Is it a bad idea for a 15yr old girl to be an exotic dancer?

I would say NO to this but, as you stated, you are in a fix and that can cause lots of stress. IF you take this job, I HOPE you know womeone who can keep an eye on you for safe-keeping so that when your shift finishes, he or she is there to give you a ride home. I know the nite life and have been there musically but its the same thing. Whether , its a bar and all kinds of people hang there.

I know of one girl who does it because she has to support her child and her stupid boyfriend left her. She had the looks and at least, when the shift was finished, she disappeared and quickly. Locked the doors to her car and went home. She did it for 6 months to get here so she put enough money on the side.

Play safe. I am not suggesting to take it but , without a dad, and without other income, eviction is a pain in the BUT. From experience, make sure you have GOOD friends to take you home. That is all I say.

Even if we tell you don't do it, you are in a fix so exceptions are allowed. Like I said, I knew this 16 yrs old who got false ID and the owner of the club respected her and made sure she w3as safe. But HEY. That is ONE club owner among others.

Good Luck.

Okay, so I get where you're coming from. Not that I've ever been in this situation, but I can only imagine how terrible it must be.

Now I do NOT think you should take this job. I know you might be wanting more positive opinions at this point but that's how I feel. ( I am 14, will be 15 in December so I'm about your age). Although I feel this way, I know you are NOT a slut or anything. I think it's great you would go the extra mile to help out, but I really think that you should go the extra mile by doing a different job...even if the exotic dancing pays ALOT.

And it might get harder and harder to keep lying to your mom. Even if you are just saying its 'another job', she might wonder why you are getting paid so much more extra than a teen would be getting paid with a regular minimum wage job. Plus, there are always problems with regular jobs, but problems may occur even more with this type of job.

So this is my opinion, but I say good luck with whatever your decision is.

Hope I helped, and I hope everything starts getting better.

:)

Take it from someone who has worked as a bouncer in some of the nicest, and some of the worst strip clubs. At 15 you are in no way prepared for the type of people, situations, and dangers you will face every day. As safe as the place may look, or as safe as they tell you it may be. The bouncer can not protect you from every danger in the establishment, and if you get caught, and they are shut down. The bouncer certainly can't protect you from the owner, and management. Remember they know where you live. I know that you think that this won't effect you mentally, and maybe you are right, but if it does there is now way to un-ring that bell. And if something, god forbid,worse should happen. You will never be the same again. I was 15 once and I know that you will probably do it. Just make sure that at the first sign of trouble you get out, and get out fast. Good Luck, you're going to need it.

First of all, ignore all of those idiots who are calling you an idiot. People, this is to give advice, not to beat up on people who ask difficult questions.

I do understand that this is a very hard situation, considering that you need the money, and this "job" pays well, but I would recommend not doing it.

I know you've expressed that you and your mom really need the money, but is money worth lowering your self worth, lying to your mom, and just totally degrading yourself? I know that it won't pay as much, but try to find another job. A job that isn't inappropriate and won't lower your self worth. That you wouldn't be embarassed to put on a resume.

There are plenty of jobs out there- plenty of them. I'm sure you could find one, really. You could even babysit, since you're fifteen and people would most likely trust you with their children. Even McDonald's or Burger King would be better. Working at Starbucks is good, too.

Or maybe try to find a job that you would like doing. If you like dancing, try to be a dance teacher, or a dance teacher's assistant. If you like horses, try to find a job at a stable. Do you get what I'm saying?

However, if you do take the "job," be careful. Be sure that you don't drink while you're there, or don't let anybody do anything that feels wronger than what you're already doing to you.

All in all, I hope you don't take the job, but I wish you luck, whatever you choose. I'm sure that you're a beautiful girl and will succeed at whatever you do.

If you thought that someone asking you if you were flexible was a creepy question... then wait till you start dancing.

No, you should not take the job as an exotic dancer. At 15 you may feel older, but you are still very young. Men will not respect you and neither will your boss. You could be drugged, molested, tricked into doing sexual favors, and even worse: raped. It makes me sick even thinking about what could happen to a young teenager like you. Do NOT get yourself caught up in such a sick world. The sickest men go to places like that, and anything horrible can happen to you.

I'd rather be homeless than put myself in a position to be raped. Becoming an exotic dancer is asking for trouble.

Good luck with paying your bills, I know how hard it is because I do it all on my own with two jobs. But what you want to do is deifnitely not okay, its horrifying.

