MEN (25-35): Are you longing to get married and have children right now?
I'm a smart, very friendly, attractive 29 year-old female with a good job, yet I've been unable to find a man who wants to get married and have children. I'm not saying I go up to men and ask them this before I date them. I'm saying I end up meeting a man, falling in love him, and then have a difficult time breaking it off when they don't want the same things I do. It's so frustrating. For example, my man right now is so romantic and loveable, and he loves how I take care of him, but he never wants to get married and he's not sure about kids. At 38, I think he knows, but he doesn't want to lose me when he says he doesn't want kids.
Is it my age? Do men in my age range just not want marraige and/or children yet or am I just picking the wrong guys?
All I want is man who will adore me, marry me, and start a family with me - I'm beginning to think that there aren't any men like this.
Anonymous2009-04-21T13:10:59Z
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They are out there, but if those are your plans, you need to let the one you're with now know and that you aren't going to stay around if he doesn't act. If he truly loves you and is your sole mate he will marry you and start a family, if not, you need to determine what you want with your life. If it's marriage and kids, you need to find someone with those goals too.
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I'll answer for my boyfriend since he is 25 and this question suits him perfectly: My boyfriend really wants to get married and have kids before he is 30. I just turned 19 and he wants to marry me in two years and have kids a while after I finish college. I know it is difficult when you fall in love with someone and find out they have different goals than you do and then know you need to break it off, but just keep hoping they'll become who you want them to be. If your boyfriend is 38 and still does not want to get married or have kids and you want to then it is better to find someone else. I think you are just picking the wrong guys because I have known many men who do want to get married and start a family -- even in high school guy friends told me that was a dream of theirs. I have a few suggestions which might help you. I know I am young, but I had a strange life and matured very quickly for my age. What I suggest is to mention early on in the relationship what you want out of it. It IS okay to ask early on whether he has the same plans as you. Just explain that you want to eventually get married and have kids, in general. You don't have to say, "later on in OUR relationship." or anything...just say that and ask him if he wants that too or what not...It is actually better to get big questions out of the way before breaking each others hearts. Another suggestion, as odd as it sounds is to maybe try dating a different type of man: I suggest asian and latino men especially. In their culture, families are very important. I think a latino man will typically be much more respectful, but there are some good asian guys as well (like my boyfriend). Stereotypically white surfer-dude types and ghetto blacks are NOT going to be as good of partners...especially in the black ghetto community cheating and abuse are a lot more common (it's not true for all black men in the ghetto, but it is more common). You could also try dating foreign men...I have only dated foreign men and they are very respectful, educated (the upperclass ones that I dated) handsome, nice, and serious about relationships etc. You might also want to try dating geeky guys...they tend to be more into relationships like you want. Maybe an engineer, computer programmer, robotics person, etc? I agree that your boyfriend knows he doesn't want to get married or have kids and is scared of losing you. I think you deserve to find a man who has the same goals as you, however. If you want to marry and have kids you will need to find someone else. I really hope this helps at least somewhat and you find your prince charming and can have a dream wedding and beautiful children with a handsome and loving husband! I know it is possible. You sound intelligent and goal-oriented so just keep looking. :) Good luck!!!
Come on girl, don't throw in the towel yet. I know that pickings are slim out there, but there are still some good guys, who are family oriented and want a wife and children someday. Some people want it, but don't even know they do, until they have it.
I've talked to some friends, that I never imagined would have kids, and when they did they would say things like "I didn't even know I was ready to be a mother until I held my daughter for the first time"! It's hard to plan a child, but when it happens for you, you sound like you'll be a great Mom. Take care and good luck!
Sweetie just slow down you will find him. Just don't do what i did. I'm married while not for long. I've wanted the something as you for a very long time. Hell I've even prayed for it b4 it happen. But now she wants a divorce because she can have me and a girl friend. I'm 30 and dont have any kids of my own so we are in the same boat. I'm not going to do that again.