee is born to them.

Adoptees come from somewhere else before they are adopted.
Relinquishment and adoption are performed by adults - the children have absolutely NO say in any of it. Then it's left completely up to the adults as to whether they decide to give their adoptee their truth - or hide it away.

That's discrimination.
Every child deserves to know where they came from.
It should not be up to the adults to decide if it's 'good' or 'bad' for them to know.
It's about the adoptee.
It's their information to have.

If a child had parents that tragically died in a car crash (for instance) - usually another family member would care for that child - they would be allowed to grieve - they would be told stories and shown loads of pictures of the parents that were lost.

In adoption - too many don't understand the complexities involved.
Adoption is about the child losing his/her parents.
That child should be allowed to grieve. Should be allowed to keep contact with first family. Shown pictures. Told stories.
No - this can't always happen - but to blatantly pretend that that child came from only within the adoptive family - is harmful to the adoptee.

Those adoptive parents that keep secrets and lie - do it mostly for their own needs and feelings.

Adoption is essentially a piece of paper handing over ownership of a child.
Just because there is a piece of paper - shouldn't wipe out the child's former existence....Show more

There is government sanctioned discrimination every day. Adoptees don't have the same rights to information as everyone else. Our documents are falsified, and the real ones are tucked nice and far away where we have no real access to them. That and how often do you hear the assumption that adoptees were all the potential products of drug users, dumpster dumpers, (how often are we told that we should be grateful we weren't aborted) etc, and that somehow we are the product of bad and wrong people thus must be bad and wrong ourselves. I'm not saying all people feel this way, but they are out there, and its discrimination against both adoptees and their first families.

ETA, my abrother and I, like linny got to experience discrimination within the family. We weren't good enough because our skin didnt match, and we didn't have their blood running through our veins. I also remember crying all over my amom when I was young about not being invited to a birthday party because I had "dirty" blood....Show more

I AM DISCRIMINATED AGINST BECAUSE I CANT HAVE MY BIRTH RECORDS OR KNOW WHO MY BIRTHPARENTS ARE WHEN EVERYBODY ELSE CAN HAVE THESE THINGS AND BEING DENIED OF BIRTH RECORDS PUTS ME IN GREAT DANGER I AM HOMELESS BECAUSE OF BEING DENIED MY BIRTH RECORDS THE BASIC PART OF ME PEOPLE HAVE DNEIED ME OF WHY CANT THE STUPID NON ADOPTEES SEE THAT...Show more