Ok so i was planning on going to dinner with my mom but then my friend said she could hang out and i told my mom that i couldnt go to dinner. i feel really bad becuase she was looking forward to going to dinner. should i feel bad?
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Aww, yes a little. Your mom wanted a quality time with you and instead you ditch her for friends? Bad boy.
Anonymous
Victoria, I am sorry to hear that there is a bit of disrespect in your house---but a 33 year old will never move out if mom is dottering and spoiling him---why should he go?? trouble is he will never learn how to peacefully co-exist with a woman on a mature level...what a shame. You are also witnessing a bit of crude disrespectful behavior that comes from being family and living together all these years. To an outsider this all sounds terrible--to you and your brother it is just day to day living. So say no if you have to--he won't explode or turn blue. Relax, be cool, be nice, and good luck-----SMILE
magoo
Yes, you should feel bad. You probably made your Mom's day when you planned to have supper with her and blowing her off to spend time with a friend has got to make her feel sad. She'll probably play it off like it's no big deal, that's what most Moms do.
There will always be opportunities to hang out with friends, but pretty soon (if you haven't already) you'll graduate high school, go away to college and/or move out and get married. Your Mom only has limited opportunities to spend one on one time with her daughter. Face it, no matter how annoying the thought might be, as far as your Mom is concerned, you will always be her little girl.
How about having that meal with Mom and seeing your friend another day? You could even have an early supper with Mom and meet your friend later that night.
Inundated in SF
You should have told your female friend that you'd already made plans with your mom. If she still wanted to hang out with you, maybe you could have gone to dinner with your mom and this friend (2 birds with one stone). Then you wouldn't be in this predicament. It's your mom you hurt; apologize and do something extra nice for her and don't break any more dates with mom unless you have a really good reason. You just have to learn how to tell your friends that you already have a previous appointment (you are a man in demand) so sometimes those last minute things are not going to happen. You didn't even need to tell you female friend that you were going to dinner with your mom; all you needed to say to her was, gee, I'm sorry, I already have plans. Let's get together tomorrow, ok?
Anonymous
I know how you feel. Usually I would just say yes once my friend would say that they could play and I would totally blow off all my plans. So think about how your mom would feel. She probably wants quality time with you. Some people aren't lucky enough to have a parent that wants to actually spend time with them, some people aren't even lucky enough to have parents, think about that. Just explain to your friend the situation. Ask him what he/she thinks. He or she should probably say its fine, go with your mom. If they don't they are trying to do what isn't right for you. Go with your mom. Remember if your having second thoughts then its probably not right. Hope I helped!