Just found out my ex is dating an old friend. It's been two weeks since the divorce is final. What do you think?
I am completely happy for him. He is just such a dork that I didn't think he'd hook up with anyone that soon.
We are friends and he's only been my ex for 2weeks. We were married for 10 years.
By the way he emailed me the news...I am not keeping tabs on him.
It was really over nearly a year ago.
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I think the day you got your divorce was the first day of the rest of life.
New year new start new you, its all about you now, time to pick yourself up dust yourself off and start all over again, let his mistake be your beefsteak.
divorce is emotionally draining enough, informing you of his new partner maybe his way of draining you a little more, after 10 years i am sure he knows how to pull your strings, if he was truly your friend he would realise sending that email would not be a good thing, regardless of what he says it is clear HE is hurting, otherwise he would have kept his new found affair to himself, especially as she is, as you put it "an old friend". unfortunately some of us divorce but find it difficult to let go, i think he has a bruised ego. my advise "take time out to rebuild your life", he is yesterday's newspaper.
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Sorry to hear that...
Dealing with a divorce is never easy. Even if it ended on really bad terms and infidelity or other emotional (or sometimes physical) abuse was involved. You have to give yourself time to get used to being single and unfortunately it is not as easy as "get over it".
I imagine you probably feel betrayed right now, perhaps rightly so, but you will have to deal with it as best as you can right now. I would suggest talking to someone in confidence about it. There are TRAINED therapists, who specialise in after divorce counseling. You should consider a few sessions. NOT because of any other reason, sometimes it helps to talk things out with someone. Check with your health insurance provider. Most will pay for 6 sessions outright and up to 12 sessions at 60%.
Good luck with everythying and don't worry, what you are feeling is perfectly normal. You have to have time to get over a divorce. Give yourself a break.
CamM
Presumably you didn't decide to divorce 2 weeks ago, so once you decided to, I can't see why either of you can't date. The marriage was obviously finished with.....
(Said with a smile) you may just be feeling a bit of hurt pride.
Edit:
I wonder if "pimps" the counselor jumps to conclusions like this in his/her job? Where does it say that the ex was cheating during the marriage????
Sounds Painful
I think that you should take a deep breath and be happy that your divorce is final. I'm sure it was a terrible ordeal to go through.
NOW, you can move forward in life... and that doesn't include worrying about who your ex is dating. That's all in the past now.
Good Luck.
Anonymous
Oh, believe me. It makes me feel weird when my ex tells me about girls he's dating. In fact, I went over to get some pictures and her coat was hanging on a hanger in the living room.
It was hard to see that, and we were married 10 years too. I felt those feelings of jealousy and stuff, though. Although our marriage was over, it was still weird to think of him moving on.
This shall pass. My ex and I still talk. I think we'll always be friends. Perhaps your ex is trying to get your attention by dating one of your friends. I don't know. But let it go. You'll feel better.
That and you have to. :)