ok this may or may not sound weird but im only trying to do the rite thing for the baby..
I am preggers with my second girl..i knew i wasn't ready but i decided to not go with the abortion...to give her a chance at life...i was going to give it for adoption but i talked to the father and he is willing to adopt the baby.. here's the crazy thing..he's married..but just to clear it he was not when i met him...they met eachother after we broke up because this was all unplanned..they got together when i was 1 month pregnant.. shes a great person to..raised up as a christian and her parents are preachers and sunday school techers..they have there own nursery there for the baby because they both work.. well back to the main point i was wanting to sign over my rights to them and let her adopt the baby.. this is one of the most hardest things i've ever had to decide i would just like some good advice on what people think
please no rude comments i'm only trying to do whats best for the baby..
2009-05-06T20:28:44Z
and yes they are willing to let me stay a pert of the babys life
Take A Test!2009-05-06T20:27:28Z
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He's the father and he doesn't need to adopt his own child. If you want to sign over all rights and allow him sole custody you can do that. Then, if he chooses to have his wife adopt the baby, that's between them, he wouldn't need your permission or anything. Consult with a family law attorney to see exactly how this would all work.
If you do this, there is no "starting fresh". You will never forget this and you can never take it back. Should you decide to keep the child, you will qualify for government aid and it sounds like you are a responsible, Intelligent person who has came from a very difficult situation. If you got through that, then you can get though this. If you dont want to terminate then please dont. Even if you do, this man could still walk away at anytime. Will he be there if you decide to keep it? That should tell you if he is in this for the long haul. You should know that you can never depend on anyone but yourself. This is your child too and it is depending on you to protect it. This child's heart beats because of you please dont be the reason it stops.
well honestly if your not ready to be a mom again and the baby's dad wants her then id let him and his wife have her. i don't think its a bad idea to do that, and i understand its hard for you. i couldn't imagine doing that with my daughter but if its right for you then i think that's perfectly fine. i myself was adopted when i was little and it was the best thing. you could always ask if you could know some about her even though you sign over your rights if they are willing to do that for you if it'll make it any easier idk. good luck with trying to figure everything out.
That is a awesome thing for you to do! You are a very unselfish person, you knew what was best for you and for the baby! =) People like you make me SMILE! I know it will be hard for you to do but, keep in mind if thats whats best you know what you have to do. Best Luck with everything