20 year old Husband left his 5 month old son and pregnant wife for a 15 year old. Any tips?

Life has become messed up big time for my family and I and I'm not sure if it is even worth it to fix. I have been married to my long time love for a little over a year. We have a 5 month old son and Im pregnant with our second. I am 21 and my husband is 20. Two weeks ago, under stess from life we got into a stoopid fight. A fight about cleaning the room (yeah i know but i said it was stoopid). But during the fight harsh words were said and feelings hurt. My husband didnt come home for 6 days after the fight. But when he did he had found someone new and would only yell at me and ask for a divorse. One night i caught him on the phone with her and i told her how he is married and so on. Then I got her cell number and I called her. She was a real Beach! They both began saying that my son was a mistake. That I need an abortion. That he hates me and loves her. Ect. Wanna know the major kick in the butt?! She is 15. Yeah 15!!! My 20 year old husband left his wife and children for a 15 year old. (His lil sister is 14. That is just gross.) They are both mad cause I told him that I would not kill my child for his pleasure. I dont understand why he is like this now. Is this just a sick fase he is going through? Is it even worth trying to fix? I have to deal with divorse, cheating, his/her bs, a 5 month old baby, pregnancy, bills, money, and work all by myself. He lost his job and license so i dnt get any help from him. And any money he dose get goes to her. He wants me to give full custidy of our son to him (yeah right!!). Any tips? I know he is gonna beg to come back when they break up. And for some reason he thinks that Im out with a new man and yells at me about it saying my new man can raise his son. Is my husband just throwing a Beach fit cause his feelings got hurt in the fight or is he just a Dead Beat?

Anonymous2009-04-26T12:46:45Z

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He is a pedophile and you should call the cops on his nasty a$$...you should also tell the girls parents.

If I were you I would divorce ASAP and make sure you get child support from him. Do you really want a pedophile around your kids?

Bob D2009-04-26T12:29:15Z

Judging from all of your misspelled words, you not very well educated and probably don't make much money, which really puts you in tough situation. The others are correct, he is a loser and very selfish, throw him out, see if your parents will let you move back in until you can get your life straighten out. Men are great to have around to help you raise your family, but men who are just donating sperm, but not willing to help out with all of the other things that it takes to raise a family and be a daddy, aren't real men.

If you have access to his phone, pull his text messages, any photos, etc... from his records and take those to the police (may need to contact the phone company directly for some of this information). What he is doing (if he is having sex) is illegal and he should go to jail. All he is doing is messing up another girls life like he did with you. I wouldn't be too upset with the 15 year old, she just isn't old enough to understand what is going on. To her this is just like a junior high crush (by the way, where are her parents in all of this)?

Good luck, and remember to turn to your family they are going to be even more important now that you have another child on the way!

?2016-04-05T09:17:19Z

The two of you are so young and just starting out, where do you see this type of cheating behavior leading. I am totally disgusted to hear the child he was screwing was only 15 I am surprised some family member of hers has not paid your husband a little visit. I would take my baby and get the HELL away from him, he is a immature (the 15 yr proved that) lying, cheating, sleazy, low life. If you stay be prepared to put up with more of this type of crap.

Liz2014-12-09T01:58:00Z

You know that a 15-year-old child is being raped and you are NOT calling the cops on your pedophile husband? Wow. Just wow. It's ALL about you, isn't it.

Nothing But Time2009-04-26T12:44:04Z

It sounds like he really doesn't love you and that he just loves being with someone and you are replaceable to him. The hardest thing about going through my divorce was accepting that I wasn't the love of his life and that I was replaceable (and I was replaced quicker than you were) You need to be strong for your children and if you leave him, you need to just leave him and be done. Don't sit and linger with him and keep the drama going with the other girl. she knows you're there and have kids and doesn't respect your vows of matrimony so just back off her all together. It's HIS fault. He's the one who chose to be with her and she knows about you too so it's HER fault too....Hopefully you can get out of this situation and I promise you will fine love again. I married my sweetheart and he broke my heart and now I'm with another guy who treats me even better.

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