How Do I deal With IDIOTS?!?

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Alright...

So pretty much, I'm a guy in high school. That speaks volumes about the kind of things that I'm experiencing right now, and I probably don't even need to go further into explanation. But I will, just because I know you all want me to...

Essentially, I get along with most people in my class, and in my grade. However, every years, there's a group of somewhere between 1 and 5 people that just consistently piss me off for various reasons. Right now, there seems to be only one kid that's been doing that this year. He's some sophomore kid in my math class (I retook Algebra I my freshman year because math is not my strong point at all), and just keeps blurting out crap about me, virtually every time I say something. He's also in my German class, and occasionally says moronic stuff in there as well. 

I don't really know why this idiot is centering in on me - I'm a bit different in the fact that I actually have a brain, and use it. I argue a lot with my math teacher because I don't think that the probability formulas and problems we do are at all accurate and realistic, but that's about it. I mostly just talk with the people at my table, and not the people where this kid is, on the other side of the room. 

I almost wrung his neck because of a stupid comment he made about my hair - for some reason, we got into a discussion on that subject, and I mentioned that I spend a bit more time than average on my hair than most guys, and he said it was "time wasted" or something. I have no idea where that comment came from, and I have no idea why he decided to butt into the conversation that people in my area were having. I'm a relatively self-conscious person, so that only pissed me off. It's nothing major, but he just keeps throwing in his obnoxious little two cents worth EVERY time I've said something the last two weeks, and it's just been making me more and more angry. I'm normally a nice and polite person, though I can have a House-ish sense of humour - but I always make sure people know I'm just kidding with them. In all honesty, I don't even think I've uttered a single sentence to this kid. 

In my German class, he made some idiot comment about me being a "gangster" because my pants had a lot of zippers on them - I shop at Express, for God's sake, I don't know how virtually anything there can be counted as "gangster". Maybe he could say that if I was wearing FuBu stuff, or South Pole, but I wouldn't be caught dead wearing that trash. And he was over there today, sitting in baggy shorts wearing a stereotypical wankster DC "gangsta" shirt with his hoody up. 

So I'd really like to just knock his teeth in. But there's a wee bit of a problem - I've been on probation for about a year, and most people don't know it. I used a firearm to rob a large number of houses, stole cars, etc. Relatively dumb period in my life, and I got arrested after I got emotional and angry - I have a tendency to let my emotions get the better of me when I'm angry, and I've been trying to repress those stupid decision making processes. This kid thinks he's badass or something because he can talk trash to somebody that'll be locked up if they do anything - he doesn't know that, of course, and I don't really want him to. I'm not proud of what I did, but honestly... I don't see what kind of idiot would talk like he does to someone they don't even know, especially when if they had asked about me, they'd've found out that if I'd been a year or so older at the time of my arrest, I'd've gone to prison for well over 60 years, for the events of about one night. 

I've gotten over all that, and I actually care about other people now. I'm a socialist - whether you agree with that or not, I don't care. But I care about the welfare and well-being of other people, and now certainly think there's something twisted about stealing from working class people - not that I'd really steal or rob at all any more. 

I want to close this up, before I ramble off track, however. Summed up, I just want to know what to do or say to shut this dick up. I'm not a big or scary muscly guy or anything, but I honestly don't know what I'd be capable of if I had a hold of a ballpoint pen and went out of control. Not to sound tough or anything, but really... 

I know everyone just says to punch kids that do stuff like this, but in my case, I can't. Alternatives, anyone?

Michael Darnell · Accepted Answer

You have an amazing level of insight for a guy your age. You may feel the need to do something about him but really there is no need. You don't need to get even with this kid, he's just playing adolescent male dominance games, trying to establish his place in the social order of the local troupe of monkeys. It may well be that he considers you to be a competitor, for potential mates, or simply for attention. 

If you feel like you want revenge or whatever just remember what Ghandi said; "an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind..."

The "House" style remarks are just teasing him into making more stupid comments, if you have to interact with him in those terms keep in mind he's just a patient, not another doctor, and whatever else he might say or do, house would not taunt a quadriplegic to run, so if you dont have compassion for this idiot at least have the class not to kick him when he's already down... even if he hasn't figured it out yet.

Empathist · Answer

Confront him about it. Tell him to stop. Make it a big deal about it in class. Tell him it's either stop it, or we're going to have to do something more than trade words about it. If he replies with a question that it's a threat, tell him it's a fact; a quote from John Wayne...

With all seriousness, be straight with him and tell him there's going to be a fight starting if he doesn't stop. You mustn't be afraid of engaging in a fight, because if you're not afraid or hesitant, then the other person will be afraid to contend with you. If you stand up to him and he just laughs it off, get up very close to him and look at him with a serious face. You will break the joker's mask off.

I had to deal with the same thing in my Algebra 1 class. I'm taking it for review as a senior. One sophomore kept throwing paper balls at my back, so I stood up, turned to the student, and yelled with a very angry and half-crazy-im-going-to-fight-you-after class voice. The boy took it seriously and stopped it. I interrupted the entire class and made a big scene, and the teacher Didn't Do A Thing.

It's all how you deal with the situation and what the situation is like. It is You that must show that you won't take lip service from someone who wants to get under your skin. 

Good luck.

Anonymous · Answer

first of you are dilling with people that wore given a title probably just to shut them up. Second you and your captain go walking threw the yard with out your safety gear on and send a curtain person home. It don't fix the problem but you know it would be fun.

Anonymous · Answer

*mouth drop* wow...that was...interesting, the most uneek thing i've read all day. ok you have three choses at this moment.
1)one he is gay, and he likes you
2) trying to show off
3) has an obsession on you, like wants to be friends, and buds or something.

either way it's weired. lol, maybe you should tell them you went to jail, scare them a bit. lol but that would be bad, hm, have you told a teacher? lol, wow you sound like a intence person,

Anonymous · Answer

surprisingly, i actually did read all of that lol because you sound like an intelligent and cool guy.
i know it's hard, but try and ignore this idiot. he probably just wants attention. don't let it get to you and give him that "shut the f*ck up you're a ********" look

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