Is it a bad idea for a 15yr old girl to be an exotic dancer?

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I would say NO to this but, as you stated, you are in a fix and that can cause lots of stress. IF you take this job, I HOPE you know womeone who can keep an eye on you for safe-keeping so that when your shift finishes, he or she is there to give you a ride home. I know the nite life and have been there musically but its the same thing. Whether , its a bar and all kinds of people hang there.

I know of one girl who does it because she has to support her child and her stupid boyfriend left her. She had the looks and at least, when the shift was finished, she disappeared and quickly. Locked the doors to her car and went home. She did it for 6 months to get here so she put enough money on the side.

Play safe. I am not suggesting to take it but , without a dad, and without other income, eviction is a pain in the BUT. From experience, make sure you have GOOD friends to take you home. That is all I say.

Even if we tell you don't do it, you are in a fix so exceptions are allowed. Like I said, I knew this 16 yrs old who got false ID and the owner of the club respected her and made sure she w3as safe. But HEY. That is ONE club owner among others.

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Okay, so I get where you're coming from. Not that I've ever been in this situation, but I can only imagine how terrible it must be.

Now I do NOT think you should take this job. I know you might be wanting more positive opinions at this point but that's how I feel. ( I am 14, will be 15 in December so I'm about your age). Although I feel this way, I know you are NOT a slut or anything. I think it's great you would go the extra mile to help out, but I really think that you should go the extra mile by doing a different job...even if the exotic dancing pays ALOT.

And it might get harder and harder to keep lying to your mom. Even if you are just saying its 'another job', she might wonder why you are getting paid so much more extra than a teen would be getting paid with a regular minimum wage job. Plus, there are always problems with regular jobs, but problems may occur even more with this type of job.

So this is my opinion, but I say good luck with whatever your decision is.

Hope I helped, and I hope everything starts getting better.

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Take it from someone who has worked as a bouncer in some of the nicest, and some of the worst strip clubs. At 15 you are in no way prepared for the type of people, situations, and dangers you will face every day. As safe as the place may look, or as safe as they tell you it may be. The bouncer can not protect you from every danger in the establishment, and if you get caught, and they are shut down. The bouncer certainly can't protect you from the owner, and management. Remember they know where you live. I know that you think that this won't effect you mentally, and maybe you are right, but if it does there is now way to un-ring that bell. And if something, god forbid,worse should happen. You will never be the same again. I was 15 once and I know that you will probably do it. Just make sure that at the first sign of trouble you get out, and get out fast. Good Luck, you're going to need it....Show more

First of all, ignore all of those idiots who are calling you an idiot. People, this is to give advice, not to beat up on people who ask difficult questions.

I do understand that this is a very hard situation, considering that you need the money, and this "job" pays well, but I would recommend not doing it.

I know you've expressed that you and your mom really need the money, but is money worth lowering your self worth, lying to your mom, and just totally degrading yourself? I know that it won't pay as much, but try to find another job. A job that isn't inappropriate and won't lower your self worth. That you wouldn't be embarassed to put on a resume.

There are plenty of jobs out there- plenty of them. I'm sure you could find one, really. You could even babysit, since you're fifteen and people would most likely trust you with their children. Even McDonald's or Burger King would be better. Working at Starbucks is good, too.

Or maybe try to find a job that you would like doing. If you like dancing, try to be a dance teacher, or a dance teacher's assistant. If you like horses, try to find a job at a stable. Do you get what I'm saying?

However, if you do take the "job," be careful. Be sure that you don't drink while you're there, or don't let anybody do anything that feels wronger than what you're already doing to you.

All in all, I hope you don't take the job, but I wish you luck, whatever you choose. I'm sure that you're a beautiful girl and will succeed at whatever you do....Show more

If you thought that someone asking you if you were flexible was a creepy question... then wait till you start dancing.

No, you should not take the job as an exotic dancer. At 15 you may feel older, but you are still very young. Men will not respect you and neither will your boss. You could be drugged, molested, tricked into doing sexual favors, and even worse: raped. It makes me sick even thinking about what could happen to a young teenager like you. Do NOT get yourself caught up in such a sick world. The sickest men go to places like that, and anything horrible can happen to you.

I'd rather be homeless than put myself in a position to be raped. Becoming an exotic dancer is asking for trouble.

Good luck with paying your bills, I know how hard it is because I do it all on my own with two jobs. But what you want to do is deifnitely not okay, its horrifying....Show more