I have this friend...?

Just go directly to her house and pick it up!

She has no excuses if you do that!

And if she gets upset at you for coming to her house without asking, tell her right away that you've asked for the dress back like 50 times and she's been making excuses!

Good luck :]

Casually ask her if you can go to her house and hang out, or stay the night or something as friends. You HAVE been to this close friends house before right? Don't say anything about it till you get there, and maybe an hour or even right before you leave say 'oh hey I wanted to use that dress I'd lent you for something, can I get it back?' Then if you're at her house she's got to give it back to you right? That's my suggestion. And if the situation of borrowing from anyone comes up again just say in the past you've had bad luck with lending your personal things out, and not that you don't trust the person you just would rather not be in that position again. Good luck.

Your fault. You should not have loaned her the dress and if she is a friend there should have not been a problem with you saying and meaning it. Now in hind sight, no matter what has happened, you don't want it back. If it was just the cleaners, you would have had it back a long time ago. Don't lend things and don't feel bad about it. Good $40 lesson. Now, if you continue to make wise investments like this one, you will be a genius , someday.

Don't offer to go pick it up, just go to pick it up. When you know she is home drop by and demand your dress. If she makes another excuse just say that if she doesn't return it in a week she can pay you for the dress. And if she refuses tell her you have the right to sue. I have friends like that, but usually just going there will get you your dress back.

She probably ruined it in some way and is afraid to admit it to you. Probably a tear or a stain or something. Tell her if she doesn't give it back to you by the end of the week she needs to give you $40 (or whatever you paid for it) so you can replace it. I have been out of high school for 5 years and some of my friends from back then still have some of my shirts so I think your "no borrowing" policy is a good idea.

There's a probability that she's damaged the dress in some way and is too embarrassed to explain it to you and is hoping you'll forget all about it.

Since she is ignoring your requests to return it, it's time to speak politely to her parents about it (mother first; father second if necessary).

If the dress is lost or damaged, you cannot demand full restitution ($40) because you gave her permission to use it and you must share the burden of loss. $20 would be a reasonable repayment.

It's a learning experience. Don't lend stuff again unless you're prepared to accept some risk.

Just say to her straight up i know were friends and all that but i really need my dress back and im getting really angry that your not giving it back! Don't be like shouting in her face but in a calm tone get what i mean because since shes you friend you don't want to hurt her feelings. if that don't work go to her house unexpected have a chat, go to her bed room ask for your dress. if that don't work use your imagination, something like your going on this hot date or your going to this party with your long time best friend and that you need your dress and say how your so exited and that you know your going to be the best looking in that club because of your dress. if that don't work straight up! who cares if you hurt her feelings if she was a true friend she would have given you your dress back long time ago! Wheres my Dress! Right there and then!

Well seems like your friend loves the dress..kudos to your tastes..lol

Oh i think you should jes ask her properly for the dress and if she comes up with an excuse jes tell her you will be coming over to get the dress cause you really want as you havent worn it and the same stuff you wrote here i think you should tell her..If she doesnt give it back call the Fashion Police...Nah jes kidding.

this use to happen to me with a friend as well.. If she is under age get her parents involved.. By showing up to her house and getting your dress back.. Or if something has happened to it.. maybe she let some one borrow it or took poor care of it when it was in her possession.. or maybe she just wants to keep it.. whatever the case you need to get the dress returned or the money you paid for it.

My Best resolution would be to either A. create an excuse to be close to her house or B. go to her house and request her to give it back to you while you are there, and do not tell her you are arriving.

Also if you are given the Excuses trick again, tell her that you are not going to leave until it is returned, that way she has to give it to you, assuming that she is a "good" friend. I always found that when things don't go the way they want, people panic and do stupid things, so look for this especially.

The Best of luck on your Dilemma