I feel bad..should i feel bad?

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Ok..my brother is a 33 year old who still lives here at home..i dont like him because my mother still spoils him (why i dont know) but it makes me mad cuz i am the one ignored..but anyways..a few months ago he asked me to move where i was sitting because he wanted to sit in that room to watch tv..i said "umm no im sitting here..working" (i do my Avon invoices and work etc on my laptop and paperwork..) He said just ok. And then today he did it again..said can i move to the living room cuz he wants to sit here..i said no again..i said "im working here.." and he said ok. But i feel bad :( like if im being a bitc* I never ask anyone to move where their sitting..but i think the tv in his room wasn't working this time also..i dont know,should i feel bad,would you?

try 2 help · Accepted Answer

you shouldn't feel bad.  you were the one that was in the room first.  he should know better than to disrupt someone who is working, you are not being rude, he is.  if his tv isn't working, he should either have it fixed or go buy himself a new one.  remember, this is your home, as well as his, and you shouldn't have to move where you are sitting just because they want your seat where is the respect in that.  i'm sure he would not want you to do that to him.

fire_inur_eyes · Answer

Victoria, I am sorry to hear that there is a bit of disrespect in your house---but a 33 year old will never move out if mom is dottering and spoiling him---why should he go?? trouble is he will never learn how to peacefully co-exist with a woman on a mature level...what a shame. You are also witnessing a bit of crude disrespectful behavior that comes from being family and living together all these years. To an outsider this all sounds terrible--to you and your brother it is just day to day living. So say no if you have to--he won't explode or turn blue.
Relax, be cool, be nice, and good luck-----SMILE

don n · Answer

Since it really wouldn't matter where you were doing your invoices and stuff and the TV in his room wasn't working and the TV in that room was, I would say you were being a spoiled brat.  How old did you say you were?  Sounds like a 10 year old to me.

lil bunny · Answer

your brother is just being petty about the chair and yes he should move out 33 yrs is too old to be a home he probably won't have any independance from being spoiled you shouldn't feel bad he should fell bad as he is ruining your life

Sirah · Answer

Your brother should grow up and stop behaving in that manner.You should not fell bad but you should not give him a chance to behave that way towards you.If one day you agree to move from your sitting position and you do it he will take advantage of you and it is not good.
Try to ask him if he would like you to respect him and if he says yes ask him to respect you first as that's how it works___Respecting each other.

Anonymous · Answer

33 yrs old???????? it's time for him to grow up and move on! You have a right to sit where you want to sit.  Have you tried talking to your Parents about this?

Patti C · Answer

Don't feel bad at all about not moving. He has a lot of nerve to ask.

Anonymous · Answer

No, don't feel bad...you're just setting boundaries as with a two year old...it's all a part of parenting....LOL

Mr. Stealth · Answer

Do one thing............look for a place in your house where you can work with free mind i.e. no one will disturbe you. After this, if he still do this, then you can feel bad. But please choose a place for yourself.

Anonymous · Answer

i woulnt feel bad u were sitting there first

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