This girl I like says "we cant work" but 2 days ago we hooked up?!?
Alright here is my situation.... Btw im 15 1/2, she is 16
I like this girl a lot, and she likes me. We were always flirting and staring at each other, and we both admitted our feelings for each other are very strong. Last sunday, she was having a superbowl party and an old friend of hers came to visit ( they had a thing for eachother way back) and they kissed. So now he just appeared back in her life and she likes him as much as she likes me, i guess. I went to her house 2 days ago, and we hooked up. But she told me that it wouldnt change any of her feelings. Prior to the day we hooked up, she told me that "we cant work" because she doesnt know what is gonna happen with this other guy, and she doesnt want to hurt me, and that its best if we stay really good friends, because she doesnt wanna stop talking to me. Please help! What do I do! Im in lust with this girl and have really strong feelings for her...should i do something for vday maybe? She is just sooo confused and idk what to do
doggy2009-02-07T12:37:16Z
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leave her alone and play hard to get. she'll realize that she'll miss you if she isn't around you. because right now it seems you want her more than she wants you. you have to switch it around.
You say that you are in 'lust' with her so it sounds more like you want a physical relationship with her instead of a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.
She probably is confused but she has given you your answer when she told you that;
"we can't work" She does not want to hurt you She wants to see what happens with the other guy She would like to remain friends with you.
If you have "lust" or "romantic" feelings a friendship with her might be very difficult on you. So you need to decide if that difficulty is worth it.
Good luck. I have posted a few websites. I hope they help.
That is SOOOO sweet! What a lovely Valentine's day love story. You should write that to some newspaper like "Dear Alice..." Seriously, very sweet. But you typed in "lust" so you know you're not YET in really deep love with her. I've never really seen it from a man's point of view, so this is very interesting that there is a woman who is playing the man for a sucker this time. You deserve better than that and she shouldn't through her "heart" around everywhere. Your heart is special and you hold it for the right one.
i understand this kind of situation, i was in something similar and it hurt like hell because i was in love. trust me don't waste your time, i know this must sound harsh but 15 1/2 is still young, you should enjoy yourself. dont let relationships confuse you yet, there is plenty of time for that.
stay friends if you think you want to but otherwise break it all off, trust me these things hurt and sometimes we just dont need the pain
well if you don't want a relationship from it then you shouldn't be asking this question. also if she can't make up her mind, it's just because she's messin with you and that other guy. she WANTS you to do something for valentine's day so the other dude gets jealous and does something even more for her. if she thought something was going to happen with this other dude, she should not have hooked up with you, and vice versa. it's not worth getting all worked up over. she doesn't have feelings for you, or else she wouldn't be messin around with this other dude too. she just seems like a sl*ut to me.