Ok, so my friend S asks me at the Homecoming game in October if she can borrow a dress of mine. In my head I'm like no, I don't like people borrowing my stuff, but she saw the expression on my face and was like, that's fine. I was like it's ok, you can borrow one. (She's my really good friend). So now, in February she has not returned it (like I feared). I have not worn this dress (it was new when I loaned it to her). I have asked her like 50 times for it back. I have offered to go pick it up (she made an excuse). I am furious! I didn't spend $40 to not have a dress. What should I do? She said she took it to the cleaners today, but she has said that before. Now everytime I go on Facebook, she logs off right away so she doesn't have to talk to me. We eat lunch together, so she has to talk to me tomorrow.
Anonymous2009-02-16T13:48:15Z
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Just go directly to her house and pick it up! She has no excuses if you do that!
And if she gets upset at you for coming to her house without asking, tell her right away that you've asked for the dress back like 50 times and she's been making excuses!
Casually ask her if you can go to her house and hang out, or stay the night or something as friends. You HAVE been to this close friends house before right? Don't say anything about it till you get there, and maybe an hour or even right before you leave say 'oh hey I wanted to use that dress I'd lent you for something, can I get it back?' Then if you're at her house she's got to give it back to you right? That's my suggestion. And if the situation of borrowing from anyone comes up again just say in the past you've had bad luck with lending your personal things out, and not that you don't trust the person you just would rather not be in that position again. Good luck.
Your fault. You should not have loaned her the dress and if she is a friend there should have not been a problem with you saying and meaning it. Now in hind sight, no matter what has happened, you don't want it back. If it was just the cleaners, you would have had it back a long time ago. Don't lend things and don't feel bad about it. Good $40 lesson. Now, if you continue to make wise investments like this one, you will be a genius , someday.
Don't offer to go pick it up, just go to pick it up. When you know she is home drop by and demand your dress. If she makes another excuse just say that if she doesn't return it in a week she can pay you for the dress. And if she refuses tell her you have the right to sue. I have friends like that, but usually just going there will get you your dress back.
She probably ruined it in some way and is afraid to admit it to you. Probably a tear or a stain or something. Tell her if she doesn't give it back to you by the end of the week she needs to give you $40 (or whatever you paid for it) so you can replace it. I have been out of high school for 5 years and some of my friends from back then still have some of my shirts so I think your "no borrowing" policy is a good idea.