im pregnant and the father wants the baby?

He's the father and he doesn't need to adopt his own child. If you want to sign over all rights and allow him sole custody you can do that. Then, if he chooses to have his wife adopt the baby, that's between them, he wouldn't need your permission or anything. Consult with a family law attorney to see exactly how this would all work.

If you do this, there is no "starting fresh". You will never forget this and you can never take it back. Should you decide to keep the child, you will qualify for government aid and it sounds like you are a responsible, Intelligent person who has came from a very difficult situation. If you got through that, then you can get though this. If you dont want to terminate then please dont. Even if you do, this man could still walk away at anytime. Will he be there if you decide to keep it? That should tell you if he is in this for the long haul. You should know that you can never depend on anyone but yourself. This is your child too and it is depending on you to protect it. This child's heart beats because of you please dont be the reason it stops.

Adoption is a wonderful thing :) I'm adopted. What is your question exactly? If the baby will have a good life with them, go for it.

well honestly if your not ready to be a mom again and the baby's dad wants her then id let him and his wife have her. i don't think its a bad idea to do that, and i understand its hard for you. i couldn't imagine doing that with my daughter but if its right for you then i think that's perfectly fine. i myself was adopted when i was little and it was the best thing. you could always ask if you could know some about her even though you sign over your rights if they are willing to do that for you if it'll make it any easier idk. good luck with trying to figure everything out.

That is a awesome thing for you to do! You are a very unselfish person, you knew what was best for you and for the baby! =) People like you make me SMILE! I know it will be hard for you to do but, keep in mind if thats whats best you know what you have to do. Best Luck with everything

I think it would be awesome if you let them adopt her. If shes a christian and you think that she would have a good life, go for it!

Well if you believe they are good people, then I don't see why adoption would be better for the baby..

sorry if my answer sounds blunt..

That sounds like a great idea. Why wouldn't you want the father to raise her?

I would definitely talk it over with a social worker and proceed with a lawyer.

As a parent you do have rights to see your child.

Thanks for caring about human life.

well i would want to be in the babies life to even if he is the father.