Man you have been through a lot:( i am so sorry:( well this is just my opinion but i think what you are doing is going to help out if it pays a lot and as long as you don't get prego or let guys fool around nasty with you then it would be ok. Don't let other people tell you what is right cuz they have no idea wat you have been through and how you really need the money to help out your mom. I would go for it, but if another job comes up that pays good i would take it instead only cuz i wouldnt want to work there for ever. I have a friend that has been through stuff like that, to the point to where she ran away three time to me. I don't know wat it is like but i do know that it is hard for a single parent to make enough money to take care of her children and pay bills, so don't listen to people that call you a slut just cuz of the job you have cuz i bet you are a good person that is just trying to help her mom;)

Well I didn't read all the other answers so don't mind me if I'm repeating them, but I assume most people were being very condescending to you about your question.

Before I tell you yes or no, I feel you should know a few things

1. You are very young so be prepared!! You have to lie about your age and don't tell ANYONE what you're doing or else charges could be brought against a lot of people and that would make everything worse

2. You probably shouldn't have even wrote the name of the club on here because one of the not-so-open minded people on here probably won't hesitate to report them for hiring minors if they know where that club is, and again you don't want anyone to get in trouble

3. Jenna Jameson starting working at a strip club when she was 16 I believe and some , I'm not saying to turn into a porn star, but it does show that not all people turn into drug addicts and losers if they start stripping at a young age.

Not to mention countless other celebrities and whatnot have used it as a stepping stone, Now again I'm not saying "do it because famous people have" I'm just pointing out not easily recognized examples of people who did it and got out. (I could always tell you 'I have a friend who did, now she has a good job at a bank', but you don't know her so that probably means nothing)

4. Don't ever do any "extras"...once you get in to that habit it's all down hill

5. Make sure the club isn't too dirty, you want to be safe..a bouncer should always walk you out and management should always be there for you if you have a problem.

6. Don't think this will be a career, stay in school, go to college, and save as much money as you possibly can.

7. Have a whole fake life planned out so when guys ask you personal questions, you can be ready, like never ever tell them where you live.

8. I'm assuming you don't have a car, so walking is going to make things a million times more dangerous for you

I could probably go on, but I'll save you the time, and just say this...

Do one shift to see if you're comfortable. If you do decide to do it, set your boundaries and never cross them.

And do not stay long, do it until you get the money you need and get out, it's not like you can write it on a resume or anything, it's not going to be beneficial for you.

It's definitely a bad idea, but I understand how things are, so I hope you go in with a clear head and listen when others try to help you out.

Good luck with everything

oh and find that club on this site, it'll have some review and whatnot that may help you help..

http://www.tuscl.net/

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I forgot to say this before, I noticed another girl mentioned it so I figured I'd say it again do not drink! Even tell the bartender before your shift when you order something to make it with just soda or redbull, so the guy thinks your drinking and the club will be happy because they're making that extra money and not using the alcohol.

Guys will use alcohol to try and take advantage (also if they knew your young age, that's another way they'll think they can get more out of you)

don't do it

i am a guy anyway but u are gonna ruin ur life and ur future

don't u think about what gonna happen in the future

u can't get married

and if u did and u got sons they will get a lot of troubles

there are things that u meet them along ur road and u can take them or not

later u will choose no and u will regret it

i am not gonna talk so much but don't u think that ur mother won't be happy of ur help?

if u help like that it can even lead that ur mother would refuse ur help and hate u

if ur mother don't care about u then she wouldn't take care of u until u are 15 years old

this is not a good way to thank her

i am a conservative guy from a conservative country

and i am telling u that this will ruin u and ur family and u are gonna suffer

get a job as a waitress and u know, if u are creative u can make stuff(knitting and crochet)

better than working as an exotic dancer u can start a beautiful hobby for u, bead making

and u can sell it

i know that u are in a hard time but believe me don't do it

good luck

I'm 15 also, I know what you are going threw my mom and older sister and I got kicked out more then once. I understand why you are doing this. When I get outa school I was thinking about doing somthing like that to earn money for college. With your problem I think you should do what your heart tells you. If you do take the job you should tell your mom, even thogh she might say or do things she must love you and you her.BE CAREFULL! Good luck

I hate to repeat everyone else, but YES . . . it is an extremely bad idea for a 15 year old to be an exotic dancer. So . . . you're not going to tell your mom. You think she's going to let you stay out all night every night? She's going to wonder where you're getting the money. Hate to break it to you babe, but we moms are not THAT stupid!

I know your in a tough situation right now, but there is help out there. Don't throw your life away. Stick it out, stay in school. Things will get better . . . remember: the night is always darkest just before dawn.